Am i being stupid?

LegacyUser

I've been going out with my girlfriend 7 months now and love her completely. We started going out over the summer and we spent every day together for nearly a month and a half until school came back in september and whenever we weren't with each other we'd be texting. Like it would be unusual not to reply to each other within about 10-15 mins.

Obviously when we got back to school we were more busy and were texting slightly less and then i'm like an hours journey from her so it was harder to see her and her parents are very strict too. So it is now that i can only see her once maybe twice a week for a few hours. When I'm with her she seems perfectly happy and its really nice.

Gradually though she's started texting less and now there can be hours at a time when she doesn't reply to a text (without saying what she was doing or sorry) and you can't really have a conversation anymore. She seems to text other people just as much as me or slightly more. I miss talking to her constantly and i really liked just knowing what was going on in her head and just talking about anything.

I brought it up with her recently and she got quite upset because she said knew she'd been texting less and she loved me but she was just busier and she didn't want to be hurting me. I brought it up again asking why she texts other people more and she says its cause she's comfortable with me and knows i'll still be there to talk to later and cause sometimes other people have more interesting news. She also said that when we were first going out she used to reply as soon as she could because she couldn't believe i liked her and was afraid i'd get bored of her. I really liked talking to her though and i don't want it to be an effort for her to talk to me.

I still wait for a text from her all the time but it just seems like she's not as interested as she used to be anymore but she swears she is.

Am i just being stupid?

TheZohanS

You're just at the next stage of your relationship, you don't need to text her all the time.

Text less frequently so she has a chance to actually miss you.

LegacyUser

i have been with my boyfriend nearly 3 years and we would see eachother about 2 times a week. it gives us both to do our own things, as well as miss eachother, which is soooo important i think. i still get sooo excited, like i did when i was with him 3 months when i see him and i love that feeling and im so happy it hasnt gone after 3 years.
i would get annoyed if she doesnt text you after a few minutes. give her the benefit of the doubt, but maybe now, stop texting her first.. let her miss you, let her wonder what you are doing and let her text you first and dont reply back straight away. let her know that you are busy doing things and see how that goes

Faith

It's normal for things to become less intense after the first few months. Relationships settle down and stabilise. You can't maintain texting all day, every day indefinitely. Hell, I've been with my boyfriend 7 months as well, mostly long-distance for the past few months, and he hardly ever even replies to my texts any more. I had to tell him that it really annoyed me last night because he didn't even realise.

As much as it doesn't seem like it, it's actually a good sign generally. It means your relationship is progressing and becoming stronger. You no longer need to constantly reaffirm that you like each other. She is telling the truth when she says she is as interested in you as she always was. You just need to relax and believe her now.

Sephiroth_dude

maybe give her some space?and dont txt all the time.shes probbly feeling smoothered.