Calling all males...I don't know how to handle this.....

pollypouch

Hi guys,
I'm just looking for some advice especially from those of you's that have girlfriends, i've been going out with my boyfriend for a good few years and just lately i've really been feeling like he's not that interested in me and is just staying with me because he feels he has to. Do any of you's feel this way ever just wanna get a male perspective on it cos my girlfriends can't really shed any light on it for me!!!!!

Kiera

pollypouch wrote: »

Hi guys,
I'm just looking for some advice especially from those of you's that have girlfriends, i've been going out with my boyfriend for a good few years and just lately i've really been feeling like he's not that interested in me and is just staying with me because he feels he has to. Do any of you's feel this way ever just wanna get a male perspective on it cos my girlfriends can't really shed any light on it for me!!!!!

Uh oh. Quick, run to PI little one!!!

Wurly

pollypouch wrote: »

Hi guys,
I'm just looking for some advice especially from those of you's that have girlfriends, i've been going out with my boyfriend for a good few years and just lately i've really been feeling like he's not that interested in me and is just staying with me because he feels he has to. Do any of you's feel this way ever just wanna get a male perspective on it cos my girlfriends can't really shed any light on it for me!!!!!

Talk to him about how you feel. But don't hang around to be made a fool of.

If he's not interested anymore and not courageous to tell you this outright - then you have to walk away.

Best of luck. Thats not a nice feeling. X:(

dr.bollocko

Moved from AH. Good luck OP.

Liam Byrne

pollypouch wrote: »

just lately i've really been feeling like he's not that interested in me and is just staying with me because he feels he has to.

Why would he feel he "has to" ? Do ye have a child ?

Firstly, make sure you're not imagining things or making mountains out of molehills......our minds and emotions can be wonderful things, but they can also be the most illogical and - ironically - head-wrecking things ever created.

Oddly enough, they can also insulate us from seeing the worst and blatantly obvious - the "love is blind" syndrome.

So from here, it's hard to tell where between those two describes where you are. You'll need to take a step back and figure it out. And maybe talk it through with him as logically as you can, letting him know what makes you feel like this - but WITHOUT being clingy or desperate!

Then, if you are still convinced of the above, break away. Life's too short to be with someone you're not happy with or unsure of.

Best of luck!

Mr. Incognito

God the usually bitter dump him brigade are out in force quick today.

Are you stuck in a rut?

When was the last time you tried on some lingerie, went on a holiday- took some couple time.

We all need to rekindle that spark from time to time.

A good start would be to stop talking to your bloody girlfriends and talk to the person who matters most.

Take a day to pamper each other. I know it's cliche but steak and blowjob day should really be a national holiday. You lot have valentines.

GeeNorm

Yeah, he could well be staying with you because he's not the dumping type. I.e. not happy but not a dumper so sending out signals for you to take the hint and do the dumping.

dumping:)

pollypouch

no we don't have a child but are living together and just feel its easier to brush things under the carpet for him than face the fact that he's not very happy!!!!!!!!! the first year of our relationship was amazing but it all went downhill from there, i don't know is this stuff that happens in all reltionships, is it that the " hooneymoon" period is over and it will be like this in any relationship i would have??

Hogzy

My girlfriend thought the same as you. Im going out with my girlfriend 2 and a half years! I went through a faze where i seemed as if i wasnt interested and she noticed this!

I think everyone goes through that faze at some point, if your with someone for so long then the excitement will more than likely be turned down at some stage...(dont see that as a bad thing, its a guaranteee as ye become to know eachother better both of yer actions seem more predictable and there tends to be less "surprises" in the relationship) I found that after the faze was over i loved my girlfriend even more and i noticed that i trusted her with anything! The best thing to do is talk about it with him, When i found out my girlfriend thought i wasnt interested in her i got worried as that alone could lead to a break up...

Talking to him about it (in my opinion) is probably the best option...

Das Kitty

pollypouch wrote: »

no we don't have a child but are living together and just feel its easier to brush things under the carpet for him than face the fact that he's not very happy!!!!!!!!! the first year of our relationship was amazing but it all went downhill from there, i don't know is this stuff that happens in all reltionships, is it that the " hooneymoon" period is over and it will be like this in any relationship i would have??

Nope, if you have no idea what's going on in his head that's a bad sign. You need to broach the subject with him, be prepared to give and receive some very honest and open opinions.

Communication is the lifeblood of a relationship.

midlandsmissus

Start showing less interest in him.

partyguinness

Why not book a romantic weekend away?

Just the two of you and see how that goes..no stress, distractions, clear heads etc.

Just a suggestion because we have no idea what your OH is thinking.

pollypouch

thanks everyone im definitley going to have to talk to him before it gets any worse!!!!

CDfm

Im still amazed by this.

He may being going out with you because he likes you.

And you -when was the last time you went out of your way to pamper him?

It couldnt hurt and you always get a better reaction then with a stiff talking to.

Liam Byrne

midlandsmissus wrote: »

Start showing less interest in him.

Game playing and mind-games = recipe for absolute disaster.