Genital Warts

LegacyUser

Just back from doctor and what i thought was a piece of overgrown skin turned out to be a genital wart. How do i tell my boyfriend and will he be totally ashamed of me? Doctor said he could easily have given it to me although he doesnt have any warts, have been with him afew months. Have no idea how to approach this situation.

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LegacyUser

Do alot of research about the warts and show it to him. It's true he could have easily given them to you. And if you had been with someone else before him- and they didn't appear to have warts, they could have given the virus to you also. Apparently the virus can be carried/ spread by people and transferred to someone else, but no symptoms, such as an outbreak might occur for months. I found out my boyfriend had them ages ago and as the virus can stay in a person's system for years, I'm terrified he has passed the virus on to me. But there's no way of testing for it, until a visible outbreak occurs. Ahh. Good luck.

Mixedup

I was in the exact same boat as you about 3 months ago, i cried like a baby and didnt know how he would take it. Luckily he was great, as will your boyfriend dont worry about it, its much more common than i thought, i never told anyone but when i let it slip one night to my best friend, she told me that she'd had them too.

Just tell him, get him to have a check up, and it will sort itself out after that, just follow the doctors orders!:)

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LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies and help, told my boyfriend tonight and he was really supportive, i have done alot of research and supposadly it can be transmitted from skin to skin contact, and with or without the use of a condom. Do they come back once they are treated? Still feel pretty horrible about the situation as there is no way to tell whether he gave it to me or me to him.

LegacyUser

Hey OP. Was in the same situation about a year ago. Turned out my bf had them too (he hadn't noticed until I told him I had them). No idea whether he gave them to me or vice versa, but truth is it doesn't matter that much. Supposedly it's possible to get them without even having sex.

Anyway, I just wanted to give you a bit of advice. When I was first diagnosed, by the Well Woman clinic in Dublin, they gave me cryotherapy, which is basically freezing the warts off. It was the most painful experience of my life, I was yelping in pain and crying, and I felt the doctor and nurse were very unsympathetic. Now, I know not everyone has such a bad reaction to cryotheraphy, and I know there are nice doctors in the Well Woman. (And my boyfriend had cryo at his clinic and it only hurt a little). But this was a really traumatic experience. And what was worse, it DIDN'T WORK. The f*ckers didn't go away. So I went back to a different doctor and this time was prescriped a cream, I don't think I'm allowed to name it here (not giving medical advice) but this cream just had to be applied for a couple of weeks, it didn't hurt at all (slight tingling, nothing more) and it worked - the warts were gone. So I want to really advise you to speak to your doctor about this and ask for the cream if possible (Mods, if I'm allowed to post the name of the cream can you let me know? I want to remain anonymous so can't PM).

Also to tell you, I felt really really sh*tty about this experience, felt like I was dirty, but like another poster above, when a friend drunkenly confessed to me that the same thing had happened her, I realised it was much more common than i'd thought at first and can happen to anyone who's sexually-active - you're not a slut or dirty just cos you got an STD (as I felt for a while). Lastly, it is possible they can come back, but if treatment isn't a problem, you just treat them again. Eventually, they'll go. But I was told I should get the HPV vaccination to protect against the influence HPV can have on cervical cancer. I haven't gotten round to it yet myself, but you might wanna talk to your doctor about this too.