Just thinking about sex

LegacyUser

I am going unregistered for this. I have been seen a woman who is older then me. We met up and we agreed that this was going to be a sexual type of relationship rater then any firm relationship with is good with me at the moment. Anyway we met at my house last weekend and we had some dinner and a few drinks etc. She told me before we went upstairs that she could not have sex because of a medical problem. To cut a long story short between that and snoring she really peed me off. She said afterwards she would make it up to me this weekend and was really looking forward to good sex. I said Friday because Saturday there may be something on but she advised Saturday would be best for her. I said ok, I will be flexible but I wanted to watch some football for an hour in the evening as my team was playing. She said no way and that if I wanted to watch any football go with my friends (which I was originally going to do!) So I told her forget the whole thing if all she wanted was sex and was not going to be flexible. Am I being intolerable or is it her just trying to be bossy and get her own way?

MagicMarker

Sounds like a relationship to me tbh.

If she couldn't have sex the first time around then why meet up at all? Because it was a date, that's why!

You're entering dangerous territory here my friend. I'd say get out before it gets worse.

LegacyUser

She is being way bossy lad, take that from an older woman who knows the OW/YM FB (older woman/ younger man fcuk buddy) territory very well.

Are you sure she is not trying to slyly 'graduate' you into a boyfriend?

She told me before we went upstairs that she could not have sex because of a medical problem.

WHAT? No, no, no, no, no....do you mean her period?
If she was on it she should have let you know well before the date so you could have rescheduled, TOO LATE, TOO SHORT NOTICE!
If not her period then what medical problem?
Smell of Bull off it.

The rules in a sex only relationship are meet for sex, when suits both people, not one messing the other around like this. It sounds to me she is trying to pr1ck tease you into wanting more.....RUN RUN RUN LIKE THE WIND!!!

Pub07

Its about compromise, tell her you are willing to give her an hour during the week to go play bingo if she lets you watch the footie at the weekend.

LegacyUser

Wait...Can she NEVER have sex or was it just a temporary problem for that weekend? Maybe she had her period? Anyway, it sounds like you want it both ways. You were angry because she couldn't have sex the first weekend...That makes it sound like you only want her for sex..Then you get angry because she only wants sex on the second weekend and doesn't want to watch football with you...

Make up you mind, mate. Do you want to her around only for sex or do you want to do other things with her too?

LegacyUser

I'd forget about it. If she's this demanding when you haven't even started with her, then what's she going to be like when you've been seeing her for a while?

The whole point of an NSA arrangement is to avoid stuff like that.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Wait...Can she NEVER have sex or was it just a temporary problem for that weekend? Maybe she had her period?

*therefore if she had her period rules state raincheck, inform him in good time ahead of date not on the way up the stairs.

That makes it sound like you only want her for sex..

He does only want her for sex, that was already stated and agreed

Then you get angry because she only wants sex on the second weekend and doesn't want to watch football with you...

No, you are not getting this, he is angry because he changed night to suit her, his only small stipulation was he wanted to see his team for an hour and she refused this which was way unreasonable after the debacle the previous weekend. He wasn't looking for a footy watching buddy, just an hour off to see the game.

Make up you mind, mate. Do you want to her around only for sex or do you want to do other things with her too?

Just sex, however sounds like he simply wanted a small bit of accommodation from her re the football, taking into account the stupid charade she put him through the previous time, she should have aquiesed.

Dont people ever read these posts properly! Sheesh!

CDfm

We can all watch the football on TV OP. You are not coming up with excuses to chicken out now-are you?

It looks like you might be and its a lame excuse;)

DarkJager

Doesn't sound like she is worth the hassle to be honest. Its a sex only relationship, but all she did last weekend was sleep in your house? Get out of it while you still can man.

CDfm

DarkJager wrote: »

Doesn't sound like she is worth the hassle to be honest. Its a sex only relationship, but all she did last weekend was sleep in your house? Get out of it while you still can man.

It sounds like he is not keen at all TBH and is only looking for an excuse.

Salome

Sounds like you both have different ideas about what your relationship should be - if it's not the same, end it.

This doesn't sound like a "fun" scenario at all so don't waste your time.

LegacyUser

Sorry cdfm but what excuse are you talking about?? We have all evening and night for sex among other things she wants to do. Last weekend was a bit of a turn off because she should have been more honest. We could have rescheduled. Snoring from a lady is strange I find as well. To be honest at one stage she said she felt ok to try it. When doing it I felt something was wrong. True to form. My condom was reddish and there was a little blood on the chest. Disgusting. All I am asking for is one scabby hour not the whole evening to watch football. I have been flexible in going to her on Saturday. Now I will still to my original plan and go out with my mates.

Salome

Unregistered wrote: »

Sorry cdfm but what excuse are you talking about?? We have all evening and night for sex among other things she wants to do. Last weekend was a bit of a turn off because she should have been more honest. We could have rescheduled. Snoring from a lady is strange I find as well. To be honest at one stage she said she felt ok to try it. When doing it I felt something was wrong. True to form. My condom was reddish and there was a little blood on the chest. Disgusting. All I am asking for is one scabby hour not the whole evening to watch football. I have been flexible in going to her on Saturday. Now I will still to my original plan and go out with my mates.

Oh dear Lord - you don't sound mature enough to have any type of a relationship! Women snore, women have periods - so what? You've got a lot to learn about relationships with the opposite sex. Grow up.

LegacyUser

What?? Women don't snore the first time they are in bed unless they want to see the person again. Secondly if they are having their period they certainly don't ask you to go near then and advise they will reschedule. Read Salome before you write tripe.

Salome

Unregistered wrote: »

What?? Women don't snore the first time they are in bed unless they want to see the person again. Secondly if they are having their period they certainly don't ask you to go near then and advise they will reschedule. Read Salome before you write tripe.

Where on earth did you get that from "women don't snore the first time they are in bed unless they want to see the person again". You'll never have a long term relationship with anyone with that kind of attitude. And yes, I know that's not what you're looking for right now - but one day you will - and you'll be sorely disappointed that the women you meet are human snoring women who bleed once a month. The plastic non-snoring women you obviously see are from porn movies - that's not what real women are like. How old are you by the way?

lickirishallsor

Is this issue here really about being bossy, or is it two fold.

Clearly she is of the frame of mind that she has control of you to some degree, and I suspect she is testing you, the other issue is what do you desire most, more sex with her or watching a football standing with your pals? Naturally being the wonderful beings women are she is multitasking in sizing you up. Your response will tell her more about you than you will ever know. Personally I think your walking on thin ice.

What's potentially more interesting and more important is this whole issue is what's left out. Having an older woman as a f**k buddy is a wonderful thing, you jammy git! Older women are so interesting, I could write pages on why I like older attractive women, but in short some points: (Before any young ladies come on here to correct me, I am answering this gents post, with my opinions only)

1. A woman who knows what she wants, and do not have to make selections based on the man's ability to financially support her. This eases the pressure on the man and gives him freedom to pursue his dreams whatever they might be.

2. An emotionally stable partner - instead of a younger one who may not be sufficiently mature enough to find herself. Her criteria make keep changing and inevitably she blames the man for her unhappiness. As one man puts it, "I try to keep away from women who see me as responsible for their total happiness"

3. Great sex. Studies show that the full power of the sexuality of a woman emerges usually after her child-bearing age. So a man can get plenty of what he wants most from a relationship.

4. Intellectual stimulation. Older women depending on where they've been and what they've done may be worldly, knowledgeable and confident, and perhaps motivated by their personal need for mental stimulation. Such women can hold a man's interest and challenge his intellect. This is not to say younger women are less knowledgeable or less intelligent, but unlike older women their primary focus may be on different matters, such as starting a family which may not be the number one priority for the man.

So, ask yourself a couple of thinks here my friend, and take this from a handsome guy in his 30’s who never got turned down for a dance, and hasn’t broken any mirrors, and who has always found older attractive woman a total turn on, is she sexy, does she excite you, is she sporty, curvy, sassy, confident, potentially the horniest shag you’ll have in a while etc etc. Then ask yourself about the match!



Lastly, would the other older lady (post 3) who said she had “OW/YM FB” mind sending me a pm here I would like to ask her something private if that’s possible?

LegacyUser

I am old enough and have had enough experience thank you very much. That I chose a sex only decision is my own which I am learning to regret. I have been in plenty of long term relationship and this is why I choose it but one thing I won't except on a first night is what happened last weekend. Obviously you do which tells me perfectly what type of person you are and that you would certainly take any old minger going and have sex with them regardless. If you don't have anything constructive to write go somewhere else where you will be i am sure give just as useless info.

Silverfish

Unregistered wrote: »

I am old enough and have had enough experience thank you very much. That I chose a sex only decision is my own which I am learning to regret. I have been in plenty of long term relationship and this is why I choose it but one thing I won't except on a first night is what happened last weekend. Obviously you do which tells me perfectly what type of person you are and that you would certainly take any old minger going and have sex with them regardless. If you don't have anything constructive to write go somewhere else where you will be i am sure give just as useless info.

If you want help on this forum, you may need to ease up on the abuse.

Women snore. Women have periods. I can't see how you can claim they 'shouldn't' do those things.
While some women have control if they choose to over their period, they have very little over snoring.

LolaLuv

Salome wrote: »

Where on earth did you get that from "women don't snore the first time they are in bed unless they want to see the person again". You'll never have a long term relationship with anyone with that kind of attitude. And yes, I know that's not what you're looking for right now - but one day you will - and you'll be sorely disappointed that the women you meet are human snoring women who bleed once a month. The plastic non-snoring women you obviously see are from porn movies - that's not what real women are like. How old are you by the way?

QFT. How do you stop yourself from doing something that occurs when you're sleeping, OP? Jesus, snoring is about the least revolting thing a woman can do when she's asleep.

Salome

Unregistered wrote: »

I am old enough and have had enough experience thank you very much. That I chose a sex only decision is my own which I am learning to regret. I have been in plenty of long term relationship and this is why I choose it but one thing I won't except on a first night is what happened last weekend. Obviously you do which tells me perfectly what type of person you are and that you would certainly take any old minger going and have sex with them regardless. If you don't have anything constructive to write go somewhere else where you will be i am sure give just as useless info.

Personally, I prefer my partner to be real - the reality of men and women are that they are not perfect and whilst people like to look/appear perfect at the start of their relationships, it's a fact that such perfection cannot be maintained in the long term. Everyone snores, farts etc - the fact that you don't accept that these things happen - even at the start of the relationship - is unrealistic and just plain silly. Good luck with looking for your idea of perfection - it doesn't exist.

lickirishallsor

Unregistered wrote: »

I am old enough and have had enough experience thank you very much. That I chose a sex only decision is my own which I am learning to regret. I have been in plenty of long term relationship and this is why I choose it but one thing I won't except on a first night is what happened last weekend. Obviously you do which tells me perfectly what type of person you are and that you would certainly take any old minger going and have sex with them regardless. If you don't have anything constructive to write go somewhere else where you will be i am sure give just as useless info.

????????? Oh dear, I'm just responding to your public request for opinions, sorry it would appear I have caused you offence, which I assure you was not my intention.

I cant help but think you might have missed my point. Cest la vie, maybe I didn't make it well enough.

But please try to refrain from making assumptions that I will "take any old minger", if you re read my contribution, you may note I only referred to being attracted to older "attractive women", I never said I have sex with them or anyone.

If I may just say however, in each of your contributions to this tread from the OP on, you appear to make assumptions, maybe now is as good a time as ever to look at the matter from the other persons perspective.

Again apologies for any offence caused by you misinterpreting my opinion.

Salome

Actually, I think it was I who offended on this occasion!

lickirishallsor

Salome wrote: »

Actually, I think it was I who offended on this occasion!

I think you made a excellent contribution to the tread, as did all the other posters, unfortunately his comments leave me thinking its wasted.

LegacyUser

No lickirishallor your comments were very constructive unlike salome. It was not meant for you at all. Sorry if you think it was.

Salome

I just believe that unrealistic expectations at the start of any relationship, whether committed or just a f&ck buddy set up, will cause untold disappointments when reality bites. It seems that the unfortunate reality hit sooner than the OP imagined. I'd stick to footie with the mates if I was him.

Zaph

Unregistered wrote: »

No lickirishallor your comments were very constructive unlike salome. It was not meant for you at all. Sorry if you think it was.

OK, this is starting to get personal now so I'm locking this one.