Gay or not??

blondiegirl

Hey my best friend is a 25 year old girl living with her partner in Cork. They have been together for 3 years and are due to get married next year..

Thing is lately she has been feeling like maybe her partner is gay. He doesn’t act gay he is one of the ‘boys’ although he does do a lot of shopping and is very interested in what clothes he wears. He has this friend who works for them. His friends has a weird obsession with her partner he buys all the same things trying to be like him. His friend spends 7 nights a week at their pub and she is rarely there, he wont ho home until her partner goes home, which is weird I think. A few weeks ago her partner got a message from his friend telling him he loved him, which is very strange but her partner said it was down to his father dying and he was in a weird place.

She just doesnt know she had just gotton over the message when last week his friend went into their home while they were both at work thinking nobody was there but I happened to be there, he went straight upstairs and came down carrying a plastic bag. When she rang him he said he had collected something for her partner which her partner denies. How firstly did his friend have a key?Her partner must have gave it to him and he isn’t even mad and he wont talk about it to my friend. My friend had to fire his friend..My best frind doesnt know im writing this but i am really worried about her, help?

shellyboo

So you think your friend's partner might be gay because of the way his friend is behaving? Don't quite see your logic. Perhaps this guy has an obsession with your mate's fiance, but that doesn't make the fiance gay.

star-pants

Leaving the whole sexuality issue to one side, there's a communication issue with your friend & her fiance. This guy had access to their house and just walked in & collected stuff and left, stating the fiance asked him to collect it. Not overly weird by itself, but the fact that her fiance is saying he didn't give a key and didn't ask him to collect something strikes me as downright odd. And he's refusing to talk about it?
I'd want to know if my OH was giving someone keys to our house.

Your friend needs to sit down with her fiance and ask him did he or did he not give this guy a key & permission to enter the house.

cantdecide

There could be a key planked outside somewhere that he was told about. A couple of close friends know where my spare key is.

I can't see much to make me overly concerned about them having an affair just yet. If they were, wouldn't they more to hide it??? The friend might have a crush but that doens't make them both gay and in a relationship...

LegacyUser

It was my friend who started to think her partner was gay and she has me nearly convinced. He def gave a key to his friend and yet he is denying it and is refusing to speak about it. There is no spare key left anywhere only my friend and her partner have a key. Also they only have sex maybe once a month and she feels like it is more of a chore for him than anything else..

Stheno

blondiegirl wrote: »

Thing is lately she has been feeling like maybe her partner is gay. He doesn’t act gay he is one of the ‘boys’ although he does do a lot of shopping and is very interested in what clothes he wears. He has this friend who works for them. His friends has a weird obsession with her partner he buys all the same things trying to be like him. His friend spends 7 nights a week at their pub and she is rarely there, he wont ho home until her partner goes home, which is weird I think. A few weeks ago her partner got a message from his friend telling him he loved him, which is very strange but her partner said it was down to his father dying and he was in a weird place.

She just doesnt know she had just gotton over the message when last week his friend went into their home while they were both at work thinking nobody was there but I happened to be there, he went straight upstairs and came down carrying a plastic bag. When she rang him he said he had collected something for her partner which her partner denies. How firstly did his friend have a key?Her partner must have gave it to him and he isn’t even mad and he wont talk about it to my friend. My friend had to fire his friend..My best frind doesnt know im writing this but i am really worried about her, help?

The fact he does a lot of shopping and is interested in clothes is not really much of a basis for thinking he's gay

And it sounds like his friend is more of an issue than anything else.

blondiegirl

Ya i think it is more of a case that his friend is the one with the crush. My friend obviously has issues with her partner but she is not sure what exactly. Thanks for replies