Would you or wouldn't you?

LegacyUser

This a question for the girls if there was this guy you were very attracted to and you knew he was keen also would you resist or try/be able to resist if you worked with him I mean not only in the same building but same area

LegacyUser

Im in that situation - there a guy that i like who i work with but i try to keep away cause i know if anything ever happened id just end up making it awkward. not worth the hassle for me!!!

anniehoo

Ive been there done that ...twice...not a good idea as if or when it goes wrong it becomes sooo uncomfortable work wise. Its hard to resist at the time but imho its not worth the awkward atmosphere afterwards. It may work out though so only you can decide! One lad i can still be civil to..the other one is a nightmare and i hate working near him or having to ask him something on the phone!

/this was over a 5 year span in case anyone thinks im scoring all around me in work hehe!

jmauel

Bad idea definitely! Its best just to keep it professional at work.

Gone Fishin

Go for it, I say. I did with my other half 6 years ago and we have never looked back. Plus we got engaged two weeks ago and are getting married in September. The thing to remember with the work thing is to keep it seperate from your personal life. Don't fall into the trap of the flirty emails etc. because it will be blatantly obvious whats going on!

Good luck!

anonymous_joe

My parents met that way and got married, as I'm sure lots of people did.

purplegeko

Don't do it - if it goes wrong the akwardness would be unbearable

puglover

Hang on a minute... don't jump to conclusions. I know of lots of couples who have met at work, one of which are both good friends of mine and have now been together 4 years and are getting married in September.

You have to consider it carefully but it's not a definite no no. A few things I would think about.

1. You say you work in different areas, how often would you have to interact? Would it make things difficult

2. After past break-ups have you found it ok to meet the ex & interact in a civil manner

3. Are there other couples in the Company... is it "frowned upon"?

4. Would it have major repurcussions for your career if things went wrong? Are your feelings strong enough that it is worth taking a risk?

jim o doom

My opinion on this is that either work colleagues or people that you are sharing a house with; is pooping on your own doorstep - it could end up amazingly uncomfortable if it was only a one night thing or whatever, around the office could be horrible!

However that being said, plenty of times throughout life - work office romances work out good - and again plenty of times it doesn't matter how much you intellectualise something, the hormones/body takes over matters

Good luck either way!

R.D. aka MR.D

check the person isn't already attached, in my experience unless you know a person very well it can be hard to tell.

also i began seeing someone who i worked with and it was a disaster, other work mates getting involved and then he cheated! akward was not the word! unberable!!

LegacyUser

Listen id say go for. What do you have to lose. Im seeing a girl from work at the moment. For 2 years I resisted having anything to do with anyone in the workplace but I have seen so many couples get together or even so many one night stands and there is never a bad atmosphere. Maybe thats just my company but sure if your mature enough to keep things professional in work and seperate work life and private life like I do then its fine.

anniehoo

puglover wrote: »

You say you work in different areas, how often would you have to interact? ?

She says she does work with him in the same area!

Unregistered wrote: »

I mean not only in the same building but same area

I wouldnt be as concerned if it was in the same building as avoiding each other is much easier! Working in the same area is a different kettle of fish! Of course you'll hear loads of stories about couples getting together at work and having a happy ending, just bear in mind it mightnt and the hassle afterwards is reeeeeally not worth it!

Mr. Incognito

God- i really cannot believe people would not date someone they fancy because of WORK.

Sheesh, i find amazing crushes hard to come by- and they work athmosphere afterwards has to do with the maturity levels of the persons. I don't date immature women so wouldn't be a problem

dceire

I got involved with two girls in a small group of us in college over two years, one of which was in my class. Neither lasted more than a couple of months and while it was slightly awkward, for about a week after we broke up, its as if nothing ever happened now & I'm good mates with the two of them.

I say what are you waiting for go for it!

humanji

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

God- i really cannot believe people would not date someone they fancy because of WORK.

Sheesh, i find amazing crushes hard to come by- and they work athmosphere afterwards has to do with the maturity levels of the persons. I don't date immature women so wouldn't be a problem

+1 to that.

I say go for it, especially if you feel he feels the same way. If it goes south then it'll only be as bad as you let it. It happened to me and even though it was embarrassing at first, we just laugh about it now. If you pass up the opportunity it could be the type of thing that'll drive you mad with "What if's".