does true love last

LegacyUser

Hey,

another should i stay or should i go problem! although i so dont want to go. I am 23 and have been with my man for 7 years, my first serious boyfriend, love each other so deeply. i dont even no why im thinking about this. its just you wonder is it ever going to work to be with the one person forever,although i can see being happy with him possible. i never really think about ben with anyone else or have never had any feelings for anyone other than my boyfriend since I met him, our relationship has not moved for a while tho so beginning to feel like something needs to happen, maybe move in together but feel too young for that, what age do people do this at, none of our friends are in serious relationships so ours sometimes begin to feel not v important. never really talk about the future so not sure where were going. do people last with their first love? and is it normal for a relationship to of not moved very far in such a long time of ben with one another

CathyMoran

My husband was not my first love but I met him at 21 and dated him at 23 and moved in with him at 24! If you met the right person why change them? I would talk about the future though, you have to to keep a relationship alive. We got engaged shortly after we moved in together but I was petrified of marriage and we had some speed bumps along the way and ended up not getting married until I was 32. My biggest regret is not marrying him at 25...

Dont know if this helps, just what happened to me.

Oh, I was also cynical about love lasting, but it can and it does...

Femelade

Sounds to me like the 7 year itch!!
Of course love lasts, although i am in no position to say that myself, as i am only with my boyfriend for 2.5 years.
But being 23 is not too young to move in with someone you have been with for 7 years..infact its a perfect age..ye have to see how ye get along living with eachother, if ye are both financially able to move in together i think you should suggest it to him and see how it goes..
if you are already thinking that your relationship is at a stand still and wondering if it is not going to work, then something needs to be done, dont wait for another few years when you might very well feel like you have wasted alot of your youth in a relationship that was going nowhere, so something needs to be done, and i think moving in with eachother is a viable option, you should know soon enough if ye have the love that lasts.

Wibbs

It does, but both have to work on it to keep it fresh. It lasts in those who realise it'll change too.

Das Kitty

Met my husband at 19, moved in together when I was 21 and he was 23. Absolutely zero regrets. Best move I ever made.

You're right tough, after 7 years you need to be moving in a direction.

LegacyUser

it seems you need to talk to him about moving on,

Liam Byrne

If you love him and ye get on and you want to move in, then move in.

Worst case scenario is that by trying this now, while ye're young, then if it all goes to pot then you won't end up in that scenario where people think they're too old to start again.

But just be sure in your head that ye've got a decent shot and that it's what ye want, otherwise - if it does go to pot - ye won't view it as wasted time.....

Remember : nothing ventured, nothing gained!

Best of luck!

Re the original Q in the title, if someone can define "true love" without resorting to Mills & Boon or Hollywood rubbish, then maybe we might be able to answer. But I do have 2 friends who are married, having gone out together since they were - I think - 20 & 16, and I do occasionally wish I'd been that lucky.....

ebmma

Fell in love at 19, moved in together 8 months later, got married 2 months after my 21st birthday.

It's fast (didn't feel that way to us ), a but what the hell, we are happy :-)