To Give a Valentines Day card or not?

sitstill

So I've gone on a few dates with this guy lately, we're not at the "ok this is a relationship" stage yet, I really like him and I know he likes me too and we talk every day. Now, its Valentines Day next weekend, so do I give him a card, or just ignore it? I saw a cool one in Arnotts yesterday which said "You Tickle my Fancy" on the front and inside "Happy Valentines Day" - was thinking I could get that cos it wouldnt be too heavy and would be fun. What do people think?

LegacyUser

i think you should - it's only a card - nothing more though at this stage ( no cuddly bears!!!). It would be a bit strange if you ignored it.

baby and crumble

I'd say yeah, go for it as long as it's not a heavy lovey-dovey type of thing. The one you describe sounds kinda cool.

I know my partner and I got together exactly a week before Valentines (yay anniversary- 5 years tomorrow!) and she gave me a card that was really stupid, but kinda cool. She wrote in the middle of it "Because there's no card that says you've only been going out a week!", which made it not heavy, but still let me know she was into me. You know?

Either way a Valentines card is nice to get, but I suppose you might scare him off it's a 'romantic' kind of one.

redfacedbear

Yes get him a card. One that says I like you rather than professing undying love would be ideal

sunnyside

Yes get the card you described. Totally ok so long as it's Happy Valentines Day rather than "To the love of my life" or "I love you", etc

It's just a card, no need to analyase it too much. I bought a Christmas present for a guy I had only recently met once. It just shows that you are generous and decent as opposed to some people who would never spend money on someone unless they were sure the relationship was going somewhere.

jessbeth

I would get him one, just a funny non expensive one, that still shows you care but is not proclaiming undying love.

jellie

get the card & have it in your bag. if he gives you a card (he has nowhere to hide it!) give him the card, if he doesnt then no awkward "oh i didnt get you a card" moments

Craft25

:rolleyes: jeez you girls are cunning! lol

definitely get one.. make it funny and a bit sexy but not too long or luvvy dovey

Jesus Wept

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Wibbs

The-Rigger please stick to advice please.

LolaLuv

I think most guys would prefer a Valentine's Day blow job. But if that's not an option, I don't see why a card that's not overly romantic should be a problem.

sitstill

Valentines Day blowjob? Ha ha, we'll see how it goes! I will buy the card though. Thanks for the advice everyone.

dblennon

I agree with the have a card in purse, because the guy knows it's V. day in a week he will have decide to get you one or not.

Just a question but if your asking do you think thats because it's still very causual?

Jesus Wept

The card in the purse is nonsense, decide beforehand whether to give him a card or not.

Because if not - for all you know, you might both end up taking home a valentines cards and binning it.

sitstill

dblennon wrote: »

I agree with the have a card in purse, because the guy knows it's V. day in a week he will have decide to get you one or not.

Just a question but if your asking do you think thats because it's still very causual?

Yeah its still a bit casual, just cos we havent discussed what exactly it is yet, if that makes sense?

I am going to go buy the card after work today, and I will give it to him next weekend.

Peewee_lane

I would be the ultimate new girlfriend and buy him a card that just says 'from x ' on the inside, no mushy crap and.................a six pack.

Its a joke and a present in one! He will actually really think your cool.

Unless your not, and then you go and mess everything up! Only joking, good luck!

Salome

Don't pick a "To My Boyfriend" or "To the one I love" type cards - stick to something relatively cute but without any loaded meanings or a humourous card. Keep it light and fluffy until you both decide where you stand.

Nevyn

If you want to give him a card then do, but don't give one because you expect one in return.

Yillan

Whatever you do though don't post him one anonymously in case he thinks that its from someone hotter than you and then pursues the notion, breaking it off with you.

Although I guess if he does do something like that, you don't really want to be going out with him. To be fair though, I still wouldn't give him the opportunity to come to such a conclusion.

BubbleWrap85

Are girls meant to get the guy something? Together 5 months. If yes, WHAT?

Mario007

Peewee_lane wrote: »

I would be the ultimate new girlfriend and buy him a card that just says 'from x ' on the inside, no mushy crap and.................a six pack.

Its a joke and a present in one! He will actually really think your cool.

Unless your not, and then you go and mess everything up! Only joking, good luck!

or you could give him your heart...your sheep's heart bought in supervalue, to test how cool he is:D

macho_man

I agree with the posters here. Me and my ladyfriend have been 'going steady' for the last month. We are not moving in with eachother or planning the wedding or anything. Just taking it slow. I still haven't decided what to get her actually. We are meeting up on valentine's day, but I don't want to give in to the commercialism of the day, just enjoy a romantic time.

m83

macho_man wrote: »

I agree with the posters here. Me and my ladyfriend have been 'going steady' for the last month. We are not moving in with eachother or planning the wedding or anything. Just taking it slow. I still haven't decided what to get her actually. We are meeting up on valentine's day, but I don't want to give in to the commercialism of the day, just enjoy a romantic time.

Putting your ideals above her feelings is a baaaad idea.

macho_man

Ah, so any advice on how to spend no money and enjoy a romantic time? We are meeting up at 3pm then going ot her plcae for the rest of the day/night. I gotta go to the airport at 3am so will be leaving her about 2am. (I turn into a pumking then!)