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Is he bad news??

  • 13-03-2009 12:55pm
    #1
    blondiegirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20 ✭


    There is this guy, i dated him 6 years ago on and off for a year and a half. thing is anytime we are single we hook up now when i mean hook up i mean snog/kiss etc (i dont do one night stands not ever) We always end up together, for the past couple of months we have been meeting up and he is contantly telling me loves me and we will get married eventually and asking me to weddings etc. but i just cant trust him. I was 16 when we first started going out and he two timed me on numerous occasions and wasnt nice. As soon as i had a steady boyfriend he started ringing and ringing. I am single now but can i ever trust him again?Is he just bored and waiting for something better to come along? Are we meant to be we have been hooking up on and off for the last 6 years that must mean something?? Help!


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  • #2
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    The answer is in your own thoughts about him actually.
    You are 22 then ? you are no longer the kid you were at 16 so don't be playing kids games.
    Have the discussion face to face.Let him know what you want out of it and if you don't like the answer move on.

    It's simple really.


  • #3
    jim o doom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,474 ✭✭✭jim o doom


    well it certainly means there is a physical attraction between ye, but it may not mean anything else.

    People do grow up and change - but you have to ask yourself - is that the case with him? you could always give him a chance - but if you do, you must decide to be wary.


  • #4
    Otis Driftwood
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    blondiegirl wrote: »
    There is this guy, i dated him 6 years ago on and off for a year and a half. thing is anytime we are single we hook up now when i mean hook up i mean snog/kiss etc (i dont do one night stands not ever) We always end up together, for the past couple of months we have been meeting up and he is contantly telling me loves me and we will get married eventually and asking me to weddings etc. but i just cant trust him. I was 16 when we first started going out and he two timed me on numerous occasions and wasnt nice. As soon as i had a steady boyfriend he started ringing and ringing. I am single now but can i ever trust him again?Is he just bored and waiting for something better to come along? Are we meant to be we have been hooking up on and off for the last 6 years that must mean something?? Help!

    It sounds like you should cut him out of your life altogether,for a while at least.Stop "hooking up" with,dont call or text and dont respond to his.Maybe he has changed but you said yourself
    he two timed me on numerous occasions and wasnt nice

    Once could be forgivible,twice at a stretch but numerous times,not for me.

    Take a break and see if he is as keen in 2 or 3 months.Your post does seem to suggest that he only wants you when he cant have you,ie calling constantly when you are seeing someone.


  • #5
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    nedtheshed wrote: »
    ...Once could be forgivible,twice at a stretch but numerous times,not for me...

    Generally, yes it's a no brainer but one of my best friends was the biggest fecker you ever saw at 16/17 but at 20 he ended up in a blissfully happy faithful relationship that has continued for 6 years now. Who remains the same person that they were in their teens??

    OP, you can go a long way to answering the question by asking yourself, 'am I 100% sure that he respects me?'. If the answer is yes, then give it a go if you want but there's still no guarantee. If you can't be sure, then he very well might be after a F*** buddy situation.


  • #6
    star-pants
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,429 ✭✭✭✭star-pants


    Deleted User wrote: »
    You are 22 then ? you are no longer the kid you were at 16 so don't be playing kids games.
    Have the discussion face to face.Let him know what you want out of it and if you don't like the answer move on.

    Agreed - if it's a case you like him and want to try a proper relationship and you're over his past discrepancies then sit him down and talk it out. See what he really wants too.


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  • #7
    blondiegirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20 ✭blondiegirl


    Thanks for the speedy replies..I am 25 that 6 should have been a 9, we have been hooking up for 9 years on and off..I think he may have changed by now he is 30 now time to start copping on. He has had a good few girlfriends but has always maintained i was the only one he ever cared for, all of his relationships failed within 1 month max. people make relationship mistakes i was his first proper girlfriend he was 21 at da time and a bit crazy. Not a day goes by that he doesnt make contact and believe me its not because he cant get other women, he is super popular with women. I have tried to stay clear and not answer his calls but it doesnt work. Something keeps pulling us back together and i suppose i will have to give it a try. I am frightened tho last time he broke my heart it took me 3 years to get over him, it was the hardest thing i have ever done.
    Wish me luck :)


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