My Girlfriend.....

LegacyUser

.....and I have been living together for around 3 years now. Things have always been pretty good with us, mostly because I was happy to let things slide, but I cannot anymore. You see, my problem is that she is leaving herself go something massive. A once good looking girl is becoming hard to look at. Hair is always untidy, dresses terribly, skin is poor and ashen. She said she was going to get her teeth done about 4 years ago, but has done nothing, and her front two are now rotting out of her head. I dont mean from not washing them, but she just needs dental treatment to get her crowns or something done, but she keeps putting it off. She is constantly sick, like a constant headcold, but will not do anything about it. I continually ask her to go to the doc, but she says it will only be a waste of money.And now she has just starting put on weight, complains about it, while eating chips, and does nothing about it.

At this stage, I pretty much have no attraction for her whatsoever, which kills me as I love her to bits.

I want to point out all these things, but know I will only upset her massive. Question is, how do I get her to look after herself and spruce herself up a bit without hurting her feelings???

LegacyUser

Hiya,

That was me, met the hubby, after 3 years, lost the job, lost the motivation, piled on the weight, personal hygiene, what was that and being honest, he just sat me down and told me.

He told me he loved me and that I was not the person I was when he met me and that it actually wasn't the weight, but it was the fact that I looked like I was just giving up was the problem.

Yes, I was hurt and insulted and offending and distressed and pissed off that he could say that to me, but he was being honest - and I eventually (and I mean eventually) was happy he said it to me.

30lbs later, alot of personal hygiene later and alot of nice high lights later I was happier. BUT ....... It still hurts a little, not that he told me - but the fact I let myself go.

IF YOU LOVE HER - BE HONEST.

LegacyUser

Has she put on weight or lost weight??
How about mood swings?

Worst case senario, could she be on heroin?
A common place for female heroin users to inject is between the toes (cant be seen)