Teen anxiety

LegacyUser

Hi... i dont know where to start... many people say teenage years are the best years of your life.At the moment I suffer from extreme anxiety.I have no reason to as I should be happy.This makes me even more anxious.I suppose what I am really trying to ask is does it get better?Does anyone else ever feel a certain amount of depression for no reason?
Thanks

LegacyUser

the anxiety is definitely coming from somewhere..

maybe a loss or a change had suddenly occurred in your life?

Faith

I have to say, the idea that your teens years are the best of your life is absolute shít. Being a teenager is really really hard. Your hormones are all over the place for years! But luckily it does get so much better.

R.D. aka MR.D

yes i'm happy to say they do!

i spent many of my teenage years worrying that i wasn't living up the supposed 'best years of your life'. i've no idea why people say that because in my experience they were the worst so far!

liah

That "best years of your life" stuff is bollocks unless you're basically a trust fund kid, incredibly beautiful or totally amazing at sports. Otherwise, it's potentially the toughest and most confusing period of your life.

It's natural to go through stages of anxiety but if it seems to be completely overwhelming you I'd suggest trying to talk to someone about it to get to the bottom of it as it's most likely a deeper underlying issue that you haven't realised is affecting you yet.

It could also be a chemical imbalance, and if it is it's still a good idea to go talk to someone and they'll tell you if it's natural or something to do with how your brain is currently functioning.

Monkey61

The teenage years can be horrible! I don't think I know anyone who thinks they were the best of their lives at all. Hormones are running amock and messing with your head, you don't have any of the control over your life that comes later, so many new experiences and fears without having yet learned how to cope with them. Urrgh, I would hate to have to repeat them.

I was horribly depressed for most of my teens and used to look at everyone around me and feel even more miserable because they all seemed to be having so much fun! They probably weren't though, but at the time it still felt awful.

Anxiety is of course natural, but if it is having a big impact on the quality of your life then you really should talk to someone as it can be too much for you to fix on your own. Could you talk to your parents, relatives or an older brother or sister about it? It would be great for you if you could get them to help you get a few counselling sessions organised because talking to a sympathetic professional about all of your fears and worries would be a big help.

LegacyUser

OP -i spent my teen years always anxious! it was crazy how anxious i was. Im now 25 and way better. but the reason for my anxiety was deep rooted and i figured it out in later years. My dad was controlling so i always tried to get things just perfect thus i was always anxious what people thought of me etc. you gota find out whats making you so anxious.

LegacyUser

Hi
Origina poster here again..Thanks for the replies Im already seeing someone about it but i just wanted to get different views on the situation.Thanks

CDfm

Teen years are supposed to be the best as you do not have responsibility like mortgages family and stuff.

The anxiety stuff - it may be trying to get your own identity. What to wear,whether to drink and develop interests. Ya shyness goes with teenage years.

It might be helpful to get involved in group activities especially school wise - if there is a play or whatever or if there is a youth group somewhere neat you. Even getting something like a saturday job in a shop could help

It does go as you get older as you go to college - work etc.

entropi

Faith wrote: »

Being a teenager is really really hard. Your hormones are all over the place for years! But luckily it does get so much better.

Couldn't have said it better myself!:D
Being a teen is quite tough on the mind, dont know where you're going at all really, school and hormones wrecking your head alot. Its usually safe to say it WILL get better, hopefully for you OP it shall and fyi, my own teen years were not the best either, yet i can grab some happy times if i look hard enough.

About the fact being a teen leaves you with nowhere to see yourself, or who you actually are as a person...i only managed to be totally happy in my skin last year, and i'm 28 now so it takes different amounts of time for most people.

Keep the chin up, have a nice optimistic outlook on life, if you can do that, then there's step one complete and its onwards and upwards from there!!:)

karen3212

For me, my early teens were just terrible, hormones all over the place. For my elder sister, her early twenties were the worst. So it depends on the person.

However, I've never heard anyone say that their teens were the best years of their lives, most people I know say they were the worst.

I've heard people say their school days were great, but they were talking about primary school.

CDfm

karen3212 wrote: »

However, I've never heard anyone say that their teens were the best years of their lives,

then they have never burned down the garden shed:p

Hype

my teens are ****. want to be 20 and in college already

CDfm

Hype wrote: »

my teens are ****. want to be 20 and in college already

Planning on repeating the LC already. You will get there sooner if you study.:pac:

Dudess

Unregistered wrote: »

the anxiety is definitely coming from somewhere..

maybe a loss or a change had suddenly occurred in your life?

Not necessarily because of a tangible event though - it could be hormonal or genetic. OP, I know exactly how you feel because I too had anxiety as a teenager - combination of genes (I have relatives who are ridiculous worriers) and yep, hormonal activity. There was no specific event - I just was that way. Yes indeed, it did get better. Changing your thinking helps too - like telling yourself how silly it is to worry about certain things. And be positive.
It's not easy to get into this new mindset though, so if it requires the help of a counsellor, then so be it - look into talking to someone. I promise you though, life is not that scary...

CDfm wrote: »

Teen years are supposed to be the best as you do not have responsibility like mortgages family and stuff.

Well using that reasoning, I'd be far more inclined to apply the "best years of your life" tag to your 20s, even 30s if you don't settle down until then.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Its just nonsense about the teenage years being the best. I reckon its something that parents said to moaney teenagers to shut them up and somehow became fact.

19 was good alright, 18 ok, the rest was pretty awful apart from some laughs. 20s have definitely been better.