Bragging about sex?

LegacyUser

Met a guy a few months ago online, we have been gettin on great, texts, calls, etc. We met up once already but due to busy schedules and living in different counties haven't met up since but have stayed in touch and were due to meet this week (Just to note he has been more persistent about this than I have). Anyway spoke briefly on Saturday, all grand so far. So he calls this morning just a regular chat and I asked how was his weekend. To which he replied "Grand, I boned some youngone" I was a little surprised by the arrogance of this statement but said well done are you gonna see her again. To this he replied, " Dunno she was a bit of a slag to give it up on the first night!"

Now the fact that he had sex doesn't bother me, he is a free agent and I have no right to stop him (we have not slept together!) but I am a bit annoyed because it just came across that he was calling purely to brag about this! It was a complete different character like disgustingly arrogant. It actually puts me off the idea of meeting him again. Is it understandable that I am a little annoyed at this or am I just being thick for no reason??

Wibbs

Trying some dumb move to get you jealous maybe? I dunno, sounds a bit dopey all around tbh

cantdecide

Wibbs wrote: »

Trying some dumb move to get you jealous maybe?

This at a stretch. I find it hard to believe someone could be this blase without being soft in the head...

Wagon

Anyone who feels the need to brag about their sex life has **** all else to say to get attention. Or they just want more. Neither of those traits are very posotive. I also admire those double standards, he also put it up on the first night but of course she's the slag. Sounds like a dickhead.

LegacyUser

Ok i would say it's one of three scenarios...

He is trying to make you jealous and this is a tad immature.

or

He is stupid enough to think it's ok to talk to someone about his conquests with someone he is interested in maybe having a relationship with.

or

He is not stupid and knows that it will put you off the idea of meeting him again & save him having to have an uncomfortable conversation.

ibarelycare

OP what age is this guy??? He sounds about 16 to say something like that! Seriously, I can't imagine any right-minded adult saying that. If he was trying to make you jealous he could have been more subtle about it; maybe "Oh this girl was flirting with me blah blah blah" but to say he "boned some youngone!???"

It sounds like you like(d?) him and maybe see (saw?) a future fling/relationship developing but with that flippant comment he showed a complete lack of respect both towards you and women in general. If he liked you, he wouldn't have said something like that.

shellyboo

Unregistered wrote: »

It actually puts me off the idea of meeting him again. Is it understandable that I am a little annoyed at this or am I just being thick for no reason??

A little annoyed? Can I direct you to the 'Delete' function in your phone contacts?

What a complete arse. Men like that shouldn't be let out, let alone near a woman.

TheZohanS

You met a guy online a few months ago, have only met up once despite him wanting to, and now your a bit put out because he shagged another girl?

Sounds as if he's trying to light a fire under your ass and get things going one way or another.

stupidusername

Wagon wrote: »

he also put it up on the first night but of course she's the slag. Sounds like a dickhead.

HA! Dead right! Sounds to me like he's a bit of an arrogant fool. Doesn't sound mature enough to warrant spending time thinking about him...

If I was you I'd be well rid. But if he was all nice n stuff up til then it is possible it was just a put on for your benefit(!) and might deserve a bit of thought.... Up to you really.

What you gonna do?

ManOfMystery

He definitely comes across as a real catch - move on, methinks.

Chucky the tree

Unregistered wrote: »

Ok i would say it's one of three scenarios...

He is trying to make you jealous and this is a tad immature.

Understatement of the year?


OP: You should be delighted you dodgied a bullet.

shellyboo

Chucky the tree wrote: »

OP: You should be delighted you dodgied a bullet.

Exactly. Fool filter ftw. If he can't even TALK about women with respect can you imagine how he treats them?

Karen_*

He didn't just wave a red flag at you OP, he smacked you over the head with it. Ask yourself why you're even giving it brainspace because to me it couldn't me more clear. Get rid.

MadelineNYC

TheZohan wrote: »

You met a guy online a few months ago, have only met up once despite him wanting to, and now your a bit put out because he shagged another girl?

Sounds as if he's trying to light a fire under your ass and get things going one way or another.

The OP aknowledged already that the guy is a free agent. Nothing wrong with him seeing other girls and keeping his options open since they are not in a committed relationship. That said, to talk about it so graphically shows an utter lack of form/class/brains/manners/discretion..pick the world.

I do agree that he's probably trying to light a fire under her. He probably wants to make sure that on their next meeting they WILL have sex. In his dumb way of thinking, telling her about his hook-up with the other girl will somehow motivate the OP to put out..

TBH sounds like a bit of a loser.

TheZohanS

MadelineNYC wrote: »

The OP aknowledged already that the guy is a free agent. Nothing wrong with him seeing other girls and keeping his options open since they are not in a committed relationship. That said, to talk about it so graphically shows an utter lack of form/class/brains/manners/discretion..pick the world.

I do agree that he's probably trying to light a fire under her. He probably wants to make sure that on their next meeting they WILL have sex. In his dumb way of thinking, telling her about his hook-up with the other girl will somehow motivate the OP to put out..

TBH sounds like a bit of a loser.

Completely agree.

nellyelly

Unregistered wrote: »

Met a guy a few months ago online, we have been gettin on great, texts, calls, etc. We met up once already but due to busy schedules and living in different counties haven't met up since but have stayed in touch and were due to meet this week (Just to note he has been more persistent about this than I have). Anyway spoke briefly on Saturday, all grand so far. So he calls this morning just a regular chat and I asked how was his weekend. To which he replied "Grand, I boned some youngone" I was a little surprised by the arrogance of this statement but said well done are you gonna see her again. To this he replied, " Dunno she was a bit of a slag to give it up on the first night!"

Now the fact that he had sex doesn't bother me, he is a free agent and I have no right to stop him (we have not slept together!) but I am a bit annoyed because it just came across that he was calling purely to brag about this! It was a complete different character like disgustingly arrogant. It actually puts me off the idea of meeting him again. Is it understandable that I am a little annoyed at this or am I just being thick for no reason??

He sounds like a complete tosser! No excuse is a valid one for that kind of childish crap, please please don't waste any further time or analysis on him, bin him immediately thank your lucky stars that you didn't bother meeting him!

CDfm

Maybe he doesnt see you as girlfriend material cos it seemed a very blokeish comment to make, Maybe he just sees you as a mate -like one of the lads.