Don't enjoy Sex

LegacyUser

I'm a healthy male in my 20's but have been single for a couple of years mainly due to the fact that i don't get any pleasure from sex.

I have a tight foreskin that won't retract when erect and i have never felt any sensation when having intercourse with my ex girlfriends. It just became a chore and eventually led to 2 break-ups.

I've heard guys saying that sex should still be pleasurable even with a tight foreskin. Has anybody been in a similiar situation and what have you done to sort the problem?

Do i need to fully retract the foreskin to enjoy sex. Is it that simple. Any advice apreciated. Thanks for reading.

MagicMarker

If you've never felt ANY sensation during sex then something is seriously wrong, either that or you and your previous girlfriends are just completely clueless when it comes to bedroom activities.

You need to get your ass to a doctor.

Do you masturbate?

LegacyUser

im not sure if this is a joke or not so im not loggin in under my user name!!

But anyways why don't you get circumcised (sorry if my spelling is wrong)

My BF has this done (now to be fair it was done at birth so not sure how painful it would be in your 20's) but we both love it!! and to be fair its much nicer when its not wearing a polo neck!!

Anyway it cant be that bad and if you get your sex life back on track well its defo worth it dont ya think?

minidazzler

Phimosis (unretractable Foreskin) reduces sensation alot!!! It really does, I advise you discuss your options with your GP. Adult Circumcision would be one, also if it is just your Banjo string holding it up, aparently they can do something about it.


I have the same problem, but I am not going to a doctor about something like that, because I get my pleasure from giving my partner of the day pleasure.

LegacyUser

What does not getting any pleasure from sex have to do with being clueless. Silly thing to say. I just find that penetrative sex gives me no pleasure whatsoever. Before i go to my GP i am just hoping to get some feedback from any guys who are or were in the same boat.

Any guys who have a tight foreskin, how is sex for you? Is it pleasurable?

994

I think Louis XVI had the same condition, but even back then they had the capability to sort it out. Just try not to lose your head! (sorry)

That is a bit odd. Definately consult your GP about it. This may seem like a silly question, but when you had no sensation during intercourse, was this with or without a condom?

MagicMarker

Unreg1 wrote: »

What does not getting any pleasure from sex have to do with being clueless. Silly thing to say. I just find that penetrative sex gives me no pleasure whatsoever. Before i go to my GP i am just hoping to get some feedback from any guys who are or were in the same boat.

Any guys who have a tight foreskin, how is sex for you? Is it pleasurable?

Sex is pleasurable regardless of whether or not you have tight foreskin. Unless it's so tight that it's painful.

And no offence, if it isn't painful for you, then maybe you are a little clueless when it comes to sex? Because you're obviously doing something wrong.

MagicMarker

MagicMarker wrote: »

Sex is pleasurable regardless of whether or not you have tight foreskin. Unless it's so tight that it's painful.

And no offence, if it isn't painful for you, then maybe you are a little clueless when it comes to sex? Because you're obviously doing something wrong.

I have to somewhat agree.

Do some research. Buy a sex-guide. Look things up online. Hell even look at some pornos. Sex is what you make it!

LegacyUser

MagicMarker, i am far from clueless about how to please a women. Giving pleasure is not the problem. Getting any pleasure from penetrative sex is not happening. What do you not understand about that. Your comments are both unconstructive and childish.

If a fair few guys reply to this thread telling me that sex should be fine even with a tight foreskin then obviously something is seriously wrong and being a guy its not something i'm in the habit of openly discussing with friends. I'm just gathering as much feedback as possible before deciding what to do next. I've put the problem to the back of my mind for about 2 years but am doing something about it now.

Lets get away from whether i'm doing the act properly. That is not the issue. I've had 3 girlfriends and many sexual partners and have no issue with performing. I can get off masturbating no problem.

I'd appreciate any mature comments from guys who might have been in a similiar situation. Thanks again for reading.

Wibbs

MagicMarker wrote: »

Sex is pleasurable regardless of whether or not you have tight foreskin. Unless it's so tight that it's painful.

It's not pleasurable for him, which presumably is why he's posting. I mean the thread title kinda gives the game away. Its hardly written in code. He can't retract it. so the extremely sensitive and pleasurable glans is not exposed in a normal way, therefore limiting his pleasure.

And no offence, if it isn't painful for you, then maybe you are a little clueless when it comes to sex? Because you're obviously doing something wrong.

Where you got that from I honestly have no clue. Calling him clueless in this brusque manner is about as welcome as a fart in a spacesuit. If there's the wrong end of the stick you're grabbing it.

unreg1 wrote:

If a fair few guys reply to this thread telling me that sex should be fine even with a tight foreskin then obviously something is seriously wrong and being a guy its not something i'm in the habit of openly discussing with friends. I'm just gathering as much feedback as possible before deciding what to do next. I've put the problem to the back of my mind for about 2 years but am doing something about it now.

OK how tight are we actually talking here? Will it retract when you're on the drop for example? If it does well then practice retracting it when it's flaccid.

Lets get away from whether i'm doing the act properly. That is not the issue.

I agree.

I've had 3 girlfriends and many sexual partners and have no issue with performing. I can get off masturbating no problem.

Yep but maybe it's how you're masturbating that's partially the thing. A thread here the other day on circumcision, had a post by a guy who linked to a page which suggested that many guys with this problem, ended up this way, because they weren't jacking off correctly(I know weird). They weren't moving the foreskin back and forth over the glans(knob) from early on and this over time restricted the foreskins movement. Ah here it is; http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=59190578&postcount=9
Seems logical enough. The skin will be stretchy. It's probably among the stretchiest skin on the body. If I can eat like a horse, put on ten stones and my belly skin stretches, or a woman can be pregnant with triplets and within months her belly skin stretches, I would imagine ones polo neck will stretch with some effort too.

I would go to a doctor, in case there are other issues involved. If you're diabetic then the skin will scar on the foreskin and would likely require a circumcision. Or of your banjo string is tight that might require a small op to sort. I personally would not go for the circumcision as a first option and too many doctors(again IMHO) go too quickly for that without trying less invasive procedures. Put it another way, very few men with a fully functioning foreskin would have it removed.

Faith

I have to wonder why you're waiting to hear from a bunch of strangers on an internet forum rather than going to talk to your highly-trained doctor about it? Surely if it's bothering you enough to ask about it here, it's bothering you enough to ask a doctor about it?

Cuddlesworth

Unreg1 wrote: »

I'm a healthy male in my 20's but have been single for a couple of years mainly due to the fact that i don't get any pleasure from sex.

I have a tight foreskin that won't retract when erect and i have never felt any sensation when having intercourse with my ex girlfriends. It just became a chore and eventually led to 2 break-ups.

I've heard guys saying that sex should still be pleasurable even with a tight foreskin. Has anybody been in a similiar situation and what have you done to sort the problem?

Do i need to fully retract the foreskin to enjoy sex. Is it that simple. Any advice apreciated. Thanks for reading.

I'm not going unregged for this.

Your not alone, but seriously see a doctor. Depending on how bad you are you could spend a long time trying to stretch the skin on your own without the help of surgery or some creams you can be provided with.


And to anybody who says this doesn't happen. It does and it is quite disturbing.

MagicMarker

Wibbs wrote: »

It's not pleasurable for him, which presumably is why he's posting. I mean the thread title kinda gives the game away. Its hardly written in code. He can't retract it. so the extremely sensitive and pleasurable glans is not exposed in a normal way, therefore limiting his pleasure.

To quote the OP, he has ''never felt any sensation when having intercourse''.

Speaking as someone with phimosis, I can safely say this is not normal, regardless of whether or not the glans is exposed.

Unreg1 wrote: »

MagicMarker, i am far from clueless about how to please a women. Giving pleasure is not the problem. Getting any pleasure from penetrative sex is not happening. What do you not understand about that. Your comments are both unconstructive and childish.

If a fair few guys reply to this thread telling me that sex should be fine even with a tight foreskin then obviously something is seriously wrong and being a guy its not something i'm in the habit of openly discussing with friends. I'm just gathering as much feedback as possible before deciding what to do next. I've put the problem to the back of my mind for about 2 years but am doing something about it now.

Lets get away from whether i'm doing the act properly. That is not the issue. I've had 3 girlfriends and many sexual partners and have no issue with performing. I can get off masturbating no problem.

I'd appreciate any mature comments from guys who might have been in a similiar situation. Thanks again for reading.

I'm not attacking your manhood so don't take it so personal! I'm not trying to criticize your ability to satisfy a woman ffs. Just because you don't like my comments doesn't make them immature, IMO if you can get off via masturbation but have NO sensation during sex then I firmly believe you are doing SOMETHING wrong.

LegacyUser

Thats for that feedback Wibbs. Much Appreciated.

Masturbation is no problem because with foreskin friction with the glans i am getting enough stimulation and can come as easily as the next guy.

I have a very tight foreskin and have tried many different positions when having sex to try and overcome the problem and i guess that because my glans is not exposed at all then i'm not going to feel any sensation but then according to some guys i still should be feeling some sensation. Thats slightly worrying.

Yeah, a trip to the doctor is a certainty over the next week. I'll probably end up having to have some sort of operation but i'll be more than happy to get it looked into if i can have a normal sex life.

Wibbs

MagicMarker wrote: »

IMO if you can get off via masturbation but have NO sensation during sex then I firmly believe you are doing SOMETHING wrong.

Maybe not. If hes stimulating his glans through the foreskin with heavy enough pressure, then intercourse won't replicate that, so he'll feel bugger all. I mean I have that with condoms. Without them the light going on would turn me on, with them? very little.

LegacyUser

Thats exactly the problem Wibbs. Penetration doesn't give me enough stimulation. I may as well stick my penis in a hole in wall lol as opposed to a vagina. Now, if i had a fully working penis where as soon as i get an erection, my head becomes fully exposed, i'm guessing i would be having a very active and fulfilling sex life but i've never experienced this so i don't know what it feels like but i'm still quite young and will hopefully be able to get it sorted now.

Nevyn

Or he hasn't had sex with a female who tight enough down there for him,
there are all sorts of varibles.

But really go to your dr.

Stheno

Thaedydal wrote: »

But really go to your dr.

+1 personally I think mental health and sexual health issues are not given the importance they deserve by people due in many cases to embarrassment.

It's not easy to go into a GP and bring up either, but the results in my opinion may well be worth it, and the sheer relief of talking things through with someone unbiased IRL can bring it's own reward.

Best of luck OP:)