Wedding Present

chishy

Do you think it would be awfully mean to give a gift in these hard times as opposed to the accustomed €150 - €200 cash present!

tweety76

absolutely not! If you know the bridge/groom well enough you might be able to suss out what kind of thing they would like whatever your budget, putting more effort into getting a thoughtful gift is often nicer than writing a cheque!

Loumary

AS a lot of us are struggling at the moment I think it would be insensitive for the brige n groom to expect what used to be the going rate for a wedding girft. €150- €200 might have been ok before all this job cuts and pay cuts etc.
It's expensive enough to go to the wedding without having the burden of an expensive gift hanging over you too.

Why not buy somethig nice for their home that they will remember you by. PLenty of great sales on.
A great present would be a lamp. Its something that will be used and will lighten up their day

kittykat84

no its not a bit mean not to give money. presents are lovely to get. you could get something different, a bit more personal. i love the idea of giving the happy couple dressing gowns with their names and bride & groom embroidered on them. something to have forever and practical to!:D

Clareman

I think it'd be perfectly fine to buy someone a present, but I would put a bit of thought into it, if the couple are living togother, chances are they don't need another lamp or 6 more wine glasses, but they might appreciate a new set of bed clothes or something for outside, if you're part of a group of friends, why not club together and get something as a group?

ash_18x

kittykat84 wrote: »

no its not a bit mean not to give money. presents are lovely to get. you could get something different, a bit more personal. i love the idea of giving the happy couple dressing gowns with their names and bride & groom embroidered on them. something to have forever and practical to!:D

i have to say the dressing gowns idea is lovely, as a present for our wedding we got a set of cream handtowels with our name and date of the wedding on each in gold. it just really stood out and was so thoughtful......

tinkerbell

I think that the bride and groom should be grateful with any present they get so give a gift but only if you can afford it.

cch

kittykat84 wrote: »

i love the idea of giving the happy couple dressing gowns with their names and bride & groom embroidered on them. something to have forever and practical to!:D

Sounds like a great idea, but I hardly think it's something they could keep forever...!

There's nothing wrong with giving a gift, we got a few and while the money received was appreciated we really remember the specific gifts.
Or if you could offer them something to help them out on the day? Loan of a nice car, bake the cake, photography or video etc?

SeekUp

No, it's not mean! In fact, I'd much rather buy something off of their registry than give cash, if they have one. That way, I know I'm giving the couple something that they want/need.

If they don't have a registry and you don't feel comfortable asking the bride/groom about gifts, just ask the best man/MOH (the MOH would probably know better!) for a bit of help. They should be able to point you in the right direction.

missfemale

vouchers for dinner/honeymoon/wknd away?? something they could but use partkt together