I'm just so mortified

sparkydee27 · 04-03-2009 11:21pm #1

While on a drunken night out from work i made a pass at a male colleague. He's getting married and he rightly blew me off. It was a few months ago now and i'm still so embarrassed by it. I've never done anything like this before or will again but should i apologise again to him or let it go. Any time we're out from work we end up chatting and stuff. I haven't been well lately and he's been a shoulder to cry on. If we're on our own he'll chat but if there's anyone else around he'll ignore me which makes me think he's told other people. What do people think?

karen3212 · 04-03-2009 11:32pm

I think it's very odd that he ignores you when other people are around, and yet he seems to like you enough to be your shoulder to cry on. Very odd in my opinion.

But he seems friendly enough with you, so I don't see any need to apologise again, just my opinion

04-03-2009 11:38pm

karen3212 wrote: »

I think it's very odd that he ignores you when other people are around, and yet he seems to like you enough to be your shoulder to cry on. Very odd in my opinion.

he probably doesnt want people to think anything is happening.. even if its not. not that odd.,

Craft25 · 04-03-2009 11:38pm

sparkydee27 wrote: »

While on a drunken night out from work i made a pass at a male colleague. He's getting married and he rightly blew me off. It was a few months ago now and i'm still so embarrassed by it. I've never done anything like this before or will again but should i apologise again to him or let it go. Any time we're out from work we end up chatting and stuff. I haven't been well lately and he's been a shoulder to cry on. If we're on our own he'll chat but if there's anyone else around he'll ignore me which makes me think he's told other people. What do people think?

Just leave it!! If he's any sort of a man he would have just said nothing or made a joke of it & got back to business as usual the next day!

you could ask him next time youse are alone why he's being different in front of others but he'll probably just say you're being over analytical and a bit needy.

If he's in love with his wife to be then i'd say you're the last of his concerns.. maybe he's sensing some awkwardness from you after you got turned down? let it go

Silverfish · 04-03-2009 11:39pm

sparkydee27 wrote: »

While on a drunken night out from work i made a pass at a male colleague. He's getting married and he rightly blew me off. It was a few months ago now and i'm still so embarrassed by it. I've never done anything like this before or will again but should i apologise again to him or let it go. Any time we're out from work we end up chatting and stuff. I haven't been well lately and he's been a shoulder to cry on.

I think maybe, to be blunt, you should find a different shoulder to cry on than that of a married man you made a pass at.

sparkydee27 · 05-03-2009 12:21am

Silverfish wrote: »

I think maybe, to be blunt, you should find a different shoulder to cry on than that of a married man you made a pass at.

Hi thanks for the replies.
I should have worded that better. We've just had one or two conversations and he's been really nice. I wouldn't be constantly telling him stuff i've made a conscious effort to be more distant in some ways but it's a small office and it can be hard.
Plus he sits near me. But i think maybe he does sense the awkwardness on my part. Plus a lot of people commented that i act panicky and embarrassed around him and i don't mean to. It was a stupid mistake and i'm fully responsible for my actions there and i'll always regret it.

Myggel · 05-03-2009 12:25am

I think don't bring it up. Also, if ur looking for more than a mate save yourself and him the hassle and move on.
He's prob just being cautious around others because office gossip is unreal everywhere.

sparkydee27 · 05-03-2009 12:29am

I'm in a new relationship now just want to have things back to normal.

yellowcurl · 05-03-2009 3:14am

Just let it go, there's no point in dragging up something from a few months ago.

If he did have a problem with it, he would have said something. But he didn't, so just forget about it and move on.

tbh · 05-03-2009 9:25am

sparkydee27 wrote: »

I'm in a new relationship now just want to have things back to normal.

you made a mistake and you apologised for it. Stop beating yourself up! These things happen to the best of us, you'll laugh about it in years to come, don't worry.

smileysurfer · 05-03-2009 9:39am

tbh wrote: »

you made a mistake and you apologised for it. Stop beating yourself up! These things happen to the best of us, you'll laugh about it in years to come, don't worry.

Couldn't agree more! everyones had a drunken embarrassing mistake b4 so I wouldnt dwell on it anylonger!

sparkydee27 · 05-03-2009 4:55pm

Thanks for all the replies, yeah i think i will just have to swallow my mortification and move on.

Katgurl · 05-03-2009 5:48pm

seriously OP, it is NOT that bad. We've all done stupid things when drunk, the embarrassment passes in time.

sparkydee27 · 05-03-2009 10:31pm

Thanks guys:)

PirateGirl · 10-05-2009 10:11am

where i work everyone has drunkenly kissed at least one or two of the other staff, we live in a constant episode of hollyoaks! quite a few have made passes at another staff member when drunk and been turned down, and we constantly talk to eachother about personal issues..you just have shrug off the embarrassment and move on, everyone will have new gossip in the blink of an eye and he should be flattered you deemed him nice enough to have flirted with him.

I'm just so mortified

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