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Starting out on the wrong note!

  • 03-02-2009 3:32am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi,

    Just wondered if anyone had any experience of this current situation, met a guy that i like (online.. yes yes i know!) We're both 25. We'd been texting for a good few days, saying how we'll meet up for a beer and get to know each other, and take it from there. Which is really what i wanted to do. Then we were both quite drunk out with our own mates, and texting away.

    We decided we'd meet up that night for a bit of fun..., and so we did, (this was the first time we'd met) and I like him, and so the texting continued the next couple of days, then he was drunk the other night (I wasnt) and he kept ringing telling me to come out to "service" him (wasnt excatly phrased like that!). I wasnt up for it, and so didnt, only thing is now i dont know if he's lost respect for me, cos we hooked up straight away without ever having met.

    I'm really not looking for random hook ups, what i would like is some kind of meaningful "realtionship" with mutual respect, or if not a least a chance at it!
    Its alot to look for i know!

    I just feel this one might be dead before its started because because we didnt even bother to meet up and get to know each other before hooking up. I suppose my question is has anyone ever had a relationship that developed from a beginning like this?

    Thanks anyway, a bit rammbling i know!


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi OP,

    I'm currently going nealry year with my boyfriend after starting on a similar note. We also me online (quelle surprise), and chatted online, texted and eventually went on a date and ended up in bed together doing consentual acts (no easy way of saying it).

    Anyway we did talk about the fact we did it on the first date and in retrospect would have prefered to have waited but we are still together and very much in love after 11 months.

    So, I say depending on the people involved, something can be salvaged and all isn't lost on the issue. You should probably ask him out on a proper date with no drink on board (maybe cinema and then bite to eat, go for a walk or visit the Zoo) and then you'll be able to better understand him and the potential there is for a relationship.

    Hope all goes well.


  • #3
    DubArk
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    Met my partner for the first time in a club........ I'd say within the hour we were in a taxi on our way back to his!! ;)

    That was 24yrs ago!!! I was 21 he 24. Still in love.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    met this guy on gaydar, nice guy etc. he drove over 2 hours to near my place to say hello etc. we met, got on great and spend a great few hours together. Came over the next Friday, spend Friday night together and it was great. both not out and discreet and comes over to spend Friday and a night during the week. Sex is great, sleeping body to body even better. Think we are kinda in love but waiting to 'feel' if we really are. He is Lithuanian, I'm Irish, he is 15 years younger than me and we get on so well, have a beer, deep kiss, snog, and hit the sack for great sex, wake in the morning and have a coffee, chat, sex and relax, snooze bodies entertwined and enjoy.
    Just go for it.


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