Girls ... Advice please!

LegacyUser

I'd love a range of female views on the following ....

I'm madly in love and living with my girlfriend ...

We want to get married and discuss it regulalarly ...

So, I intend to pop the question at some stage over the next 6 months ...

I had intended choosing and buying the ring myself, and I've a good idea what She would like and done my research ...

However while reading up on advice, a lot of people suggest going looking for a ring together.

Now this hadnt occurred to me really, and wasnt my preferred option but I wonder would it be a nice idea?

Could it be even more romantic? Every girls dream to go shopping for a diamond ring?

I'm not sure ..... I know I could pick, buy and propose very efficiently .... I'm experienced ... I was married before!

So girls ... what would you prefer?

A romantic proposal with the ring .... or the chance to go choose your own?

All advice greatly appreciated!

Femelade

It varies!
I know alot of girls would rather pick their own...a few girls i know that have got engaged i have asked them did he produce the ring or did they pick it together, and most of them say "god no, i wouldnt trust him to pick it himself!"
But i would prefer to be proposed to, by surprise with a ring.. he knows the type of ring i would like.

Elbi

Unregistered wrote: »

I'd love a range of female views on the following ....

I'm madly in love and living with my girlfriend ...

We want to get married and discuss it regulalarly ...

So, I intend to pop the question at some stage over the next 6 months ...

I had intended choosing and buying the ring myself, and I've a good idea what She would like and done my research ...

However while reading up on advice, a lot of people suggest going looking for a ring together.

Now this hadnt occurred to me really, and wasnt my preferred option but I wonder would it be a nice idea?

Could it be even more romantic? Every girls dream to go shopping for a diamond ring?

I'm not sure ..... I know I could pick, buy and propose very efficiently .... I'm experienced ... I was married before!

So girls ... what would you prefer?

A romantic proposal with the ring .... or the chance to go choose your own?

All advice greatly appreciated!

Ok, I would like the romantic proposal with the ring already bought by himself but on the other hand I dont know how id feel if i got the proposal and the ring was rotten, I suppose if I was in love and got proposed to Id be delighted and delighted with the ring

stupidusername

I would definitely rather have the nice romantic proposal, with him having already gotten the ring. BECAUSE if you're getting married to her you should surely be interested enough in her, you should know what kind she'd like. Mybe thats just my opinion though. Probably! And surely since you've been discussing it forever you should know what she would prefer here....?

Aloysius Flyte

Firstly congratulations in advance.

Personally, I would want him to have chosen the ring, and down on one knee in a wonderfully romantic setting, like a hot air balloon over the Serengeti (mmm I digress)

However, my best friend wants to be involved in the chosing of the ring and is quite adamant about that. She would like to try on lots of rings and feel special and spoiled.

I know of others who tried on the ring of her dreams and it got back to her now hubby via a best friend which one it was and he surprised her with it.

It's a personal preference. Sounds like you have already discussed getting married, chat a little bit more and see what her choice would be.

Good luck!:):):)

PurpleBerry

I suggest buying an inexpensive ring to use for the romantic surprise proposal. That way you can still go ring-shopping together for the "real" ring.

It seems like the best of both worlds. You get to surprise her and she also gets to choose her own ring. She may end up picking one exactly like the one you chose but she will most likely appreciate having a say in the decision. After all, it is she who will be wearing the ring.

Best of luck OP.

Leitrim lass

I would agree with Nessa. Buy a fun cheap ring to propose with in a romantic setting and choose the real one together. Maybe propose on a friday night so you can shop for it on the saturday. That way the buzz from the proposal is still there...

_blank_

If I went to the trouble of researching a ring, and then the girl told me she didn't like it, or it was "rotten", then I'd tell her to shove it, and the proposal.

Some girls ffs, it's all about the bling.

luvedup

hey just got engaged last wkend and my boyfriend bought a dummy ring for the proposal and we went ring shopping together last weekend before going home to tell our families and it was good fun doing it together! if u think you can pick the ring she would love it go for it! she'll be delighted either way!!

Amazotheamazing

Des wrote: »

If I went to the trouble of researching a ring, and then the girl told me she didn't like it, or it was "rotten", then I'd tell her to shove it, and the proposal.

Some girls ffs, it's all about the bling.

Exactly.

ted1

best bet is to buy a token ring using CZ's instead of real diamonds. asides from a house and car it'll probably be the biggest investment you make and she will be stuck wearing it for EVER (you scared now!!!)

believe me getting down on one knee and being all romantic will b eenough for her. then choosing the ring together will really make her happy

littlemisspiggy

I would defo pick my ring as I don't want to be stuck wearing something I hate for the rest of my life and I've told him as much. I only know of one girl (in a group of about 20) that wants him to pick the ring.

I know some people say you should love it because he got it for you etc. but in fairness, she is going to wear it 24/7 for the rest of her life. If she bought you some piece of jewellry/clothing you thought was hideous, would you want to wear it and look at it every day just because it was so romantic of her to choose it?

littlemisspiggy

Des wrote: »

If I went to the trouble of researching a ring, and then the girl told me she didn't like it, or it was "rotten", then I'd tell her to shove it, and the proposal.

Some girls ffs, it's all about the bling.

It's nothing to do with the size of the bling as you put it. Maybe she would like a smaller more discrete diamond than you choose, maybe she isn't a jewellry person, etc. Personally, I want a ruby not a diamond (which incidentally is far less expensive) - it's not about getting the biggest rock I can.

aare

Get a nice, bog standard cz solitaire (which she will probably always be able to wear sometimes, whatever).

Do the whole proposing "thing" (one knee...whatever...) then hand her an old fashioned, creamy white envelope, with a printed formal invitation to lunch, and "real" ring selection...

nomorebadtown

I dont like this "If he really loves me, he'll know the kind of ring I'd like" carry on - utter nonsense. The only way I will know what type of ring my girlfriend would like is if she showed me. If i got down on one knee and proposed and she said "uggh dont like this ring" i would know she wasnt the girl for me.

D

I friend of mine went round to some jewelry stores and asked them to put some rings that she thought she would like in the window. He then came back all casual and they both walked by. He noted which one she liked they best then went back later on his own and bought it.

LegacyUser

I think traditional way is the best. Buy the typical engagement ring and propose knee down If it's not her size or is something she would never wear, you guys can change it after..(in a not so romantic moment).

Das Kitty

Well I had the type of ring I would like in my head for a while. When I went and tried one on it made my hand look like a pig's trotter. So, a bit gutted I tried a solitaire and it just looked wrong. In the end I ended up with a ring that I wouldn't have looked twice at in the window, but it suits my, admittedly inelegant, hand.

+1 for the dummy ring idea, it's a big investment.

wasper

Unregistered wrote: »

I'd love a range of female views on the following ....

I'm madly in love and living with my girlfriend ...

We want to get married and discuss it regulalarly ...

So, I intend to pop the question at some stage over the next 6 months ...

I had intended choosing and buying the ring myself, and I've a good idea what She would like and done my research ...

However while reading up on advice, a lot of people suggest going looking for a ring together.

Now this hadnt occurred to me really, and wasnt my preferred option but I wonder would it be a nice idea?

Could it be even more romantic? Every girls dream to go shopping for a diamond ring?

I'm not sure ..... I know I could pick, buy and propose very efficiently .... I'm experienced ... I was married before!

So girls ... what would you prefer?

A romantic proposal with the ring .... or the chance to go choose your own?

All advice greatly appreciated!

From my personal experience with the same woman for the last 24 years. Women don't rate men's taste in gifts. It's better to let her chose the gift.