Abnormal breasts

LegacyUser

I have one breast bigger than the other. It's 2 cups bigger and I have to wear chicken fillets to hide it. I wish I could afford surgery to approach my parents and ask if they have the money. This has ruined my life so far. All I want is to have normal acceptable breasts. Any advice I'd appreciate. I have been depressed my whole life purely because of this, and it's such a taboo topic that I can't mention it at all to anyone. I am not alive, I just want to have some kind of lnormal life. Is that possible? Please help...

Honestly, unless one is flat and the other hangs down around your knees, i doubt many people will even notice.

It certainly isn't something you should feel depressed over (just that). Have you ever been with a guy and gotten topless? If so, how did he react?

It seems to me that if the first person you show it to, acts like a moron, then you'll be very conscious about it, and assume that everyone will react the same (which isn't at all true).

Everyone's different.

username123

Have you spoken to your GP about this? If it is genuinely a medical problem that is affecting your self esteem and causing depression they may be able to get something done on the public health system?

I wouldnt worry too much though - breasts are hardly every perfectly symmetrical., its possible that you are seeing it out of proportion to how it really is because you have been thinking about it for a long time.

Another thing is - what age are you? Breasts change with age as well so they may even out a bit.

But seriously, its not taboo - talk to your GP about it, your GP will take a look and tell you if you are within a normal range (and if you are not).

Annie Bananie

Ah mine arent the same size either, one is bigger then the other. It never bothered me though and noone ever said anything. Guys are in genereal very happy when they see boobs so doubt they ever notice nor care :rolleyes: hihi

As the others say, if it makes you feel that bad and its a medical problem, go talk to your GP and see if anything can be done. Good luck

shreksaurus

Hi OP,

I have the same problem. Theres a considerable difference in size, and like you I need to use those chicken fillets.

I'm 26. It used to get me down in the past, but not any more. Theres so much more people out there that would be in a much more difficult sitiuation like due to a disability or something. To be honest, I'd have a problem if crooked breasts is the only thing to I have to worry about.

I'd like to sort it out in future with surgery. I'm guessing an operation like that would cost about 8000 euro. For now money is an issue for me because i'm saving for a car.

I'm not post unreg. If you to pm me and i'll tell you what i find useful (and its not tablets or the like).

loloray

breasts wrote: »

it's such a taboo topic that I can't mention it at all to anyone.

This is totally not a taboo topic! Loads of women have this!!! If you stopped thinking it was taboo and talked to your mam/girlfriends, I bet you'd be amazed about the amount of girls who have this. What age are you though? I'm guessing you're kind of young because you are thinking of asking your parents for the money. My breasts stopped growing when I was 21, which is why I think anyone who gets breast surgery before that age is mad - as they could keep growing afterwards.

Annie Bananie wrote:

Guys are in genereal very happy when they see boobs

Yep I agree with this!

Good luck OP, and like shreksaurus said, if this is the only thing wrong with your body, then you're doing pretty well. I used to also have hang-ups about my body but now I love it because every bit of it works and it's never made me go to hospital for it yet - touch wood!

dudara

Firstly, it's not a taboo topic.

Secondly, how old are you? If you're a teenager it's possible that you're still developing and your breasts haven't evened out yet.

If you're still concerned, then you should really go see a doctor to determine if there's any underlying cause.

Lollipops23

no woman's breasts are completely symetrical, just as no man's testicles are. Every woman i know(me included!) has 1 boob bigger than the other. the difference in size varies greatly, i found it far more noticeable when i was a teenager but they've pretty much evened out since.

if it's really getting to you then have a chat with your GP or local wellwoman clinic.

LegacyUser

Hi - i had the exact same problem as you and it really effected me - i was so embarrassed by it and it was so annoying having to wear the chicken fillet on the smaller side - i couldnt wear any nice tops because it'd be noticeable. Eventually 3 years ago i had surgery to reduce the size of the bigger one and i haven't looked back - it was one of the best decisions i ever made.

I know people say that loads of women have one bigger than the other and that's true, in fact all women i'd say have one that is a TINY bit bigger but not so much bigger that it's obvious - you wouldnt even notice it, but sometimes it is a lot more noticeable and obvious on some women and it can crush your confidence. I'm 23 now so i was 20 nearly 21 when i got it done. It's has changed my life now - i can wear certain clothes now and not be worried about one boob looking bigger than the other.

I say if you're really bothered about it and it's affecting your confidence and how you live your life , you should see a consultant. Also i got mine done on the VHI so you might not even have to pay for it. Hope this helps

AARRRGH

I think it sounds kind of cool. I would imagine most men think like me.

Don't let it ruin your life. It's not a big deal. Try to gain some perspective, you could have a real problem like an illness or some sort of tragedy.

You could try reading some books about Palestinians or Africans to help you realise just how lucky you are.

Lollipops23

AARRRGH wrote: »

I think it sounds kind of cool. I would imagine most men think like me.

Don't let it ruin your life. It's not a big deal. Try to gain some perspective, you could have a real problem like an illness or some sort of tragedy.

You could try reading some books about Palestinians or Africans to help you realise just how lucky you are.

check out that high horse. the girl has an issue that's affecting her confidence and her life, don't try and make her feel worse about it.

AARRRGH

Lollipops23 wrote: »

check out that high horse. the girl has an issue that's affecting her confidence and her life, don't try and make her feel worse about it.

No high horse. The girl is saying it has ruined her life, has caused her to be depressed her whole life, and isn't alive because of it.

I think she needs a bit of a reality check - having to wear padding in your bra is hardly tragic!

It's not a big problem.

Lollipops23

AARRRGH wrote: »

No high horse. The girl is saying it has ruined her life, has caused her to be depressed her whole life, and isn't alive because of it.

I think she needs a bit of a reality check - having to wear padding in your bra is hardly tragic!

It's not a big problem.

i'd love to know how depressed you'd be if your testicles were as severly lopsided as her breasts. lots of things can contribute to anxiety and depression,perceived "abnormalities" included.

Zaph

Guys, please feel free to continue your chat by PM if you like, but let's get back on-topic.

Thanks

shreksaurus

To the lady that posted unregistered:

You were saying that you got your bigger breast reduced on VHI. As in health insurance covered your costs? Thats interesting.

I wonder would health insuranse pay for breast enlargement surgery? Would you or anybody else know this. One of my breasts is a C cup, and the other is very flat (gross, I know and I cant beleive I didn't go unreg). I don't want huge tits like Jordan - just want them even.

aoibhebree

breasts wrote: »

I have one breast bigger than the other. It's 2 cups bigger and I have to wear chicken fillets to hide it. I wish I could afford surgery to approach my parents and ask if they have the money. This has ruined my life so far. All I want is to have normal acceptable breasts. Any advice I'd appreciate. I have been depressed my whole life purely because of this, and it's such a taboo topic that I can't mention it at all to anyone. I am not alive, I just want to have some kind of lnormal life. Is that possible? Please help...

If you're young enough to be thinking about asking your parents for money, I presume you're still a teenager. Therefore this problem cannot have ruined your life so for - probably not even half of it. Similar to saying you've been "depressed" your "whole life" - besides which, I'm surprised a doctor diagnosed you with depression without suggesting advice with regards to your breasts?

Wait til you're old enough to earn money to pay for surgery yourself. By then, your breasts will actually be fully developed so surgery might be an option. They may or may not have evened out by that stage. If they have, it's not a problem. If they have not, at least you're paying for them yourself and not using money your parents may have for your education or for the mortgage or other such irrelevant frivolities.

My chest was literally flat as an ironing board til I was 19. Did it bother me - no, I just wore padded bras and chicken fillets and got on with it. They finally grew over the space of a couple of months when I was 19, one's a B cup, the others a C cup, it didn't and still doesn't bother me in the slightest. At least they are healthy and that's the most important thing.

It's a problem that's very easily disguised under clothing underwear etc. If your comfortable enough with anyone to allow them to see your breasts, they should be the kind of person you can trust not to judge you on such a minor thing.

Try and get some perspective on the whole thing. You'll be fine.

LegacyUser

aoibhebree wrote: »

If you're young enough to be thinking about asking your parents for money, I presume you're still a teenager. Therefore this problem cannot have ruined your life so for - probably not even half of it. Similar to saying you've been "depressed" your "whole life" - besides which, I'm surprised a doctor diagnosed you with depression without suggesting advice with regards to your breasts?

I was never diagnosed with depression!
And I am far from a teenager, Im 29 The only reason I was thinkin of asking parents is because im desperate at this stage. Maybe they could lend me it if they have it or they would be able to get a loan i dont know.

aoibhebree

breasts wrote: »

I was never diagnosed with depression!

Oh right ... I suppose I just presumed ... when you said you were "depressed" ... how silly of me! :rolleyes:

Anyways don't you have a job? Or could you qualify for a boob job with insurance or whatever? Although personally I'm not a proponent of unnecessary surgery.

If you're 29 years old and cannot get enough perspective to see the irrelevance of this problem in the long-term, maybe you should see a psychologist or counsellor or something. Honestly, I'm not trying to be nasty or to minimise your problem, but at this stage of your life you must have some life experience - haven't you or any friends or family members ever encountered any major health problems or personal tragedies? If not, consider yourself lucky that assymetrical breasts is all you're worried about!

Das Kitty

I have a cup size of difference between my boobs.

They used to be even enough until about 5 years ago when I was losing a bit of weight and one got smaller than the other. Luckily I've a healthy body image. I quite like the difference between them now!

To be honest, it's not a physiological problem you have but a psychological one. Nothing wrong with lopsided boobies, it's just how you perceive them.

I wouldn't get anything done with them to be honest because your boobies will continue to change all through your life. Embrace them! You are perfect the way you are.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies. They have helped a bit and i know that my OP sounded very depressed but i was very down about it at the time.
Some of the replies saying to cop on and all that, they have a difference of 1 cup size. 1 cup size wouldnt bother me so much. With me it is 2 cup sizes a big difference. Its not even too bad this time of the year but I know when the summer comes i will spend almost all the time stuck in my room unless i want to go out on a hot day in a baggy sweatshirt.
Maybe if I had more natural looking padding it would help i dont know.

Das Kitty

breasts wrote: »

Thanks for the replies. They have helped a bit and i know that my OP sounded very depressed but i was very down about it at the time.
Some of the replies saying to cop on and all that, they have a difference of 1 cup size. 1 cup size wouldnt bother me so much. With me it is 2 cup sizes a big difference. Its not even too bad this time of the year but I know when the summer comes i will spend almost all the time stuck in my room unless i want to go out on a hot day in a baggy sweatshirt.
Maybe if I had more natural looking padding it would help i dont know.

Hi Lady,

As far as I recall no one told you to cop on. Most people did advise against surgery though. To be honest I think your boobs will change a lot in years to come, but the main problem is not the boobs it's about a foot and a half higher than that .

You need to realise you are not abnormal and by picking up on people saying one cup when it's two with you, is nitpicking. All us lopsided chicas have to pad our bras in certain items of clothing.

I would suggest trying to find the right padding for you and focus less on the mammaries and more on what you as a person has to offer the world, you are not your boobs!

Oh The Humanity

breasts wrote: »

Thanks for the replies. They have helped a bit and i know that my OP sounded very depressed but i was very down about it at the time.
Some of the replies saying to cop on and all that, they have a difference of 1 cup size. 1 cup size wouldnt bother me so much. With me it is 2 cup sizes a big difference. Its not even too bad this time of the year but I know when the summer comes i will spend almost all the time stuck in my room unless i want to go out on a hot day in a baggy sweatshirt.
Maybe if I had more natural looking padding it would help i dont know.

OP, you could also look into Macrolane I think its called. Its injectable fillers which go into the breast, they are not permanent, I think they last up to 18 months, but are cheaper and less invasive than surgery.

With respect, I dont think some people 'get' how difficult this problem is unless they have gone through it. A friend of mine at school had the problem and it was absolutley soul destroying for her. Its wrong to judge someone as shallow for suffering about it, its hard enough for people to share these problems. Breasts are far more visible than testicles also, so its not comparing like with like...

I saw about that Macrolane stuff in the papers, if you Google it, it is done in Ireland.

Poloman

Why dont you all send me pictures and I will comment on each case?

No seriously... I think the best comment made was that men are so happy to see breasts that we dont notice and dont care! There is a lot of truth of truth in this. i have been with girls who think their breasts are too small, too big, too wide and some girls with scars etc. Women are much more concerned about their appearance than men are so I see where you are coming from but honestly none of those things bothered me. I wasnt with any of those girls for their body parts (well not really!) it was more about the person and the fact I thought they were sound.

However if it is affecting your confidence then it is worth looking into surgery as one girl had.. and it changed her life. You cant put a price on having confidence and happiness and no I dont work in the medicakl profession!!

Good luck.