Am I right to be annoyed?

LegacyUser

Hi there,

I just want an objective POV here as I'm not sure if I'm being a bit over sensitive.
Today I saw my best friend talking to someone(X) who I despise, a person who said something really hurtful to me unprovoked before and upset me so much over it. Now she always says hi to this particular person and I've never had an issue with it as it doesn't bother me if she says hi and does small talk or whatever!

So she trots back over to me(I was sitting down with a coffee at this time) and says "Oh I'm going to keep in with X and be really nice to them because they're really good friends with Y"(Y is a guy who she really likes). Her analogy is that if shes not nice to X then they'll say negative things about her to Y. I got a bit annoyed then because although I couldn't care less who she talks to or not, it just irks me that she'd want to be friends with this douchebag to "keep in" with them so she'd get closer to Y but wouldn't not be nice to them for being such a pr!ck to me, her supposed best friend? Usually I wouldn't get wound up by this sort of thing with any of my other friends, but if the shoe was on the other foot, she'd be expecting me to stick up for her-which I would!

Am I being a bit oversensitive here? What do you guys think?

Das Kitty

If I were in your situation I would feel pissed off but I would try to get past it, afterall it was you that was slighted and not your friend. It can be tough but try not to think less of your friend for it.

JonnyC

bit p'od wrote: »

Hi there,

I just want an objective POV here as I'm not sure if I'm being a bit over sensitive.
Today I saw my best friend talking to someone(X) who I despise, a person who said something really hurtful to me unprovoked before and upset me so much over it. Now she always says hi to this particular person and I've never had an issue with it as it doesn't bother me if she says hi and does small talk or whatever!

So she trots back over to me(I was sitting down with a coffee at this time) and says "Oh I'm going to keep in with X and be really nice to them because they're really good friends with Y"(Y is a guy who she really likes). Her analogy is that if shes not nice to X then they'll say negative things about her to Y. I got a bit annoyed then because although I couldn't care less who she talks to or not, it just irks me that she'd want to be friends with this douchebag to "keep in" with them so she'd get closer to Y but wouldn't not be nice to them for being such a pr!ck to me, her supposed best friend? Usually I wouldn't get wound up by this sort of thing with any of my other friends, but if the shoe was on the other foot, she'd be expecting me to stick up for her-which I would!

Am I being a bit oversensitive here? What do you guys think?

I am annoyed for wasting time reading this rubbish. You friend is talking to someone you do not like so what. Is this all you have to be worried about....

LegacyUser

I am annoyed for wasting time reading this rubbish. You friend is talking to someone you do not like so what. Is this all you have to be worried about....

OPhere
Ya i can understand that you think that its a small matter, but this person is so melodramatic that before I say anything to her I want to hear what an outside perspective would be! Its just little things that can annoy you and blow into a massive fight..And its not that shes talking to someone I don't like, its the fact that she wants to be friends with them for the purposes of being with a lad!!

LegacyUser

Hey, do you know if this x person is such a bad person it will all come out in the wash. Your friend thinks they can suck up to x and therefore "get in" with y but its hardly likely x will play ball with that.

Your friend will get burned and you can think, I told you so.

These things have a way of evening themselves out. You keep your gunpowder dry and let events unfold as they will.

JaneyMc

I understand why you are a bit annoyed if 'x' did something awful on you. But to be honest, it's still a bit over sensitive. Just forget about it and move on.

beth-lou

It all sounds a bit immature and you need to fight your own battles.

St Bill

This reminds me of something you'd see on The Hills!

OP, I doubt your friend is doing this to test you, if you liked a guy would you not do everything you could to look good around him?

tbh

I wouldn't be pissed off about it, no, but I'd re-evaluate my friendship with...eh...was it X? or Y? your mate anyway. the social butterfly. Can't be relied upon.

Aloysius Flyte

Ah c'mon now - this is Kindergarten stuff.

If that is all you have to be worried about in this world, then you are a really lucky person.

Your friend can talk to whomever they wish to for whatever reason.

MagicMarker

JonnyC wrote: »

I am annoyed for wasting time reading this rubbish. You friend is talking to someone you do not like so what. Is this all you have to be worried about....

+1

Ridiculous is all I have to say.

LegacyUser

Thanks to everyone for the replies, I just wanted to get another perspective on whether I'm being over sensitive (I have a tendency to be!) and I usually let all these little things build up and then get mad with my friend and it esclates into a massive argument, so I'm not going to say nowt and forget about it!

BTW this is not a massive problem, for everyone who thinks that I have no problems and waste my time worrying about stupid sh!t like this, I only wanted a perspective by people who don't know my friend on this situation!

Thanks!