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  • 01-03-2009 12:44am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I suffer from vaginismus (self diagnosed anyway). It's pretty embarrassing or shameful or something and really impedes upon my life, makes it difficult for me to enter into a relationship or even attempt sex sometimes.
    Just wondering if anyone out there has any advice? I'm pretty sure it stems from some bad exeriences when I was young but I'm looking for a way to carry out my life normally.

    Really appreciate any help. Thanks.


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  • #2
    Stheno
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 51,690 Mod ✭✭✭✭Stheno


    Go to your GP and talk to them about your problem as you see it.

    They will be able to refer you onwards to counsellors etc.

    Best of luck.


  • #3
    Zaph
    Registered Users, Subscribers, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47,351 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    OP, while you may be right, you can't rely on self-diagnosis. You really should see your GP, embarrassing as it may be, to determine proper cause and treatment of your condition. While you may believe that it's a psychological issue stemming from your previous experiences, there are also physiological causes of the condition. Your GP will be able to help you determine a) if you really do suffer from vaginismus or whether it's something else; and b) if so, how best to treat it based on an assessment of the causes.

    Think of it this way, is it better to suffer some embarrassment for a relatively short period of time, or to endure an ongoing impediment to you being able to enjoy a fuller life?


  • #4
    honey79
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 192 ✭✭honey79


    sorry this a bit long but really hope it helps you i too thought i suffered from this after reading lots of stuff on Internet and going to 2 doctors not a bit helpful decided this is what i had finally went to speak to a counsellor this was not for me after few more years finally went to see a doctor who is wonderful as you know this is very hard to talk about but she made me feel very at ease she has been so helpful it turns out i don't have vaginismus but it a medical condition that I'm now receiving help for
    Ive put my life on hold for far too long because of this and really hope you don't do the same

    www.femplus.ie


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I had the same due to an experience few years back, tried regular counselling, found it did nothing for me, was in a relationship which eventually ended as i couldn't have sex with him........... soon after breaking up i thought to myself i couldn't let it stop me from entering any new relationships so decided to go see a psychosexual therapist, in short i found this worked for me so i'd highly recommend giving it a go


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