Should I trust my new partner

purejuice

Well were do I start I have started a new relationship (5 months) and things couldnt be better, hes a great guy, would move the world for me, he recently came back in contact with a girl he worked with years ago and they keep in contact via a well known site and they have swapped numbers, I have checked their messages and nothing is being said on there that I should worry about but I feel like I have to check everyday and its making me insanley jealous My last partner who I was with for many years broke my heart and I think this is why I am like this. Do you think I have a reason to doubt this guy or should I walk away before I get hurt again?

AARRRGH

1. Men and women have both male and female friends
2. It is normal for old friends to get back in contact
3. Stop checking his messages, it's disrespectful
4. If he finds out you are checking his messages he will probably dump you

purejuice

I know people have friends of the opposite sex, I do to, but I know if I was to meet up with them friends I wouldnt do anything but how do I know he wouldnt and they have mentioned meeting up at some point

shellyboo

purejuice wrote: »

I know people have friends of the opposite sex, I do to, but I know if I was to meet up with them friends I wouldnt do anything but how do I know he wouldnt and they have mentioned meeting up at some point

How do you know he would? Why do you think he would? You do realise he probably talks to other women in real life too? Perhaps even works with them! And he's not sleeping with them. He's not an uncontrollable animal, he can be faithful, and is being faithful so far.

However, you're in danger of pushing him away with your stalkerish and insecure behaviour. Leave his messages alone, and give him the benefit of the doubt.

partyguinness

You have to trust him otherwise there is no point and the sooner you accept that the better (especially for you).