Depressed

elcat

Hey ya,

don't even know if this is the right place to type this.
I have done something really really stupid at work. I am sure this will lead to my employment be terminated.
Thing is if this happens what will I do. Hard to get a job after been dismissed for gross misconduct. I am so depressed and upset and don't know where I can go from here.
I just want to go to bed and never get up again.

any one out there who can advise me what to do and how I can get out of the mess
thanks for the responses.

I accessed information I shouldn't have. There was no malice in what I did. I was messing on the system and it opened up records I shouldn't have. Thing is I panicked (I may have never got found out). I should have not said anything but I confessed to my boss what I did. I apologised and even advised that I was scared that this could cost me my job. I am dreading the consequences.

Beaucoupfish

what did you do? did you forget to buy teabags or rape assault a co-worker?
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Miss Fluff

What happened at work that leads you to believe they are going to let you go?

twanda

Op it's kind of hard to advise on how you can get out of the mess without knowing a bit about what you actually did.

Beaucoupfish

p.s. if you have to look for a job, better get yourself a hobby as there none at the moment. I know because i lost my job last year and i still can't secure a full-time contract. just odd jobbing and it's usually back breaking physical stuff.

keep your chin up though things could always be worse than losing your job. You can easily tell people you were laid off.

LegacyUser

Ok - so you've done something really stupid and may lose your job because of it but - nobody died ok? I know you must be in the horrors but remember that it's not the end of the world.

Also, have you been caught out yet? And if not, is there a high possibility that you will be? If there is, would you consider going to your immediate supervisor, owning up to it, tell them that you realise it was a stupid mistake and offer to do something in order for you to make amends. Throw yourself at their mercy and tell ask them to put you on a probationary period so that you can prove you are a. sorry and b. still a valuable employee.

I suppose it all depends on how bad this stupid thing is. Do you have an employee handbook or is there a set of guidelines in your company detailing a disciplinary procedure. If they have some kind of HR department they surely will have a procedure and will need to follow that before they can sack you unless as you say, it is a matter of gross misconduct which may lead to instant dismissal. If you are there for more than a year, you have more rights.

If worst comes to worst and you do get the sack, you won't be the only one joining the dole queues and the general public don't necessarily need to know why - people will just presume you got laid off due to recession cut backs.

Main thing is to remember that this too will pass, keep your head above the water. Everyone makes stupid, embarrassing mistakes sometimes. If you can manage not to let this get on top of you, you will move on, grow, learn, correct your mistakes, be happy again. Chin up!

Zaph

Beaucoupfish wrote: »

what did you do? did you forget to buy teabags or rape assault a co-worker?
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Miss Fluff wrote: »

What happened at work that leads you to believe they are going to let you go?

Please don't pester the OP for details. They said that what they did is serious enough to lose their job, that's all we need to know.

star-pants

Well without knowing what you did exactly - it's hard to tell you how to rectify the situation. But if as you say it's bad enough for dismissal - then all you can do is take responsibility for your actions, apologise to whomever you need to and hope for the best.
There's no point in making yourself sick with worry until you know the definite outcome. And if you are dismissed - just get back out there looking for another job. You won't be refused all jobs just because you've been dismissed once. Obviously the sitution that occured will have effects on future jobs depending on what happened but you're not the first or the last person to make a mistake and take the fall for it.

Nevyn

On a dr can say if you are depressed, I would suggest you go talk to your gf asap.

elcat

thanks for the responses.
I accessed information I shouldn't have. There was no malice in what I did. I was messing on the system and it oepned up records I shouldn't have. Thing is I panicked (I may have never got found out). I should have not said anything but I confessed to my boss what I did. I apologised and even advised that I was scared that this could cost me my job. I am dreading the consequences.

estar

will see that you didnt mean and are now so terrified that you will never attempt to do it again.

so this all hangs on the common sense of your boss. realistically, isnt it rather a control sign that information can be easily accessed by someone messing around and didnt you just do him a favour by saying it to him. doenst this rather prove your trustworthiness than your dis honesty?

shouldnt he be more concerned about how this information came to be floating around with you able to access it.

stop handing them your resignation on a plate. instead frame this positively for them.

i would start by not bringing this up again, and keeping your head down unless they bring it up.

then i would be saying - well yes i mistakenly accessed the system - but i didnt breach my contract as i immediately brought this to your attention allowing you to put a control in place.

see where this gets you.

LegacyUser

What do you want OP? Do you want someone to go 'there there it will be alright'?

You need to take responsibility for your actions. If it leads to your employment being terminated it must have been serious enough to warrant it. There is nothing anyone here can do to change your situation. Deal with it.

LegacyUser

Your honesty in owning up is what will win this for you. If you were in such a panic it will have been blatantly obvious to your boss that it was a complete accident. How did your boss react? That should give you an indication of what is to follow. Can you talk to him/her again and ask what is going to happen as you're losing sleep over it with worry. You will more than likely get a good talking to about what keys you press on your keyboard but that should be it - everyone makes mistakes, and you owned up straight away. As for being depressed, I can't say, but this may be just a sinking panicky feeling about the situation, definitely a chat with a doctor is the only way to know. I'd try the boss again first, or HR for a confidential chat. Good luck, hopefully it'll blow over.

theirish

Just look at it like this, is it something that you really think you will be worrying about next year…. Your boss has probably been around the block and has come across a lot worse. I get the feeling you are getting overcome by something that in a week or so you’ll feel a lot better about. Ride the storm and you’ll be fine.

In my humble opinion……