Interrupting a person with a stammer

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Not sure of the exact difference between a stammer and a stutter, or if there even is one, But....

Is it considered rude to finish off someon's sentance when you know what they're trying to say, if they have a speech impediment?

TequilaMockingBird

Yes, very.

Tristram

I had a friend who stammered and he said he found it very frustrating when people would attempt to finish his sentences.

You could try confusing them by blurting out random words instead.

Raytown Rocks

Valeria Teeny Infantryman wrote: »

Not sure of the exact difference between a stammer and a stutter, or if there even is one, But....

Is it considered rude to finish off someon's sentance when you know what they're trying to say, if they have a speech impediment?

Depends on the person with the stammer I suppose.
My eldest sister has had one all of her life and on occasions we do finish her words for her.
She never gets pissed off, its more a habit between family members to do this.
That said I sometimes put in a completely wrong word with the same beginning letter just to drive her mad...but we laugh about it as she knows its just me taking the p1ss.
she might want to say Maybe, and I will say Mixamatosis,Misissippi etc. you get the idea.

RonMexico

Tell them it is very impressive :pac:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZAC2WuEaCc

stammerer's are not the best joke tellers

ibarelycare

Yeah I'd say it's very rude but it can be very difficult not to finish their words. My boss is the worst, we have a client with a really bad stutter and when they're trying to get words out he kinda stares at their mouth with a pained expression while mouthing the word to them URGING them to say it! This seems to make the stutter worse because they get more frustrated/nervous/embarrassed. I'm always patient with the guy though and he always seems more relaxed around me so doesn't stutter as bad.

joewicklow

I brought a girl with a stammer for a meal one night. After the main course I asked her would she like dessert.
She looked at the menu and after a while said she would like st, st, st, st, st, st, st, st,st, str strr so I said helpfully "Strawberry Cheesecake?" and straight away she said no, ill have profiteroles please

Danbo!

A simple 'Come on, spit it out..' followed by a gentle tap on the back when they finish the word does wonders for their confidence.

stovelid

Valeria Teeny Infantryman wrote: »

Not sure of the exact difference between a stammer and a stutter,

AFAIK, the onomatopoeia of the words stammer and stutter show the difference. Stammer is more like word itself is hard to push out, initially.

Stutter is more like you trip on hard letters within words (like stu-tu-tu-ter).

Sh*t explanation, I know. Somebody correct me if I'm wrong.

AnonoBoy

joewicklow wrote: »

I brought a girl with a stammer for a meal one night. After the main course I asked her would she like dessert.
She looked at the menu and after a while said she would like st, st, st, st, st, st, st, st,st, str strr so I said helpfully "Strawberry Cheesecake?" and straight away she said no, ill have profiteroles please

Maybe she wanted stroodle.

ScumLord

I'm waiting for this thread to be locked loonytunes style.

ejmaztec

I find it extremely lucrative to challenge them to a game of snap.

I wonder how long it would take a stutterer to sing this

consultech

chef wrote: »

Depends on the person with the stammer I suppose.
My eldest sister has had one all of her life and on occasions we do finish her words for her.
She never gets pissed off, its more a habit between family members to do this.
That said I sometimes put in a completely wrong word with the same beginning letter just to drive her mad...but we laugh about it as she knows its just me taking the p1ss.
she might want to say Maybe, and I will say Mixamatosis,Misissippi etc. you get the idea.

That's funny, and probably actually helps/relaxes/alleviates her of the stress-related worsening of a stammer

Kintarō Hattori

I don't have a stammer myself but would consider it rude if someone interrupted a person who did have one. I can only imagine that some folk are quite conscious of their stammer, so why put them under extra pressure. Just be patient and let them get it out in the end.

allabouteve

Valeria Teeny Infantryman wrote: »

Not sure of the exact difference between a stammer and a stutter, or if there even is one, But....

Is it considered rude to finish off someon's sentance when you know what they're trying to say, if they have a speech impediment?

It would be pretty arrogant to presume you know what someone's thinking, or about to say.

Unless you really are a mind reader, of course.

ShooterSF

I was working in a nightclub one night, bar wedged with people and I was admittedly not in the best of form. Got to a guy and asked what he wanted. He store at me for about 10 seconds, I got annoyed and said come on buddy either order or Ill move to the next person. His mate turns to me and says "No you wont". I get rather angry at this point and say "Look Im too busy for this crap either order or feck off". I never wished so hard the ground would just open up when as soon as I finished I heard, "Ca-ca-can I g-g-et...."
:(:(:(

ShooterSF

allabouteve wrote: »

It would be pretty arrogant to presume you know what someone's thinking, or about to say.

Unless you really are a mind reader, of course.

Generally agree but what about when you do know? Again say you meet someone in a pub and you offer them a drink and they say "Bottle of Mil-mil-mil". At that point Im never sure if its rude to stand there pretending like you dont know what they want..

smodgley

rarnes1 wrote: »

I wonder how long it would take a stutterer to sing this

any stutterers i have know are great singers and dont struggle with words at all

stovelid

smodgley wrote: »

any stutterers i have know are great singers and dont struggle with words at all

This guy has some problems, in fairness:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=byCCmBwRjGw

Sofiztikated

I've found a swift kick in the shins does wonders!

"St..St...St..."

Whap.

"Ow, what the F** was that for?"

"Stopped you yammering away all night, didn't it? Now, what did you want?"

"F**king nothing from you, I'm going home"

Win win situation.

ejmaztec

I knew a stammering solicitor in the UK who made his first appearance in the local magistrates' court after qualifying. We imagined that, by the time he finished defending his client, that same client could have finished a life sentence and be out on parole.

I don't think he's a solicitor now.

Diabhal Beag

The only time I would finish off their sentence is if I have no time and Frankie De..De..Touri is taking a year to finish his sentence.

Ann22

I worked with a lovely man who had a terrible stammer. I was surprised to discover this 'cos I worked on a production line with him and had a laugh and a craic with him, singing and all and he never stammered. One day we sat at the same table at breaktime, I asked him something and to my horror his eyes started to roll back in his head. I thought he was taking a fit or something and looked frantically around the table to see that no one was batting an eyelid. Then he started to stutter, God help him. It dawned on me that he just had a really bad stammer, after that I heard him do it loads of times, I always tried to restrain myself from interrupting him though I did an odd time 'cos he'd be in such a state. His wife and I had a mutual friend and she spent quite a lot of time in his company outside of work, she never heard him stammer.

yoshytoshy

I find if I'm talking to someone with a stammer for long enough ,I'll reply by starting with a stammer myself.
it's an embarrasing habit I have:o

trout

it's rude to interrupt

ShooterSF

yoshytoshy wrote: »

I find if I'm talking to someone with a stammer for long enough ,I'll reply by starting with a stammer myself.
it's an embarrasing habit I have:o

That sucks. I do that with accents some times and people think Im taking the piss.

Happened to me one time with a HMV employee. I was shocked and finished their sentence for them because I was so surprised. Posted about it in the Stammer forum here and got banned.

Upside is I learned from my banning and next time I bumped into a employee with a stutter I was prepared and let them finish.

sean_17

Why would you want to interrupt someone with a stammer. Obviously it's rude. Why would you even feel the need to ask this question, it should be a pretty obvious answer. No?

Crumble Froo

i have a stutter, though for the most part, it's not too noticable now (unlike when i was younger and a lot less confident), but it was most prominent when i was really stressed and feeling completely out of my depth, at which point i loved nothing more than someone filling in the obvious end of my sentence and putting me out of my misery. frequently, i'd finish conversations with people, burning red, half way through a sentence, wave a hand and look away, occasionally near tears too. heh, ill never forget my first class presentation in college...

tech77

ejmaztec wrote: »

I knew a stammering solicitor in the UK who made his first appearance in the local magistrates' court after qualifying. We imagined that, by the time he finished defending his client, that same client could have finished a life sentence and be out on parole.

I don't think he's a solicitor now.

Was he fired and Joe Pesci hired instead?
4:40 in:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1q7mjoxHzm4

pajodublin

rarnes1 wrote: »

stammerer's are not the best joke tellers

TRY TELLING THAT TO JIMMY FROM SOUTH PARK

S.I.R

Valeria Teeny Infantryman wrote: »

Not sure of the exact difference between a stammer and a stutter, or if there even is one, But....

Is it considered rude to finish off someon's sentance when you know what they're trying to say, if they have a speech impediment?

i find it quite funny to cut in, even more so when they try to continue.


brb gonna burn in hell.

ejmaztec

tech77 wrote: »

Was he fired and Joe Pesci hired instead?
4:40 in:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1q7mjoxHzm4

He could have been, but the one that I knew was around about 10 years before that movie came out...:p

wylo

Genuine question,
Is there something that can be done about it, any therapy or temporary drugs?

I dont mean to offend people with a stutter but it can be equally as frustrating waiting for them to finish if its particularly bad.
I knew a guy that could literally take a minute or 2 minutes to say one word. Believe me thats a long long time when waiting for someone to finish.
At first I felt kinda sorry for him and let him off, but if there was a group of us having a conversation, any time he was going to say something we knew we were in for a big wait. Maybe I would have got used to it because I didnt know him well in fairness.

Its all in the head id imagine, once something triggers it, thats the end of it. I suffer from seriously shaky hands because of nerves and some sort of anxiety. Its horrible because of the job im in, but Im trying to do something about it because its my problem not any body elses.

jill_valentine

If somebody's obviously got a speech impediment, they shouldn't be embarrassed about it, I mean unless they're a bomb disposal instructor or something, I can afford to wait the extra few seconds to hear them out.

Turd Ferguson

ShooterSF wrote: »

Generally agree but what about when you do know? Again say you meet someone in a pub and you offer them a drink and they say "Bottle of Mil-mil-mil". At that point Im never sure if its rude to stand there pretending like you dont know what they want..

A bottle of Milk of Magnesia?

ejmaztec

Turd Ferguson wrote: »

A bottle of Milk of Magnesia?

No - whiskey!

Zaph

I have a guy working for me who has a pretty bad stammer. I have to say he managed to control it pretty well in the interview, I didn't realise quite how bad it was until he started work. That said, it's not a problem and it doesn't stop him being a good worker , which is all I really care about tbh. It would never even cross my mind to finish a word or sentence for him, that's just incredibly rude.

I knew a guy years ago who had a really bad stutter. Just before I met him he'd been off in Sudan teaching local kids English. Everyone used to joke that the local kids thought that the tall things growing outside the classroom were called t-t-t-t-t-trees. I've become a much better person since then.