Boy trouble

LegacyUser

I've got a problem with my bodyshape. I am 22 now, when I was growing up I always felt I was lucky as I have a slim waist and a full chest. Now I am interested in having a long term relationship. Trouble is although I have no problems meeting men, when I do they are so fixated on my boobs. Things go well at the start they are considerate and sweet. Then they fixate on getting me out of my bra. That's fine I'm not a prude and enjoy sex. The trouble is I feel like to these men I'm lost behind my boobs. The last guy could spend an age just feeling them looking like a deer in headlights. Should I just look for men who arn't into boobs (do they exist??) or what? I have other aspects that men find attractive (I'm fairly smart and can make people laugh). Can any girls share a similar experience?

Wibbs

Well FWIW I'm not a boob man. At all. I can think of quite a few men who aren't so keep looking.

prinz

Are you sure this is not something you have a feeling with yourself? You are obviously self-conscious regarding your breasts, they sound great so try not to be. Frankly no matter what a girls boobs look like I pretty sure I always appear to be a deer in headlights :eek:. Is there any reason you think the guys you were with thought any less of you? I tend to be more drawn to girls with smaller busts. Everyone's different. Don't dwell on it. That said meeting someone for the first time, and they happen to be well-endowed up top, it can be quite distracting and hormones get the better of most men. I like my girls feet and hands, dont know why thats just the way it is. I have found myself basically staring at her hands. Weird.

cantdecide

I am a card carrying boob guy but I wouldn't want to be seen as being lecherous about it. If it makes you uncomfortable, show your disapproval. Trust me though. The girl who they belong to is far more important so don't let it get to you.

kevmy

Well there are lots of guys who could be interested in both you and your boobs.

I think this is more of an issue in finding the right guy than an issue with your boobs. If a guy likes you then he likes you but if your not looking for anything serious then guys may be just interested in your looks

tbh

are you talking about guys you hook up with, or guys you've been seeing for a while suddenly going boob-crazy? In either case, and no offense, but it sounds like you need to tighten your filters a little bit.

dublinpd

If you dress like you want to enphasise your boobs, of course, you'll get attention on it.
For me, is more on the face and body language. I need to see something else, smiling or even the way that you look.
But of course I'm not blind and pay attention at many things.