Pee'd off in general

sammyv

Is anyone really fed up with their life, regret alot of things that have happened, wished they had of done alot of things differently.
I hate getting up in the morning, i feel scared going to bed at night, i feel everyday drags on, im wishing my whole lige away!!!

Anyone else feel like this?

John Mason

i am completely fed too, if i hear about the recession one more time and i going to kill someone, or another bloody sob story, we all have our sob stories.

Thats just life and you need to just get on with it

sammyv

nothing to do with the recession, im working away, no financial worries.

Just dont want to be here anymore

Mr. Presentable

I used to. Then I realised the past is gone and done and so I put it away and made a promise to myself that it wouldn't ruin my future.

Face up to your past. Admit it. Learn any lessons you can from it. And consign it to your wardrobe.

Start tomorrow with a target - something new, even small, and achieve it. Take your success to bed with you and a new target the next day. A nest is built from many tiny twigs, and so is a life. Gather twigs!

Wagon

Yeah I'm pissed off to. I'm leaving the country. Should sort some things out

ellinguistico

I broke up with my girlfriend of a year over the weekend. Mainly down to the fact i was down myself for a little while and was not able to give her the full attention she needed and for things that are going on in her life that are upsetting. Work is getting less secure and im 31 and this was the closest thing to an ideal relationship i have had. I haven't a clue what i am going to do from now on, genuinely.

sunnyside

Yes, was looking at my finances yesterday and when I added up my loans I realised I'm paying €100 a week service debts and will be for about 2 years. I haven't and most likely won't miss any of the payments but I was upset thinking about the fabulous holiday I could afford in 2-3 months if I wasn't paying that.

I wish I had done things differently in relationships, I wish I had worked harder in school and got into the course I really wanted.

I think the recession is making most people a bit miserable even those of us who still have jobs. Lots of people are living in fear of loosing jobs, the news, boards.ie--all depressing stories every day, city centre shops almost empty most days, people have lowered their standard of living so as to not be so dependent on credit. That general air or doom and gloom is upsettling everyone job or not.

I read the PI problems here, many more urgent and serious than the things I moan about, the Jade Goody cancer story but still I feel sorry for myself so Orls81 it's not just you.

From your short post it does sound like you could be suffering from depression.

sammyv

Things have just got ontop of me. I messed up big time, im in a job i hate, there is no end to my family problems, im in a very unstable relationship.

I just want to get away from everything, but im scared and feel too guilty. I look at my friends and they seem so happy and content, and then i start to feel jealous which is wrong.

Im angry and regretful alot of the time, and i try to be happy, but i cant

star-pants

I understand where you're coming from, but it's not good to have regrets really.
Everything action has a reaction and thus life moves forward. In saying that I will admit to one regret - but I guess it's my fault thus I have to pay the penalty.

I've been out of work since Sept, have personal/health issues myself, there's issues going on in the immediate family and a different one with a relative. I know friends going through rough times too. I have barely slept in almost two weeks - when I am sad and frustrated with things like you sound, it's usually more a case of crying myself to sleep.
Days seem endless and you're running on empty.

But... I remind myself of the good times that were had, even if they only make me smile for a minute. Or I see happy people passing by, that makes me smile.It shows me there is happiness out there, and people who can get on with things, not living in the shadow of their past and letting it block the light of their future. (how preachy did that just sound??? sorry!) What I mean is - you need to hang on to the little things, a kind word, a nice smile, a warm hug, helping someone with something.

Yes I wish my life was a little different, but not by much - because otherwise I wouldn't be the person I am and I wouldn't have the wonderful family and friends that I do have. Life has its ups n downs, and I've hit a few bumps, heck I'm in a bump right now -- but the sun still shines and we still have people who care about us and a roof over our heads so I can't let the sadness take over all the time. As others have said, daily tasks, work day by day, don't stare at a few months down the line and go 'where will I be at this rate?'. Things will work out, or not, but all is part of life and it's not easy but we learn to deal with it. If you're finding things very difficult, a counsellor might be able to help you too. No harm in getting things off your chest. Granted there's worse things happening to people in the world, but everything is relative.

sammyv

I'd love to be positive, and i do try, but then something might happen, and i think what is the point!!
I really thought when i met my b'f last year that things would take a turn for the better, but it has just made things worse.

I cry alot too at night time, i wake up with big horrible red eyes. All this worry is starting to interfere with my health, i cant eat, hardly sleep.

Maybe i might go to docs, get some pills, just to get me through each day

lee_arama

Orls81 wrote: »

Is anyone really fed up with their life, regret alot of things that have happened, wished they had of done alot of things differently.
I hate getting up in the morning, i feel scared going to bed at night, i feel everyday drags on, im wishing my whole lige away!!!

Anyone else feel like this?

Orls: Go talk to someone. Root out a number for the Samaratins and just talk. I went through a minor breakdown over the holidays and did the only smart thing there was and availed of a free counselling service on campus. It's helped no end.

I'm not saying you're manic or anything but dips in form/mood, can be simply minor bouts of depression - low spirits if you will.

But either way nothing gets better unless you talk. Others can say that that's just life and get on with it but while life has it's tough moments it needn't be an eternal chore.

Pop out and grab some Riboflavin for yourself too. Certainly won't hurt.

cantdecide

I spent years thinking the same way. It was hell, actually. It was so easy to start the spiral. Nothing major has changed or improved in my life but I'm now happy and contented.

I just wake up each day and say to myself 'I'm a happy and contented person'. I said it until I realised it was actually true. Start by counting your blessings. Change *things that are stifling your happiness but don't put yourself under pressure if they don't happen straight away and realise that you must break eggs to make an omelet.

sammyv

This is all such good advice. I wish i could actually start believing it.

I know what is wrong with me, since i started going out with my b'f alot of issues have come to light, issues that i should have resolving along time ago. I try and talk to him, but he has his own stuff going on.

I dont want to talk to my family, as they are the cause of alot of these issues.

tried to talk to my friends before, but they just sorta freaked out on me.

I would love to talk to someone who had a difficult childhood...alcholic abusive dad...please pm me anybody, as i have to sort this out.

sunnyside

Orls81 wrote: »

. I look at my friends and they seem so happy and content, and then i start to feel jealous which is wrong.

I compare myself to other people but it's very likely that your friends look at you and are jealous too. It sounds like you have plenty of positive things in your life and guaranteed that's what your friends see. I'm certainly not dismissing any of your issues.

I'm trying to point out that if someone sees you looking well, dressed well, driving a nice car, living in a big house, with a good looking boyfriend, carrying bags from clothes shops....your life looks good to anyone who's comparing themselves to you. They don't see the tears, sleepless nights, fights with the good looking boyfriend, the medication someone might be taking....So don't compare yourself to other people.

star-pants

Orls81 wrote: »

This is all such good advice....

I would love to talk to someone who had a difficult childhood...alcholic abusive dad...please pm me anybody, as i have to sort this out.

It is all good advice, and you need to take it on board. I really think you would benefit from a counsellor, if you can't talk to friends or family, at least a counsellor would listen and be unbiased and they can help you learn to deal with these things.

LegacyUser

The real question is "is anybody not fed up with their lives?"


Everybody is fvcked up.


I think one of the greatest fallacies/misconceptions of human existence is that we are supposed to be happy. Thats the image we have been force fed for years by the marketing men and dream peddlers. Now if you perfectly happy person great, good for you, but its not the norm and people should not think it is.

I think the traditional view just compounds the problem. People get down and then they get even more depressed because they think they should be happy or that there is something wrong with them.


Life is a struggle, its a grind, all you can do is put up with it and savour the good moments.....there are always good moments.

goodcitizen

It could be worse, you could be working for the public sector, think then what you would be faced with .......a reduction of 3% in your 100,000 salary for your own pension.....every time I start to get depressed I just think about the unfortunate people in these secure, well paid jobs .........and I get even more depressed