Feel I've Missed Out

LegacyUser

Not really sure what im asking here, kind of more a rant if anything. Im 26 and until very recently a virgin who never had a girlfriend and only kissed about 4 girls. For a very long time I never thought I was good looking and so therfore never thought girls would be interested in me. Ever since I was about 19/20 I can remember getting pep talks from friends or friends girlfriends about why I never chat to girls on nights out or why i was always single, saying im the best looking guy in the group and im such a nice guy etc....I just never believed this stuff. Sure it wasnt as if I was ever fighting the women off!!!

So only in the last year I have gotten more confident in myself and around women and lately I have made the concious effort to approach women, something I never did before and to be honest I think I'm punching far above my weight at the moment as the women Im pulling are stunning and I never would have believed girls like this would have ever been interested in me. To me I dont understand why these women fancy me but all my friends seem to. Its just made me think that I have missed out on so so much in my late teens and early 20's to do with relationships or just even playing the field and sowing my wild oats. I feel Im maybe emotionaly immature (if thats the right saying) when it comes to trying to start a relationship as I have never experienced any of the ups and downs that come with relationships or I havent had the opportunity to learn from any mistakes in the past and just think that if I do end up going out with someone I really like I will f*ck it up at the first attempt. I just feel I have missed out on so much really, im such an idiot.

I have no real question but thanks for listening anyway if you have got this far!

blow69

Eh....you're welcome.

If your question is should you sew your wild oats and all that, then do it if you want to. As long as you're not attached to anyone.

Peace.

KM56

sure you are still young. go out and have a laugh and be wild. and if you meet someone along the way that you like all the better. if relationships were easy then no one would be single. but when a relationship does start you will kow what to do so dont panic.

Craft25

IMO life experience is life experience regardless of what it was.. it will all stand to you in one way or other..

look at it like this; other guys had the experience of loads of rides or trying out the early stages of relationships.. but you had the experience of having self esteem/confidence issues and then overcoming them..

theres plenty of guys who've lived on easy street through their twenty's who are only starting to see that they aren't bulletproof now that things have gone belly-up for a while... how will they react to this knock to their confidence?

maybe you can take what you have learned about yourself and use it as a well of strength to go to whenever you face adversity!

Dudess

There's no point in regretting - it's absolutely useless to you. Shut the door and soldier on - at 26 you have a MASSIVE mount of opportunity left to sow your wild oats. It doesn't have to stop after your early 20s you know...

LegacyUser

I'm in almost the exact same position only that I know for a fact that I'm not attractive on all fronts. Always had emotional/ confidence problems and recently overcame them but never had the pep talks or support from mates. Don't squander your good fortune because I would love to be where you are now but never will...