Feel Lost

Fr RomeoSensini

My girlfriend broke up with me 8 months ago after 4 years. I know in my heart and soul that it had to happen and I really wasn't in love with her any more even though I loved her as a person, so I shouldn't be too put out by it but I find myself thinking about her a lot. I have had no contact with her (which I'm sure is for the best), but the last couple of months have been difficult. I have a few very good friends but they're all married off, I;ve a good job where I get on very well with people but when i go out I completely freeze (shy) when I meet new people. I need something to change in my life to help me start enjoying things again, it feels like I'm only passing time until Monday and work starts again. Anyone feel the same??

phishcakes

sounds like you don't believe in yourself, she broke up with you remember? believe in yourself and dont be afraid where only human in the end of day

Fr RomeoSensini

You're right in the lack of self belief .. which shouldn't be the case cos in my relationships at work I'm very confident but it doesn't seem to work that way in my personal relationships. I think I made her finish it though as I didn't want to do it, I know it probably sounds stupid but I didn't want to hurt her but was prepared to get hurt

phishcakes

well ya see in work, people have their guard down, because its work right? wher as, in a nightclubs people have their guard up particulary girls.

ogriofa

might sound weird...but get some exercise.
I'm in a similar enough situation as yourself - exercise gets the old endorphines goin. Get a hair cut, and buy a new jumper.
Sounds a bit crap - but try it. If it doesnt work youll be left with a cool jumper, a decent haircut and something to do mid-week.

Good luck dude

Fr RomeoSensini

You're probably right about the 'guard' being down in work, hadn't really loooked at it that way.

Fr RomeoSensini

Ogriofa .. you might be onto something, I feel a lot better after the Tuesday game of 5 a side ... Off to barbars in the morning!

smch8382

ogriofa wrote: »

Get a hair cut, and buy a new jumper.
Sounds a bit crap - but try it. If it doesnt work youll be left with a cool jumper, a decent haircut and something to do mid-week.

Good idea! From the sounds of it, you aren't really doing anything that you enjoy outside of work. Maybe look into joining a club or team. You'd get to meet more people and there's no pressure like in a bar /club.

Fr RomeoSensini

Thanks .. not really sure why I posted .. just felt like I needed to get thoughts into words .. thanks for replying

phishcakes

ogriofa wrote: »

might sound weird...but get some exercise.
I'm in a similar enough situation as yourself - exercise gets the old endorphines goin. Get a hair cut, and buy a new jumper.
Sounds a bit crap - but try it. If it doesnt work youll be left with a cool jumper, a decent haircut and something to do mid-week.

Good luck dude

i 100 percent agree, exercise releases the natural feel good chemical our old friend endorphines!