Should you contact an ex on their birthday?

LegacyUser

My Ex dumped me a while ago and expects us to stay friends. So far it is not going too well and frankly I now hate them.

Should I contact them on their birthday to keep lines of communication open or will that only boost their ego?

Beruthiel

Personally, I wouldn't bother.

MagicMarker

Beruthiel wrote: »

Personally, I wouldn't bother.

+1

Why make an effort to be friends with someone you hate?

Liam Byrne

Usually depends on how the break-up went and how much time has passed.

The fact that you say you hate them and assume that contacting them would "boost their ego" somehow would suggest not to bother.

I mean, if it were a "normal" (non-ex) person that you "hated", would you bother ?

tweety76

no don't bother! what will you gain from contacting them ??

John Mason

whats the point?

all they are going to think is that you are sitting at home mopping about them

Liam Byrne

pink fluffy bunny wrote: »

whats the point?

all they are going to think is that you are sitting at home mopping about them

Not necessarily.....in a normal situation they might just think "hey, that's sound / nice of her" and then go on with their day....

Wagon

Unregistered wrote: »

My Ex dumped me a while ago and expects us to stay friends. So far it is not going too well and frankly I now hate them.

Should I contact them on their birthday to keep lines of communication open or will that only boost their ego?

I'd wish one ex of mine a happy birthday only because we get along all right.

If you hate her, no. Don't bother your hole and don't worry, you won't be a dickhead cos you ignored it.

happyoutscan

I text a couple of my ex's for their birthdays and don't see a problem with it, nor does my better half.

_blank_

NO!

Sending a happy birthday text to an ex who you wouldn't usually be in contact with is just behind the drunken phone call on the desperation stakes.

partyguinness

Whats the point??

The past should be left in the past..I am an advocate for severing all ties with exs...easier to move on..you kept in contact and now hate him..hence why severing all contact is generally better..IMO

Firefox10

Des wrote: »

NO!

Sending a happy birthday text to an ex who you wouldn't usually be in contact with is just behind the drunken phone call on the desperation stakes.

I have to agree. I wouldnt bother my arse contacting an ex on a birthday. They have moved on...so should you.

here.from.day.1

A big red no.. unless they sent you one.

Gone Drinking

You're 18, invite whoever you like. Chances are, your current GF will be your EX Girlfriend before you finish college anyway.

Go out and have a good time, stop worrying yourself with relationship bullsiht at that age.

Mingey

An ex of mine happy birthdayed me 2 years after we split up. I thought it was a bit strange. I'd say not to bother. Move on and forget about them. That life you shared is over and done with.

CathyMoran

If they are not a friend or it hurts you I would not bother. I email 2 of my ex's on their birthdays but that is because they are platonic friends happily married and so am I.

yellowcurl

Don't. Just creates a whole new basket of drama for everyone.

kingtut

No way!! Don't text him.

When someone dumps me I break all ties. I don't believe in the "let's be friends" rubbish.

Don't give them an ego boost.

RoundyMooney

To me, the fact that you may have bumped uglies or not is more or less irrelevant.

Do you want to wish this person a happy birthday?

If you hate them, then I would imagine not...