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Being Gay in the country

  • 03-02-2009 12:50am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Guys totally going unregged for this.

    Always been gay, never could deal with it, til lat year told my sis and made it so easier. So gay mates brought my out on the scene not to self confident but met 1 or 2 guys 4 one one kiss **** etc.

    Then discovered Gaydar, never realized how many gays are out (in) in the country, but dont drive and live with folks. A few guys i met in theirs, but sum ive met near me and went to quiet lane for fun, (terrified i'd get caught). This eve my bro followed me and asked who i was waiting for, i told im our straight, like he does to me, someone for fun (he is with alot of girls) he knew what i implied an claimed he caught me before and stormed off. Guy arrived soon and we headed off but i was so paranoid about being caught, (i know lots of hetro couples have car sex, but could imagine the scene if i was caught in my village)

    When i got home mum was gone to bed bro up watching wrestling but abit weird with me, (his cousin was over watching it with him)

    Rang my sister petrified she tld me to chill, he has deal with it, but im terrified he'll tell the parents, if we have a big row. And am i too paranoid about being caught in the country?

    Any advise?


Comments

  • #2
    swiss
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,745 ✭✭✭swiss


    You could tell your brother to mind his own beeswax.

    The cat might be out of the bag, it might not. And if we are to believe Schroedinger, it is both dead and alive.

    Your family members are probably going to find out one way or another, either by catching you with some compromising evidence (porn on the computer is a common one) or by figuring out for themselves why you sneak off on dates and never seem to introduce them to your lady friends.

    You can preempt it by telling them. Not an easy proposition I grant you. But do you really want to spend however long you're living with your parents sneaking out and constantly looking over your shoulder?


  • #3
    cotwold
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 950 ✭✭✭cotwold


    I think the best thing is to sit your brother down or corner him and just tell him how you feel. Ask him not to tell your parents and explain that it could have a huge impact in your life if they find out before you're ready. He'd want to be a real mean c**t if he still told them after that.


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