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Worrying over nothing?!

  • 06-02-2009 6:52pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I love my boyfriend so much and he tells me all the time that he loves me, we have a great relationship and i connect with him better than I have with anyone.

    Despite how great this is I find myself worrying about the fact that in the past he's obviously had relationships (as have I) and that they clearly broke up for some reason. Don't know how to explain it but it's as if I assume that because his previous relationsips have broken up ours just will too?!

    Does anyone else have this problem? I can see how stupid I'm being because as I've said I have had past relationships which weren't right for one reason or another and we've broken up but just because of this doesn't mean any relationship I have can't last?? I know this but it still doesn't stop me having these thoughts!

    I don't worry about this all the time and I certainly don't let it affect my relationship because when I'm with him I forget about it completely. It's just sometimes when I'm alone these thoughts come into my head. How can I get past them?!


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  • #2
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    WorriedGirl wrote: »
    Don't know how to explain it but it's as if I assume that because his previous relationsips have broken up ours just will too?!

    Only if (a) you're IDENTICAL to one of the other girls (b) he hasn't changed a bit and (c) all external factors that might have helped cause the break-up exist too.
    WorriedGirl wrote: »
    ......just because of this doesn't mean any relationship I have can't last??

    Well, I could try and completely reassure you, but that'd be patronising and there may be an angle to think about.......do you keep choosing the same type of guy ? Is this guy like that ?

    Basically, have you learned or changed your preference based on what happened in previous relationships, and spotted what went wrong or what
    to avoid ?

    If not, there's a chance of "rinse & repeat", but if you have, there's no fear of you. Best of luck!


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