unfaithfull

lustyscorpio

1st time user hope it works.

I've been in a loving relatinship for 9 years live together have a baby thought i was happy until now..:( I've kissed a guy i have like for the past 7 years now i cant stop thinking about him. i have never done anything like this before i feel soo soo gulity and ashamed of myself my partner is just so good to me.

These feeling scare me i think i love him but could never do anything about it!!! it would shatter my partner life.

Nevyn

How old is the baby and how are things in your relationship and sex life atm ?

Miss Fluff

Everyone can succumb to temptation, easily done. It's what direction you choose now that matters OP. First role of thumb is under no circumstances tell your partner in order to alleviate your guilt. It was a kiss, not a full blown affair and there is no need to come clean with your partner and cause pain where a confession is not necessary, it could destroy your relationship. It really depends now on whether you want to pursue this further with the other guy now. Sounds to me like a case of grass being greener, you said you have been happy until now so why not just chalk it down to a mistake and try and make a go of the relationship you have been happy in until now? An experience like this, so out of the ordinary for you, can make you question everything - that's perfectly normal.

lustyscorpio

Baby is 9 months old now he's a gem maybe just me hormones.. i really need to just forget it it was a stupid stupid mistake..
cheers

Harolds+

lustyscorpio

I think if might want to change your username for posting something like that.

I think you should say nothing to your fella and move on from that. If you want to stay in your relationship then forget about this fella you kissed

If you want to do the dirt then say goodbye to your fella because you are wasting his time and yours

I'm not even qualifed to say how your kid would look at ya.

Sorry for being harsh but your username doesn't help your cause :mad:

Nevyn

There is nothing wrong with her username or her wanting passion or a sex life
but she should be looking to why that is not happening with in her relationship.

Just because you have a kid and a partner that does not mean you will never
get a crush on anyone else ever again. It happens it's what you do about which
is important.

lustyscorpio

Hi Miss Fluffy,
I not really sure how to post replys and stuff yet...but i know your talkin sense I have a good life this person would be no good for me what soever but you just cant help thinkin what if? will i go through life regretting it not doing something about it? but in the same sentence how would i destroy my babies & parters life??

estar

so you made a mistake and fancy someone outside your relationship. you arent the first and wont be the last. a kiss isnt enough to break up a relationship with a baby, and not enough to disrupt things for. part of being in a long term relationship is that you cant get everything from it, or from one person, and the compromise is that long term brings security, deep love and maybe a little bit of being used to someone and boredom.

also with having a baby, maybe you wanted to feel attractive again. wanted. lusty. what is wrong with that? you just chose the easy way out which is kissing someone new.

your long term partner sounds like a winner. a good father. supportive of you? make an effort and re-vitalise your relationship and avoid the other man, and you will be happy you did, i wager.

this is just a crush. and the hormones may have played a part. its not too late to turn things around.

estar

the great what if.

either you are a risk taker prepared to take the downside as well as the up or you are not.

its probably 5% that things would be amazing with man new and its all going to work out after that one kiss and all those fantasies you have had (which are in no way based on reality) and 95% that you woudl be bitterly disappointed and have to cope with a new baby living on your own, juggling childcare with your ex-partner who resents you, and starting all over again in life.

then in 2-3 years time new man will become old man, are you going to move on again. passion is not enough to replace love and security especially when you now have a small baby. passion can be re-discovered with your current partner, but has new man cleared all the hurdles and exhibited all the qualities of your old partner?

no.

i dont like the above odds. if i told you there was a 5% chance of making a million or a 95% chance of you losing a million which would you choose?

rather than escape into a fantasy make your reality better.

and part of being a parent is putting them first/

are you bored?

LegacyUser

How does someone change a username?

Miss Fluff

lustyscorpio wrote: »

I have a good life this person would be no good for me what soever but you just cant help thinkin what if?

You wouldn't be human if you didn't have crushes on other people, something very appealing about forbidden fruit isn't there? It is just a crush though. You have conceded yourself that this other guy would be no good for you whatsoever, don't throw something good away on a whim and a "what if", it's not worth it.