First Date whats too much??

LegacyUser

Hi All going unreged for this,

Just wondering what is too much for a first date, going on one tonight, this is my first date in over 4yrs, since I broke up with my Fiance in Nov. Still not sure if I'm ready for it but have to get out there again. So if questions come up about past relationships, blah blah blah what do I say leave out the engagment and cancelled wedding, or what. Not sure if I like this guy or not, so I don't want to lead him on either so by not saying anything could do that. but I dont want to come across as a bitter bi**h either . I only know how to be around one man in this way, and I can't do that on a first date with someone I dont know..I thougth I was over all this and doing these 1st dates, they really are not fun ......really dreading it now, feel like I want to cancel!!

AARRRGH

I don't think you should talk about anything serious on a first day. It should be a few pints followed by drunken kissing...

SarahSassy

To be honest you dont sound like you are ready for this so dont push yourself and there is no reason you cant cancel...

Its not long since you split up with your ex fiance and its obviously still raw. I personally would take time to get over this and then start dating. In this state of mind, can a new relationship go anyhere?

If you do decide to meet him I woudl say nothing more than you split up with someone in November. Would not explain any more than than for 7 or 8 dates.

Good luck.

Polleta

Just go with the flow. A first date is usually where you find out where each other works, is from, hobbies... its a bit early for past relationships to come up.

WHat's the worst that could happen this evening? It can't be all that bad!! You will be grand!

MIN2511

You are overthinking things already!

STOP!

Tips:
1. Dress comfortably
2. Don't expect anything from this man
3. Don't talk about your ex!
4. HAVE FUN!

partyguinness

Focus on enjoying yourself.

OP what exactly do you want from the evening?

You really must get things straight in our own head and decide what you want.

LegacyUser

OP here - the problem is text - been texting since sat, and I know most 1date chats already, know where he from, where he working, he knows about me ..... bloody technology!!!!

Thanks for your comments really appriciated!!

LegacyUser

Hey calm down! Dont over think it, you are not interviewing a prospective new husband here, you are just going out for the night!

Say feck all about the ex etc unless it came up, if it does, just keep it general.

Dont mention fiances/broken engagements/cancelled weddings etc! Thats all just too heavy!

If he asks what happened (he wont) just say something vague like 'lets just say it fizzled out' and laugh and change the feckin subject!

Stop pressuring yourself, ex conversations dont come up till MUCH later down the line!

Crash Bang Wall

MIN2511 wrote: »

You are overthinking things already!

STOP!

Tips:
1. Dress comfortably
2. Don't expect anything from this man
3. Don't talk about your ex!
4. HAVE FUN!

Follow this advice