Think my boyfriends cheating

katie 2

my boyfriend says he loves me but lately im thinking hes been doing the dirty. When im with him hes always txtn till the early hours of the morning, im prob. being paranoid, but he sent a txt well babes, u make me so happy. am i over reacting or does mean something,

biko

Cheating by texting someone else or cheating in real life?
Is there something else that makes you wonder?

marti101

Who did he send the text too.Is he guarding his phone a little to well,taking phone calls in to the garden.Bringing his phone to the loo.If the answers yes it doesnt look too good.Have it out with him and ask him.But keep your eyes and ears peeled.And usually if you have these feelings and suspicions its usually right.

jellie

have you asked him who hes texting?

budgemook

my girlfriend is always looking at me when i'm texting someone and asking why is my phone on silent and always making comments that i mind my phone too well. I'm not cheating but i know she has her suspicions. sometimes i feel bad using internet around her cos she thinks i'm messaging someone. i'm close to breaking up with her over it.

so maybe he is, but maybe he isn't. talk to him

katie 2

how can i, i cant admit i read his txts

just wonder is he, do u say to a friend u make me so happy

a girl, no not really, how can i confront him, i know i shouldnt have read his txts i cant admit that to him

id just say txtn the other gf yea, hed say ya joking

John Mason

seriously how do you expect us to answer you? the mind reading forum is over there

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ask your bf if he is in love with his mobile phone

katie 2

i know, ill just confront him

budgemook

you read his texts? maybe not trusting him drove him to it. but yeah, maybe not cheating but he's probably at least thinking about it if he's sending messages like that

Salome

You're gonna have to just ask him - you won't get the answers off us.

katie 2

yep i no stupid thing to do

i know thanks for the advice guys

John Mason

maybe you just don't understand his text speak?

katie 2

thats what i taught to, maybe its just a friend, ill confront him, but i have to admit i read his txts, god im so stupid

budgemook

ah i can understand why you read them. i never read my girlfriends texts but at the same time i've never suspected her of cheating even for a second. for all i know, if i did i might be reading them and hacking her email account or god knows. i say i'm not a jealous person but i've never had reason to be.

bit of a catch 22 here i suppose. one side says dont read his texts cos it shows lack of trust but the other says maybe he's not to be trusted.

if you dont trust him completely, then there is a big problem whether he's cheating or not. if he's not cheating i'd say he'll be furious that you were so untrusting that you read the texts. but then again, if he is, i guess you'll be glad you did. tough times ahead i reckon.

trust is very important in a relationship. if it's not there, there is very little point carrying on and this may be why i might soon become single again.

LegacyUser

dont confront him. Just observe him for while, if he is cheating, you will see more suspicious things.

If you tell him you read his texts he may go mad. And how about if thats only the sister or a good friend, even a joke to a good male friend! Imagine the embarrasment for you of that is the case..

Dont look for proves that he is cheating. Just keep your eyes wide open but dont get paranoid.

LegacyUser

I supected my partner of cheating when he kept taking the phone to the toilet and was never out of his sight, I Read a message one day and it said maybe we should get a shared place together, to which he said it was a guy, oh yes he was leaving at this point after 12years together, but the answer to the question is Yes he is texting a girl and yes you have a right not to trust him

Evertonia

I'm glad you feel so insecure. It is only right since you read his texts. You shouldn't be reading his texts!

Evertonia

So your blaming your dad for the whiole lot. This is the person without which as a guarantor you could not have got a mortgage. Grow up and take your medicine!!

Evertonia

sorry misposting last time

LegacyUser

Hi, just thought i'd through my 2 cents in cos a similiar scenario happened to me. About 7 years ago I read my boyf texts. I didn't suspect him of cheating or anything like that, I was just being nosy while waiting for him. I found a text saying "night babes, x". The name was just initials so I didn't know who it was. We were planning a party so when we were together I asked him for his phone and I scrolled through the list of names in front of him pretending to bo looking for party guests. When i got to the intials i asked him who it was and he gave me a boys name. So i got up and walked out and later i admitted everything to him. It turns out he was in touch with a girl from his past, flirting and they were planning to meet up although they hadn't yet. I was heart broken, i'd be going out with him 3 years at this stage. We broke up for a while but after a lot of soul seraching we got back together after a short time. That was 7 years ago and i trust him completly now, though it did take a while. I have never look at his phone or anyone elses since......i learned now to be nosey the hard way. In hindsight i'm glad, cos if it had gone on and they had met, there would be no way to go back to a good relationship. To be honest, it nearly broke me, I trusted him utterly before that so it did change me permenetly. i'm sorry you are going through this but this may not mean the end of your relationship. Admit all to him. And explain that altough you were wrong to read his texts, you were feeling insecure, if he's not chaeting and loves you., he'll understand. If he is cheating its better knowing now that later!



best of luck, i feel so bad for you!!

Freethinker

I dont know why everyone is being so PC about the whole thing. Whether it was wrong to read the text or not, he is cheating on you or planning it. Blokes would never send that to a male mate and only to a female mate that they plan on porking.

I had the same situation and waited and analysed everything else for other signs when i just should have said "You cheated so im gone".

carlybabe1

Evertonia wrote: »

I'm glad you feel so insecure. It is only right since you read his texts. You shouldn't be reading his texts!

See I dont get this, whats the problem if theres nothing to hide
I genuinely believe that the whole "its his/her privacy" is just a get out clause for people who have been caught out,

LegacyUser

I was in the same situation with my g/f. First I noticed a change in her patterns. I watched how she behaved, especially with her phone.
Is he going out with the lads more??
Working late?
Making more of an effort with his appearance?
New clothes?

And most importantly does he want to know what your'e up to, where you are, what time youre coming over, etc, etc.

So what if you looked at his phone, I looked at my ex's and found a lot of evidence.
My story is on here entitled "Girlfriend having an affair". It might help you

CDfm

carlybabe1 wrote: »

See I dont get this, whats the problem if theres nothing to hide
I genuinely believe that the whole "its his/her privacy" is just a get out clause for people who have been caught out,

I love it and its so true.