Confidence - body hair

LegacyUser

I'm in my mid 20s and I've never had much luck with women which I'm trying to do something about. I know I'm not Quasimodo overall but practically speaking, I'm not overburdened with good traits. I've always been inclined to be overweight.

My biggest problem is that I'm as hairy as a gorilla. Long wirey hair on my chest and back and it's made worse by the fact I'm on the pasty side. I've passed up much needed encounters with women over the fear that they would be repulsed by my body hair.

I doubt anyone will claim it's attractive but I want to know if you would do something about it if you were me. I'm very self conscious about my body generally the thought of having to go to a stranger in a salon to bear my secret shame gives me the heebie geebies.

Das Kitty

Personally, I like chest hair but I can't abide back hair. However it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me.

If it's stopping you having encounters, you should do something about it, but to be honest I doubt any of the women would have kicked you out for having a jumper on under your jumper .

I know plenty of guys who get far more than their backs waxed :eek: so I wouldn't be worried about being perceived as a jessie for going down to the salon. It's just a bit of maintenance.

c - 13

Dude you sound like me. I'm overweight and look like Sasquatch's albino cousin but its never affected my luck with women. If someone is interested in sleeping with you in the first place they arent going to be put off by some hair when they get your kit off.

If you feel its affecting your confidence book yourself in for a back,sack and crack wax session, just be advised it supposedly very painful. I wouldn't be embarrassed about booking in for that either, its supposedly much more commonplace than you'd think (was told this by a beautician).

emy-87

From the Ladies Lounge:
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055444734

Some women like hairiness, some don't. Do not let that stop you meeting women! You would be surprised the level of hairiness some women like. Personally, I love hairy guys (my boyf's nickname originated from his hairiness) so if I was with you I wouldnt want you to change it.

OP I hope I have helped in some way, I havent replied in PI before!

paperclip2

Male waxing is very common these days. Have a look at the Brazilia wax website, its even got a section for men! http://www.brazilia.ie/malemenu.html

c-13 is right though, if someone is interested in you a bit of hair won't put them off. But being hyper self conscious wont make you feel comfortable.

seamus

Believe it or not, there are women out there who find a hairy back attractive. And they're not a tiny, ugly minority.

As c-13 says, if it makes you self-conscious, then you can get it waxed. Thousands of men do, and there's no male stigma about it like there is with waxing your chest or legs. The "stranger" has done the procedure hundreds of time on tonnes of different men, and in that regard isn't going to judge you for it any more than your doctor judges you when you get a chest infection.

I'm of the opinion that if something makes you unhappy and you can do something about it, then go do something about it.

LegacyUser

If you do choose to go the waxing route, think baby steps...Doing the sac, crack and back, as the other poster said, all at once might be a bit overkill and overwhelming for you. If it were me, I'd just do your back at first...It's a much less sensitive area, less personal etc. Have you seen the movie Deuce Bigelow, Male Gigolo...?? OMG. (he gets his "crack" done..it's not a pretty scene)

Anyway, it's fairly easy to do "the sac" yourself..no need for a salon. It's the back that might possibly be a turnoff for some (not all) women.

Beruthiel

I'll never understand why men feel the need to do this.
They're men, they're supposed to be hairy, that's what makes them men!

seamus

Beruthiel wrote: »

I'll never understand why men feel the need to do this.
They're men, they're supposed to be hairy, that's what makes them men!

Indeed. Although the media would like us to believe that what women want is a man with a tight t-shirt, fake tan, moisturised skin, manicured nails and a tendancy to cry at chick flicks, in reality most women still want a manly man. They want a guy who can open jars for them, catch spiders and who'll spend a Saturday getting filthy doing DIY, fixing his car or playing sports, and who sits down at the end of the day and takes a big enjoyable swig from a big pint of beer. You don't have to be a club-carrying caveman, but you don't have to be a sissy either.

I've heard a large number of women lament the emergence of the metrosexual man, asking "where have all the cowboys gone?"

MIN2511

Personally i don't like hairy men, but each to their own.

If it worries you so much i suggest getting yourself waxed... Maybe not the Chest, but back, ass etc.

Hey, there is a lady that does home services... I dunno if she would wax your arse(She's muslim) but she generally does a good job... I would suggest using Immac to remove the hairs first and getting your back waxed.

Do you have any good female friends? Who could help you?

Das Kitty

Beruthiel wrote: »

I'll never understand why men feel the need to do this.
They're men, they're supposed to be hairy, that's what makes them men!

Although some men are naturally not hairy, but that's not to say they're any less manly.

Beruthiel

Got it in one seamus!

LegacyUser

seamus wrote: »

Indeed. Although the media would like us to believe that what women want is a man with a tight t-shirt, fake tan, moisturised skin, manicured nails and a tendancy to cry at chick flicks, in reality most women still want a manly man. They want a guy who can open jars for them, catch spiders and who'll spend a Saturday getting filthy doing DIY, fixing his car or playing sports, and who sits down at the end of the day and takes a big enjoyable swig from a big pint of beer. You don't have to be a club-carrying caveman, but you don't have to be a sissy either.

I've heard a large number of women lament the emergence of the metrosexual man, asking "where have all the cowboys gone?"

Oh so very true!!! If I detect even A HINT of a plucked eyebrow (a la David berdy woman Beckham) Im out of there like a hot snot, give me a hairy, preferably oily, cheeky Caveman any day!

I'd rather Cooter from the Dukes of Hazzard than some perfumed up meterosexual with a hoxton fin and pointy sidelaces!

Rough and ready every time please !

tbh

it's it's a problem for you, work out and wax.

barbiegirl

My hubbie is hairy, back, chest, the whole deal, and I love him. Hairiness does not make you ugly, learn to like yourself I bet you're not half as bad as you think you are.

Mingey

There is always the option of Laser treatment. It can be a bit pricey though, but can you put a price on your peace of mind?

username123

I like a hairy man myself - but what women like is not the issue - its more about you learning to love yourself.

If you have issues with your body in general then you gotta do whatever it is you can do to make it as good as it can be - lose weight, work out, get waxed if you hate the hair (btw the waxers have seen it all - they wouldnt flinch if King Kong arrived for a wax), get a good haircut, look after your appearance with regard to the right clothes for your frame etc...
Basically, groom yourself - when youre as well groomed as you can be you automatically feel better about yourself.

muboop1

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm in my mid 20s and I've never had much luck with women which I'm trying to do something about. I know I'm not Quasimodo overall but practically speaking, I'm not overburdened with good traits. I've always been inclined to be overweight.

My biggest problem is that I'm as hairy as a gorilla. Long wirey hair on my chest and back and it's made worse by the fact I'm on the pasty side. I've passed up much needed encounters with women over the fear that they would be repulsed by my body hair.

I doubt anyone will claim it's attractive but I want to know if you would do something about it if you were me. I'm very self conscious about my body generally the thought of having to go to a stranger in a salon to bear my secret shame gives me the heebie geebies.

bah im a hairy bugger! even got one them them beards that seems to join up to my chest n all!

its just life!

some girls like it some dont!

tbh, girls are good in one way, any girl iv been with seems to be ok with it. not that they like or love it, but if you are a genuine nice person they look past it?

i dunno!

i say its grand!

feck it like! ur hairy, and who cares!

the 2 scenarios i think you could be refering to are as follows

1) one night stand, do oyu realy think that by the time you get your top off on a bed she will care?

2) a girl you fancy, this is ireland! most of the time when you get to know a girl you will be wearing a t-shirt or jumper! by the time something hopefully happens between you, shes in to deep :pac:

its never gone against me, im quite good with girls!

ps.
if you dont feel confident, fake it!
you will see how girls respond! after a while it will be real confidence! girls love confidence...