Does it ever get easier?

LegacyUser

I have decided to go unreg for this one.Im an 18 year old male who has a problem with the...yes you guessed it...women.I'm in my final year of secondary and I have never had a serious relationship.I'd be meeting someone for a while but then it would just kinda fizzle out.A few friends of mine have good 'contacts' whom they have collected over time.I have none.The only small scraps of hope I cling to are a few of my sisters friends with whom I entertain the idea that there could be something there.They would be a year older than me.This is just based on a few fleeting conversation interspersed over the years.

When I go to clubs I talk to a few girls but I get dis-heartened so quickly.I don't want meaningless conversation I want something more.This must sound strange seen as most my age don't care either way.Is it wrong to be on the look-out for a relationship first?I think my problem is that I'm too idealistic.

I digress but my main question is that is this just my immaturity shining through{hormones etc}Or am I right in what I'm thinking?I guess what you could say is that i'm looking for a grown-up hollywood relationship at 18.Is this realistic?

liah

Yes and no. You just gotta kind of push through it. Some start young. You might change your mind. I did. Had heavy relationships early, and then decided I just wanted flings later on.

So it goes.

LegacyUser

First of all, you are in your final year and on the home straight. Focus on your exams in the short term.

Medium term: At the end of the day the bar scene isn't a wonderful place to meet people you might want to date. If you are hitting college or work next year get involved in clubs and socs. Look for someone who has similar interests in you and try and find some common ground on which to start.

Long term: it does get easier! Just enjoy living, focus on the positives not the negatives. This will shine through and you'll find your way

Faith

Very few of my friends had been in serious relationships in leaving cert. I'm 22 and in my first serious one now.

When you get to college, you'll start to meet loads of new girls and loads of new opportunities will open up. Don't fret too much! You're completely normal. But no, I don't think you'll ever find a "Hollywood relationship" at any age, never mind 18.

alexandros

no

bluecell99

Forget everyone else and their so called relationships and that you have to be in one to fit in !!!!!!!You are young and have a lot of life to see and living to do.Focus on one thing at a time and enjoy each day.If a relationship is meant to happen it will - whether you are 18 or 38 pr 58.You cant force it.You will know when it is right.

Be yourself and remember many relationships fail and put serious pressure on people which they do not need.Especially when you arwe just starting out.

relax and ignore other peoples situations.Everytthing is not always what it seems.If you contrive something or try too hard then it is doomed to fail.

Enjoy.................