Finding the pinch

LegacyUser

Me and my partner are feeling the pinch big time, and its causing alot of fights. I am working part-time. He cant even get paid on the dole due to the backlog. We can hardly make our rent.
Is anyone else finding it hard? It is a terrible time - its not like we have affulent life-styles in the first place.

Kevster

Hi,

I am not in the same situation but I can understand how worried you are feeling about the future. All I will say is that yo should just do whatever is necessary to stay afloat. It will involve 'shedding' much of the things you and your partner have acquired over the years, but it will also no doubt bring you both closer together as a unit too. There are positives in every negative - I'm sure of it.

TAke care,
Kevin

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Unregistered wrote: »

Me and my partner are feeling the pinch big time, and its causing alot of fights. I am working part-time.

One thing I've found in the past is that budgeting really helps me feel more in control of what's happening with my money, and kills a lot of the stress associated with it.

My partner and I sit down on a regular basis (every couple of weeks), go over our receipts and other outgoings, and figure out where our money is going. We can identify things that need cutting pretty quickly that way, and adapt. It gives us a greater sense of confidence that we know what we're doing, and it's nice to work as a team on this stuff.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice. I am pretty good at budgeting (hes not-money burns a hole in his pocket). But most of the money saved is mine and I hate dipping into it cause he wasnt saving. I am starting to get angry with him and this is causing alot of arguments-even the most small of things-he knows that I am angry with him over the money situation.

Peewee_lane

I know how you feel but let go of the anger, thats the most important thing.

Tell him that he should get a full time job pulling pints. Theres plenty of barman jobs in town.

Victor

Unregistered wrote: »

He cant even get paid on the dole due to the backlog.

Talk to the local Community Welfare Officer (usually in the local health centre) - they might be able to give him something until he gets paid by Social Welfare.

syklops

While he is waiting for the backlog to be cleared is he looking for work?

No offence to anyone here who was let go, but alot of people who were let go, have spent the time since queuing at the dole office and not gone looking for new jobs. Despite what RTE news will tell you, there are loads of jobs out there if your not too picky.

As someone else said, try and let go of your anger. When you get paid, give him a small allowance for what he needs until the dole comes in. Don't give out about what he spends the allowance on, but make sure he knows thats the only one he is going to get, until you get paid again.

Could you get a few extra hours of work while you are waiting for the backlog of dole?

dontwant2say

Trust me theres not.

There might be a lot of jobs out there but there are HUNDREDS of applicants so the jobs are going a lot faster than they would have before.

OP, I am in the exact same position as you. I lost my job 2 weeks ago and now my partner is getting laid off too. We barely make rent now but we have 2 kids on top of that so you can see how stressed I am.....

The only thing you can do is really budget. My partner is like yours - money goes in one hand and straight out the other on crap really. Im the one who pays for the household/kids/bills and its annoying and frustrating but I'm a firm believer that in these times you just gotta stick together and muddle through. Its hard enough without trying to do it alone!

Peewee_lane wrote: »

I know how you feel but let go of the anger, thats the most important thing.

Tell him that he should get a full time job pulling pints. Theres plenty of barman jobs in town.