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Trust

  • 23-02-2009 3:07am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I find it hard to trust my boyfriend of three years. I dont know if its him or me? He always has his eyes All over other girls which makes me feel crap! And i mean Every girl that walks by. I mean if i saw another couple and the guy was just checking out Every girl i would feel sorry for his girlfriend! He had many one night stands before we met and was never in a serious relationship. We are very close but I fear he will cheat on me or go behind my back. I was never paranoid until I met him.

    Any advice?


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  • #2
    Nitxteha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 139 ✭✭Nitxteha


    Does he know how you feel? You cannot be paranoid by him just looking at other girls, ignore his attitude, maybe he's only doing it to get attention from you. If that doesn't work, just say that his attitude makes him look like a pervert and you feel ashamed ;)

    Regarding his past..is past..everybody has one we like it or not and you cannot do anything about it.

    If he's with your already 3 years it's because he cares for you, don't you think so?

    Why don't you trust him? Did you notice anything else to make you think he's cheating?

    Put yourself in his shoes and imagine how you'd feel if he didn´t trust you.


  • #3
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Paranoid???? wrote: »
    I find it hard to trust my boyfriend of three years. I dont know if its him or me? He always has his eyes All over other girls which makes me feel crap! And i mean Every girl that walks by. I mean if i saw another couple and the guy was just checking out Every girl i would feel sorry for his girlfriend! He had many one night stands before we met and was never in a serious relationship. We are very close but I fear he will cheat on me or go behind my back. I was never paranoid until I met him.

    Any advice?
    Youre obviously bothered by his history, you should take it up with him. Let him know exactly how it makes you feel when he walks around checking out every girl he meets. Ask him sincerely if he sometimes wonders about being out of the relationship. Not an issue to sit idly on.

    If he wants to leave, you should encourage him to do so. Because if he is eyeing women up out of want and not habit, he runs the risk of cheating on you, frankly. And when he does it will be to piss away your relationship. To save the time and heartache of everyone involved, he should be able to honestly say "I want to commit to this relationship and I am sorry for looking at other women like that" or honestly say "You're right, I'm wasting your time, I don't know that I can commit to this relationship anymore."


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