How im portant do u think the kiss is?

LegacyUser

hi, So i met this guy on a dting sight, went for dinner and couple of drinks and had a really nice night. Had a liss at he end of the night and it wasn't great at all. I like a nice soft passionate kiss but it was like kissing a goldfish tbh. sometimes he didn't even open his mouth! Anyway i was dissappointed but i said id give it another go coz he was such a nice guy and it could have been nerves and sometimes it takes some time to get into the rhytym of another . Have met him twice since and its still the same.
Just wondering if this hashappened to anyone and how have they dealt withi it?

Wibbs

I can only speak for me and say that it's hugely important. If the kiss is awkward then the sex usually is and the compatibility is off. I remember going out on a date with a seriously good looking woman, who was pretty together personality wise too. The date went well and we ended up snogging. Nothing. I felt nothing and the kiss was as awkward as a one legged man in an arse kicking contest. Same for her. so it kinda went south. In retrospect and finding out more about each other afterward, it looks like we were right. Looked good on paper, but as a realistic couple? Nope. Maybe it's just me or maybe it's an internal filter, but that's what I've found anyway.

Now all that aside, it was just the first kiss and maybe nerves etc got in the way. I would give him a second go and then see if there's an improvement.

Femelade

Kissing to me is very important..
I could not be with someone I didnt like kissing...

Ainm

Well the first couple of times I kissed my boyfriend was so different to how I like to kiss. Kinda the opposite to your problem, he opened his mouth reeeeally wide and it was just uncomfortable. Same as yourself I hoped it would get better as we got used to each other but it didn't at all. So this is what I did. Get all cosy with him and tell him to relax, don't move at all, that you want to 'try something'. Then kiss him how you want to be kissed then say 'you try'. But don't make it sound like your trying to teach him. Word it like it's an experiment or something. Worked 100% for me

minidazzler

Kissing is extremely important to me, I have found myself to not mesh well with girls I am interested if the kiss isn't good. When I kiss a girl and it doesn't feel right I will stop, wait 10 seconds, and give it another go, (Obviously not in an total contact pause), If it is bad again, I will not kiss her again, because it is a chore!!!!

LegacyUser

Wibbs wrote: »

Now all that aside, it was just the first kiss and maybe nerves etc got in the way. I would give him a second go and then see if there's an improvement.

Op here . .have met him again to see if any improvement and still disappointed. Was thinking about the sex too. Cant imagine thee would be any fireworks if the kiss is so bad. Ah well . .

Faith

Unregistered wrote: »

I like a nice soft passionate kiss but it was like kissing a goldfish tbh. sometimes he didn't even open his mouth!

I'm confused by you saying "sometimes he didn't even open his mouth". There's loads of different types of kisses, and many don't involve having your mouth open. Just pressing your lips together is a great type of kiss.

But yeah, I don't think I could go out with a bad kisser. You could try and train him if you really like him.

Dragan

Hugely, to be honest.

Nothingcompares

it sounds like you will have to take him under your wing and retrain him.

minidazzler

Nothingcompares wrote: »

it sounds like you will have to take him under your wing and retrain him.

Or just leave it lie...some lads might not take kindly to being called a bad kisser when he might think he is amazing!!!

tman

Anybody should really be willing to accept that they're not perfect at it, and every individual will have different tastes in how they like to be kissed/sexed up...
I know that I'd rather be gently guided in the right direction rather than continuing to do something like this the wrong way.
I say if you like the guy apart from the kissing, stick with it... For all you know someone else might've taught him to kiss that way because they liked it

G86

Hmmm....
Its a tough one if you do really like him otherwise, but to be would be a defo necessity for me. Her may not be a bad kisser - different styles and all that - but if you don't get blown away then whats the point? Kisses are meant to make you melt at the knees - well the good ones anyway. You NEED to have that chemistry from the start, I don't think you can make it happen.

I have soime male friends who mean the world to me..but I'd never kiss them..because its just not there. You get me? Maybe you're better off being mates..

Terodil

Maybe he is a newbie at it?

I mean if you see no improvement over the next few tries (even with some gentle guidance) then it's probably not going to work out, but, you know, maybe...

girlbiker

Soo Important, you want weak at the knees kisses. Kissed a few guys that put me right off, it just that I want to be kissed a certain way and if I'm not I get a little grossed out, all that strange tongue everywhere, yuk hate it. But if you get a guddun....swoon.

Well in fairness I don't think people are born good kissers
give it a few tries, but do it Ainm's way - "let's try x", maybe. Maybe he'd be happy to try it a different way, maybe not.

traffic_cone

OP - Your first kiss with a guy is never the best one. Give it time and see what happens Or ask him what would he consider to be the perfect kiss. Practice makes perfect

minidazzler wrote: »

When I kiss a girl

You're a guy?! :eek::eek:

Craft25

teach him!!

Princessa

Kissing is so important to me, my OH kisses are just perfection, i still gets all smiley when i gets a kiss outta the blue!!! Its not the be alll and end all but it does help if ye'r kisses have the wow factor.