3 warrents out for ex, over unpaid maintance

glezo

hello all,

can anyone help me,

last may i went to court to apply for maintance for my 2 kids, because since spilting with ex i didnt get any money
(even doh with him i got very little anyways)

i was awarded 50 euro per child
long story short i still haven received a penny yet, im non stop ringing court house, guards etc although the court clerk is great helping out a lot she has issused 3 warrents for him arrest plus the 4th one is on its way
since last august when the first one was issused??????

i rang the guards at xmas when i know where he was one nite and they told me they had no cars to release only the one that was on duty in the town

please can anyone give me advice on where to go next

ellie1

I think 50euro per week is a very small amount per child. I have a son myself and this is all i get also and he is well paid. Over the years, people were telling me to go to court and get this and that and I said no. Why? why bother? If he can justify that amount in his head, let him. Id rather work hard and pay for things myself than go with a begging bowl to somebody so stingy.

Ive read on previous posts of yours that you have a good job and are well able to provide for your children. So why would you put yourself through the hassle.

I know he has a legal obligation to provide maintenance but is it really worth the stress for 100euro a week.(i know 100euro can go a long way but weigh this up against how frustating this appears to be for you) The likelihood of him actually paying is slim and he dosent appear to have any interest in having a relationship with his children.

You have tried your best. If you want to have to put this through the years continue getting warrents etc. If you want to let go of the frustration and irratation, leave it. Your obviously doing a better job at raising your kids on your own without the money.

glezo

ellie1 wrote: »

I think 50euro per week is a very small amount per child. I have a son myself and this is all i get also and he is well paid. Over the years, people were telling me to go to court and get this and that and I said no. Why? why bother? If he can justify that amount in his head, let him. Id rather work hard and pay for things myself than go with a begging bowl to somebody so stingy.

Ive read on previous posts of yours that you have a good job and are well able to provide for your children. So why would you put yourself through the hassle.

I know he has a legal obligation to provide maintenance but is it really worth the stress for 100euro a week.(i know 100euro can go a long way but weigh this up against how frustating this appears to be for you) The likelihood of him actually paying is slim and he dosent appear to have any interest in having a relationship with his children.

You have tried your best. If you want to have to put this through the years continue getting warrents etc. If you want to let go of the frustration and irratation, leave it. Your obviously doing a better job at raising your kids on your own without the money.

thanks ellie for your reply
although i said im in a gud job which i am and give my children all they need im still having to provide enough money that normally a 2 parent house would have to take in to surive
but saying that most of my weekly income is benfit money(which im not proud to say) but i have no choice.
i still have to pay for car all all the extras that involved in it..
2 loans, weekly shopping, clothes, child minding for the youngest, playschool fees for the eldest etc etc..

although i have said i dont need his money to family because it looks like im relying on his help still
but when the warrents were put in place a large amount of money is due back to me in back pay which is intising,
as im in for a council house( and people are saying ive great chances)
the money would come in so so handy as you can imagine.
wat im thinking of once i get the bulk of money i leave it at that
sounds bad i know but its for the kids and a new home(hopefully)

TheZohanS

glezo wrote: »

thanks ellie for your reply
although i said im in a gud job which i am and give my children all they need im still having to provide enough money that normally a 2 parent house would have to take in to surive
but saying that most of my weekly income is benfit money(which im not proud to say) but i have no choice.
i still have to pay for car all all the extras that involved in it..
2 loans, weekly shopping, clothes, child minding for the youngest, playschool fees for the eldest etc etc..

although i have said i dont need his money to family because it looks like im relying on his help still
but when the warrents were put in place a large amount of money is due back to me in back pay which is intising,
as im in for a council house( and people are saying ive great chances)
the money would come in so so handy as you can imagine.
wat im thinking of once i get the bulk of money i leave it at that
sounds bad i know but its for the kids and a new home(hopefully)

Let the guards do their job, sooner or later they will catch up with him.

On your other post you said you were well paid and wouldn't mind having another child, from this post it seems as if you should hold back on having more children until you are able to support yourself.

Femelade

I am in the exact same situation..(i have a post in Parenting forum at the moment)
i have to ring the guards every few weeks to see if they have gotten any money from him, which they never do..
another warrent goes out..he moves house, they cant find him.
back to square one..
I have no idea what you should do!! i dont know myself.
but what i will say is..dont let it go...you are minding his 2 children..you deserve and need this money.

@ellie1..
100 pw may not be much to some people, but thats over 5 grand in the year and I would think it was so very much worth the hassle.

consultech

glezo wrote: »

most of my weekly income is benfit money
... i still have to pay for car all all the extras that involved in it...
2 loans...as im in for a council house

TheZohan wrote: »

On your other post you said you were well paid and wouldn't mind having another child

[/tongue bite]

What kind of access was he allowed for the money he failed to pay?

I would add that €100 tax-free per week is a not a nominal amount.

ellie1

FEMMY: I was not or didnt mean to imply that the op could do without the money.. but think of how much time and energy you are giving to your ex when he is clearly uninterested in having a relationship with his children either emotionally of finacially.

At the end of the day, you are still getting by on what you do have, i went through a period with no work for a short while and yes it was difficult on benifits and I didnt get out much but I didnt get in to debt nor starve nor go without heat or clothes. I know a girl who has two children and gets no maintenance and lives on benifits she gets by.(she drives, she pays her bills on time, her children are well fed, clothed and looked after) No, she doesnt go on foreign holidays or take her children to the cinema every week. Her children are just as loved and cared for as any other child with both parents working. She hopes to get back to work in the next couple of years and looks forward to having the money to take her children away for a holiday.

Yes, 5000 euro would go a long way but in the larger scheme of things , I didnt have much growing up. I was fed, washed, had a warm bed to sleep in and had clothes to wear. Do I remember the toys and treats I wanted but didnt get....No. Am i emotionally damaged because of it? No.

My opinion is that if a man cannot "man up" and take financial and emotionally responsibility for his children without being hunted down by the mother, the guards and the courts.... ask yourself is he really worth the bother?

glezo

TheZohan wrote: »

On your other post you said you were well paid and wouldn't mind having another child, from this post it seems as if you should hold back on having more children until you are able to support yourself.

can you tell me where i said im not able to support myself ????????????

excatly no where
question answered

glezo

consultech wrote: »

[/tongue bite]

What kind of access was he allowed for the money he failed to pay?

I would add that €100 tax-free per week is a not a nominal amount.

as i said he never came to vist children in almost 2 years although i asked him to come for birthdays and xmas, but no reply

so saying that he never went to court to get access..


how you mean 100 euro tax-free........what is the normal amount

sardineta

"The problem with socialism is that eventually you run out of other people's money."

glezo

sardineta wrote: »

"The problem with socialism is that eventually you run out of other people's money."

sardineta can you please make better sense outta this thread as i dont understand it
thanks

luckat

Rather than pursuing him in person, maybe you could go back to court and seek a lien on anything he earns to pay your children's maintenance? If he's paying PRSI, this should be possible.

glezo

luckat wrote: »

Rather than pursuing him in person, maybe you could go back to court and seek a lien on anything he earns to pay your children's maintenance? If he's paying PRSI, this should be possible.

thanks luckat,
i googled it and it only seems if you have property or mortage something to do with that
maybe theirs more to it i must research more into it..

i also know that the court can set up a draft to take the money directly out of his wages via his boss