Head in a mix

highway_2009

hi,
just wondering a few things:

latley i've noticed that ive become stressed about things that i used not be, things like people not replying to calls and texts.ive also found that sometime when i go out and drink a lot, ive done stupid things, like ringing and texting.
to be honest i havent done it too often but sometimes i cant help myself and say things that i dont need to. naturally i feel bad about it after. maybe even depressed.
feeling under pressure with work, moneys, and even personal life after i do the above. seems to be only happening wit one female friend, that i used to think i was very good friends with realy fancied this girl.
how do i stop??? suppose could delete thier number.

also, if i feel like i'm loosing me head a bit, how do i approach it, gp or make appointment with another form of doctor.

af_thefragile

Maybe you could start by putting off the drinks for a while...

Then maybe take up some activity to divert your mind like a sport you like or maybe start going to the gym regularly. This could help with your anxiety and depression.

Its not that hard to contact your gp. Just ring them up and get an appointment. GPs come across all sorts of people and you don't need to feel any weird or anything to speak to your GP. They're not there to judge you but to help you.

LegacyUser

highway_2009 wrote: »

latley i've noticed that ive become stressed about things that i used not be, things like people not replying to calls and texts..

i get stressed too.

I think people are annoyed at me thats why there not texting back, then i start thinking about did i do something wrong

Carroller

highway_2009 wrote: »

latley i've noticed that ive become stressed about things that i used not be, things like people not replying to calls and texts..

I think people are annoyed at me thats why there not texting back, then i start thinking about did i do something wrong

CDfm

highway_2009 wrote: »

hi,
just wondering a few things:

latley i've noticed that ive become stressed about things that i used not be, things like people not replying to calls and texts.ive also found that sometime when i go out and drink a lot, ive done stupid things, like ringing and texting.
to be honest i havent done it too often but sometimes i cant help myself and say things that i dont need to. naturally i feel bad about it after. maybe even depressed.
feeling under pressure with work, moneys, and even personal life after i do the above. seems to be only happening wit one female friend, that i used to think i was very good friends with realy fancied this girl.
how do i stop??? suppose could delete thier number.

also, if i feel like i'm loosing me head a bit, how do i approach it, gp or make appointment with another form of doctor.

Go to your own GP and discuss it with them - they can get you a referal elsewhere should you need it.

Quit the booze for a bit as you cant afford it and delete the number FFS as if she was a friend before - I take it she no longer is.

p~b

I'm like the OP, i do a lot of stupid things when i'm drunk, but the next day when i could be worrying about it i just tell myself it could be worse, a couple of stupid txts and calls arent the end of the world.

af_thefragile

Carroller wrote: »

i get stressed too.

I think people are annoyed at me thats why there not texting back, then i start thinking about did i do something wrong

This brings me to those magical words which you need to tell yourself in such situations, "what else could it be?".

The mind is too hasty to jump onto conclusions that you're at fault and goes off on a tangent accusing itself of hypothetical scenarios. But majority of the times thats not the case. People get caught up in other things that could have resulted in them not giving you the attention you were expecting (or at times giving you the attention you weren't expecting!).
A lot of times its something to do with the person themselves than it is to do with you.


Like consider this scenario. Brian is your best friend. He is the nicest person you've known and you've known him for years. There's nothing that could ever go wrong between the two of ye. But one day when you call Brian up to speak to him, he puts you off in a very harsh way. At first you might get upset but later you'll start to wonder if everything is right with Brian and your mind will probably come to the conclusion that he's having a tough day, hence he couldn't give you the time to speak to.

And now consider another situation. Rob is a manipulative, mean and cold person. You know he'll step over people to get what he wants. One day you get a call from him inviting you to this party he's got at his place. He's really nice to you and speaks to you for a good while making you feel quite important and welcomed. Your mind notices something's not right in here and the first question you ask yourself is what does Rob want?!


So this is just how your mind tends to jump to conclusions based on the references you've got for certain people in your head and lot of times it is not right. You've gotta keep asking yourself what else could it possibly be until you can come up with a more logical answer that is less or non accusive of yourself. Cuz usually you are not the reason for other people's actions. You are not that significant in their lives. Even if they have done something harsh towards you, they didn't do it deliberately to you but rather they were just fulfilling one of their own needs. You've just happened to come in the way. So just remember than and stop beating yourself up over little things or just stop beating yourself up in general!

CDfm

Check out this forum OP and you might get some ideas from it and the links off it

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1015

highway_2009

thanks all.

i should say that i'm not sure if the stupid things i do are just small little things or more than that. i feel very awkard about it after, embarrassed.
i know everyone does stupid things, its more the way i react to them after i more worried about.

also, i'm not out there have a bucket of drink evey nite or weekend, but now and again have too much for myself. i will be making sure that when i do head out that i wont be over indulging.
girl a:
like this wknd, txt a girl asking her out when i was very drunk.... didnt work.
girl b:
send text to someone that i knew would annoy them. and now they are pissed off with me, seems to happen with this girl a bit.maybe 4-5 times in last yr.

maybe just desperate for a girlfriend.
thanks again