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Another guy/girl problem

  • 05-02-2009 3:26pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey all.

    Myself and my girlfriend(both 19) have been going out around a year now.
    Have this male friend who ive known for a good few years.

    Well I recently found out that this friend has been out in the past and has made moves on a few girls with boyfriends.(He always blames it on alcohol) Also found out he seems to spread a lot of rumors and other crap! Not a very trustworthy friend anymore! None of our other friends some to notice this tho!

    He has always been pretty friendly with my girlfriend and i never really minded that much.... even though I always thought he fancied her. They text and bebo each other quite a lot....sometimes its a bit flirty.... so much so that two of my other fiends have noticed it before and commented on it! This has really started to bug me.

    I talked to her about it and she assured me she would never cheat on me. I do believe her but i spose I'm still a little bit paranoid or something! I know its not a major problem or anything but it just annoys me that she doesn't seem to mind texting and beboing this guy so much! It just seems like she prefers talking and having 'the craic' with him rather than me!

    Is she trying to make me jealous or something or am i just being totally unreasonable? I think its the fact i know hes gone for girls he shouldn't have before and that I'm sure he fancies her!

    Sorry for the long post! I'd appreciate any opinions even if its just to tell me I'm an insecure idiot!


Comments

  • #2
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Unregistered wrote: »
    I'm an insecure idiot!

    Yes you are ^^

    Don't be ''that guy'' man. Chill


  • #3
    kmick
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,375 ✭✭✭kmick


    Don't deal with it from her side. Deal with it from his side. Tell her first though that you know he has tried it on with Micks gf and Toms gf and suspect he is going to try it on with her. Tell her you are going to ask him politely to stop. Then do that. Tell him if he continues that you are going to assume that he is trying to break you two up and you will have to take appropriate action. Don't specify what that action is. If he continues you just have to say to you gf 'look I had a chat with him - he as much as admitted he wants to break us up'.

    There is a chance that maybe she also likes this guy - is that a possibility?


  • #4
    partyguinness
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,203 ✭✭✭partyguinness


    If I find myself in this situation I remember the old saying:

    "Keep your friends close but your enemies closer"

    Befriend him and keep a close eye on him. Dont become the jealous guy.

    Be smart about how you handle this.


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