How do you refer to himself/herself?!

aoibhebree

I recently got engaged, and I'm finding it hard to get used to the whole "fiance(e)" thing!!

If I'm talking to friends who know us both, I just refer to him by name, but the problem is when I'm talking to people I don't know very well. For example, I might say, "I went to such-a-place for dinner with my fiance", and they start saying, "Oh really you're engaged, tell me all about him, when's the wedding?" and it seems like I only said it because I'm trying to make a big deal out of the fact that I'm engaged! Does anyone else find this? ...

But then he's not my boyfriend anymore. And the term "life partner" is just NOT an option for me :rolleyes:

Bit of a pointless thread really, but I'm bored Anyone got similar experiences?

Glowing

Yes! I hate the 'f' word too ... I'm too old to have a boyfriend, and parter is just well ..... awful!

If you find a good solution, let me know

ecaf

I can't say the 'f' word either, sometimes I have when on the phone to the bank or something on his behalf, other times I say partner... but its after nearly messing up the whole sentence because I'm about to say boyfriend / fiancé / partner.
Don't know what the answer is, I try most of the time to refer to him by name (even to strangers) and avoid the thing about the wedding talk. After saying his name once or twice they usually work out who you are referring to.
I'm looking forward to saying husband soon enough, if anyone has another name other than the 'f' word I would love to know!

NextSteps

I just stick to 'boyfriend', or 'partner' if it's official business. Can't stand 'fiancé'!

m'lady

I cant stand the 'f' word either! I usually say '..my other half'.. which also doesnt sound right!! I also think 'boyfriend' sounds very childish, and I feel like I sound like my 8 year old daughter!

So if anyone can think of a better word?!

Hagar

I hate labels. They somehow force people to act out a role.
Say Brian/Mary or whatever their name is.

Sammag

aoibhebree wrote: »

I recently got engaged, and I'm finding it hard to get used to the whole "fiance(e)" thing!!

If I'm talking to friends who know us both, I just refer to him by name, but the problem is when I'm talking to people I don't know very well. For example, I might say, "I went to such-a-place for dinner with my fiance", and they start saying, "Oh really you're engaged, tell me all about him, when's the wedding?" and it seems like I only said it because I'm trying to make a big deal out of the fact that I'm engaged! Does anyone else find this? ...

But then he's not my boyfriend anymore. And the term "life partner" is just NOT an option for me :rolleyes:

Bit of a pointless thread really, but I'm bored Anyone got similar experiences?

Ha yes I experienced this too when I got engaged (feels like years ago now ) - I felt like a bit of a pretentious twat saying 'my fiancé' too... You skirt around the issue for a while but the longer you are engaged/get closer to the 'big day' you'll probably find yourself becoming more easy with the term as you'll start to realise you have only X amount of time to be legitimately able to use it at all!
Believe me - you'll find the term 'Husband' even weirder and 'Mrs' is a whole other ball game. After 3 years hitched, half the time I still use 'Ms', 'Mrs makes me feel like I'm 55.

MJOR

I refer to him as my boyfriend or "my intended":eek:

r3nu4l

Wow, such problems I never had a problem with it. If someone asked 'do you have the paperwork sir?' or whatever, I might just say 'oh right, yeah, my fiancée has it, hang on a second'.

It depends on how you say it, if you draw the word out (My FI-AN-SAAAAY) and wave your ring finger at people then they know you want to talk about how luvved up you are and how great it is to be engaged but if you say fiancée like any other word people barely notice

Or at least that's how it was before I got married