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I just don't like her

  • 17-02-2009 8:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    i'm female 26, currently sharing a flat with a girl and a guy. The girl I live with (Emma) is very good friends with my best friend.

    My problem is i just do not like emma, i cant explain it, i have absolutely no reason not to, i mean shes always pleasant to me, and i feel terrible about it because shes such good friends with my best friend but i just can't take to her.

    i just find emma very false or something,cant quite put my finger on it, shes the type of person who will absolutely put herself(and her boyfriend) before everyone (including her friends), her/their needs will always come first, an us against the world kinda mentality, i mean thats fine, but i on the other hand am the kind of person who values friendship and loyalty, and would do anything for my friends (as i know they would for me).

    I just can't trust someone like that, and i can't be friends with someone i don't trust.
    I just can't relate to her (her values/opinions are completely opposite to mine) and its driving me nuts! But i feel so gulity when shes being nice/chatting to me, i'm starting to feel 'false' now and i hate it, normally i'd just not be friends/hang around with someone i don't like, but obviously thats not possible seeing as i live with the girl, and shes friends with my friend. :(

    advice/opinions would be welcome


Comments

  • #2
    uoluol
    Closed Accounts Posts: 318 ✭✭uoluol


    Well, there is no law stating that you have to like and be friends with everyone you come across. It's okay not to like Emma. Nothing to feel guilty about. There are plenty of people out there who I work with and in the past and have lived with who I don't like, and I'm sure plenty of people don't like me. But that's life!:)


  • #3
    *Honey*
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 320 ✭✭*Honey*


    Hard one... if you didn't live with her, it wouldn't make too much difference and you could avoid her most of the time. However, living with someone you just can't stomach is tough... I've done it before and it's not funny. I don't suppose you want to move out ... any chance of talking to your best friend about it? Maybe it's something she could help with (hopefully, if she's such a good friend, she'll understand that you don't have to love everyone she does!).


  • #4
    pcworldsucks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43 ✭pcworldsucks


    shes hotter than you, isnt she..


  • #5
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    pcworldsucks please read the charter before posting in this forum again. Unhelpful replies are not welcome here. Any helpful ones you may have are. Thanks

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #6
    Carsinian Thau
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,054 ✭✭✭Carsinian Thau


    You've nothing to feel guilty about. You couldn't possibly like everyone.

    Just remain polite towards her and continue to treat her with respect and you'll be doing nothing wrong. That said, if you feel you can't trust her, then don't. You don't have to be this person's friend to continue living with them.


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