Ex's birthday

LegacyUser

my ex and I ended on very bad terms and it was my bday last week. i didnt really expect a bday wish from him but when i didnt get it i kinda feel upset. does anyone wish their ex's a happy bday?

in2dblue

I did one year and got very little thanks for it, and a bit of egg on my face as it had ended on bad terms too.
If it ended badly, there is no real reason to give a birthday wish to your ex as you run the risk of being ignored and that itself can be rejection again if the ex is the one that dumped you..
I really wouldn't be too upset over it, it's totally normal.
I hope you had a lovely birthday apart from that

LegacyUser

thanks in the blue - ive met someone else and i thought this would make it easier to get over my ex - but the bugger is still on my mind sometimes (but not as much). and so when he didn't contact me on my bday just confirmed im better off without him

Pyr0

Exactly ! You're better off without him. Focus on the new guy and move on !

CDfm

Unregistered wrote: »

my ex and I ended on very bad terms and it was my bday last week. i didnt really expect a bday wish from him but when i didnt get it i kinda feel upset. does anyone wish their ex's a happy bday?

the break up must have been really bad and if you are dating someone else maybe he is aware of that?

Why would you wish your ex a happy anything if it was a bad break?

af_thefragile

I don't.
But then, i kinda stopped speaking to her after the breakup.

Its just for me, its an ex, and i've moved on. I've got nothing to do with that person anymore. Guess this approach has come more from necessity than anything else.

LegacyUser

i wouldnt wish him a happy bday cause i dont wish he will have a happy bday - i just thought he might have wished me one for old times sake. he's not aware of new guy. when we parted we both said we didnt want to see each other again - i just thought he might have wished me one anyways. but i guess not. oh well!!

LegacyUser

I got a happy birthday text from my ex. Have to admit I was surprised. Then again we had broken up only two days before. So last friday I returned the favour.

Maybe he just thought, the end is the end.

Firetrap

All depends on what your relationship with your ex is like now. Some people remain friendly with their exes. In that case a text would be fine. Other than that, I think it's better to leave it.

MagicMarker

Unregistered wrote: »

i wouldnt wish him a happy bday cause i dont wish he will have a happy bday - i just thought he might have wished me one for old times sake. he's not aware of new guy. when we parted we both said we didnt want to see each other again - i just thought he might have wished me one anyways. but i guess not. oh well!!

Why are you with someone when you're not even close to getting over your ex?

kaimera

I did..actually it was a bit more elaborate than just a birthday txt or card...balloons to her work. As a friend obviously!

I tend to not do the ordinary.

We didn't end on bad terms, it just wasn't going to work out is all.

TheDollyParton

After breaking up with my ex who I was with for 3 and a half years, and lived with for 2 I sent him a card for his birthday. We were on good terms initially but then he stopped talking to me completely (as it turned out it was because he'd started a new relationship but was too scared to tell me...coward!). It felt like the right thing to do, and I'm happy that I did but all the same I was disappointed when I didn't hear from him on my birthday two weeks later. Be careful that you don't send something or acknowledge it with the expectation that it will be reciprocated because it may not be, and you may therefore be setting yourself up for disappointment.

skywalker

Unregistered wrote: »

i wouldnt wish him a happy bday cause i dont wish he will have a happy bday - i just thought he might have wished me one for old times sake. he's not aware of new guy. when we parted we both said we didnt want to see each other again - i just thought he might have wished me one anyways. but i guess not. oh well!!

So you wouldnt do it for him, but your put out that he didnt do it for you?

Overheal

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
(Belated?) Sry I dont have cake