Think I'm gone off men...

LegacyUser

Since I came out of a long term relationship about 12 months ago I haven't found myself being attracted to a man at all, I don't know why, I've met quite a few that on paper look great but nothing clicks.

I love the excitment of having a crush, the flirting & wondering if he likes you too, how great it feels when you know that he does. Sure enough it often fizzles out to nothing, sometimes it goes further as in the last time when I ended up in a four year relationship. Even in a relationship I met guys I was attracted to, obviously it wouldn't have gone any further than a bit of flirting but at least I knew that I still felt something and that men still found me desirable.

Right now I feel kind of numb towards men. I met one recently that I know likes me, he works with a clients company, he is a lovely guy and we get on really well. I've been going through the motions as regards flirting & we've emailed a little bit. Even find myself making sure I look extra nice on the days I'm due to be at his company. But deep down I know that it's only out of boredom , I don't feel attracted to him and I don't get that sort of giddy feeling that I would have gotten before and I know that if it came down to it I wouldn't want it to go any further.

Has anyone ever had this ... is is just a phase? am I sentenced to a lifetime of indifference towards the opposite sex? What is wrong with me?

Wibbs

I'd say a phase. I've gone through phases like that about women too. With me I might be sexually attracted but beyond that little enough.

sardineta

You say you're 12 months out of a 4 year relationship? Your reaction would be uncommon but not unexplained. Rule of thumb is it takes half as long as the length of relationship to be able to move on. (Hopefully so, then I'm good to go myself in another couple of months)

drunkmonkey

it's just a phase, you'll get that giddy feeling back, just might take a little longer than one date this time round....no harm in being single and taking a little "me" time, I wouldn't feel under any pressure to swoon over every guy that walks along....your just taking a break for a while that's all....

Loxosceles

I know how you feel. I'm there as well, and have no idea when I'll be ready again, maybe never. Not that I feel particularly inclined to be emotionally vulnerable to a male ever again, and with my CV of apparent losers whose advertising was not the product from about 1994 to now, nobody on earth would blame me- not even a woman in Pakistan with two black eyes and punched out teeth ordered to walk 5 steps behind her youngest son.

nice_guy80

and with my CV of apparent losers whose advertising was not the product from about 1994 to now, nobody on earth would blame me- not even a woman in Pakistan with two black eyes and punched out teeth ordered to walk 5 steps behind her youngest son.

I think you've been watching too much Blackadder. or something of similar sarcastic value

LegacyUser

Completely understand where your coming from. Even though i was the one who ended the relationship with my boyfriend I felt like that for a long time. I didn't want a man in my life and couldn't bear the thought of it tbh! Then all of a sudden my current boyfriend appeared and all the old feelings of giddyness etc came rushing back. Just give yourself time and don't rush anything, enjoy being single, you'll know when it feels right! x

Nevyn

It happens, you just aren't intrested due to the stress and hassle the last one caused
and you are still healing up from the hurt in the last relationship so it's like you have your
man receptors turned off and just don't notice or digg them.