bf bestfriend...

purplekitty

last week me and the bf and other friends all went out for ragweek and near the end of the night my bf's bestfriend tried to kiss and grab me.

i pushed him away and talked him out of it, to try make the situation comfortable,
but now i dont know if i should tell my bf...

they've been friends since primary school and i dont want to piss anyone off.

part of me is scared that my bf's bestfriend will say that im lying and will cause conflict between me and my boyfriend, as granted he was fairly drunk on the night (it was ragweek...)

i see the bestfriend most weekends and i didnt go out last weekend cause i didnt wanna see him.

what will i do???

Yavvy

would ya not be interested in sharing the love no ?

if not be carefull best friends are much more important that some girl ... unless your offering sex in which case just withhold until he dumps one of you

Liber8or

You should tell him, or at least tell the friend to own up to what he did and confess to your boyfriend.

Put it this way, if the situation was the complete opposite, would you want to be told by your boyfriend that a female friend of your's imposed herself on him?

You shouldn't be too concerned about the consequences between your boyfriend and the friend. That "friend" has caused this situation and he will have to deal with what he did, not you. Also, if your boyfriend doesn't believe you, then he is not much of a boyfriend.

Good luck!

smileysurfer

Definitely tell your boyfriend!! The 'friend' really doesnt deserve to get away with it!! I know if my boyfriends friend came onto to me then I would tell my man A sap! How dare he!! :eek:

Blazer

Alany wrote: »

would ya not be interested in sharing the love no ?

if not be carefull best friends are much more important that some girl ... unless your offering sex in which case just withhold until he dumps one of you

christ..and ur a mod?

Op..tbh like you said it was rag week...people do lots of really stupid stuff during this...
I'd forget about it now for the moment but if it happened again you'd have no choice but to talk to your bf about it.

purplekitty

Alany wrote: »

would ya not be interested in sharing the love no ?

if not be carefull best friends are much more important that some girl ... unless your offering sex in which case just withhold until he dumps one of you

what???? i didnt come onto his bestfriend, thats why im sooo pissed off

minidazzler

Call it a drunken indiscretion and say nothing. If it happens againtell your BF. But otherwise, don't say a word.

purplekitty

how would i tell my bf that it happened tho???

sorry i know its probably only a lil problem and its easy for people to tell me to cop on, but, i dont want to ruin anything with the boyfriend

minidazzler

purplekitty wrote: »

how would i tell my bf that it happened tho???

sorry i know its probably only a lil problem and its easy for people to tell me to cop on, but, i dont want to ruin anything with the boyfriend

Don't tell him, there is no need, his friend was drunk and you told us it only happened once. Leave sleeping dogs lie. There is no reason to tell him.

star-pants

It's unfortunate the situation you're in. The best friend should never have tried what he did - you say you talked him out of it? You know yourself how drunk he was or wasn't -- do you think it's a case of he was completely plastered and was being silly (doing something stupid I mean). Or was he not that drunk and just trying it on?

If the former, well, I guess you could pass it as that and if *anything* ever happened again you could say something then. He may have been overly drunk and doesn't even remember it. So by avoiding him you might be causing a situation he's unaware of.
If he was trying it on for semi-real, then you should have a word with your boyfriend. Best friends or not, it shouldn't influence your decision that much - if the guy was his bestfriend he shouldn't be acting that way with his gf. You could even just bring it up casually, 'man *john* was so plastered the other night wasn't he? I think he even tried to chat me up lol...' etc. just to get the idea out there but not putting too much weight behind it.

LegacyUser

thanks guys for all your help

xxxx