Parents

LegacyUser

I'm a 16 year old guy. I was on my way to bed on Thursday night. It was around 2.00am. I had to get money off them for a thing in school so I walked into there room. When I walked in they were having sex. It's really weird being around them now we can barely stay in the same room. Any advice for us to get back on track?

dudara

Are you in the habit of walking into your parents' bedroom at 2 a.m.? If that's the case, then I think, quite frankly, that you got what you deserved.

Have some respect for your parents's privacy and remember that they are adults.

JaneyMc

dudara wrote: »

Are you in the habit of walking into your parents' bedroom at 2 a.m.? If that's the case, then I think, quite frankly, that you got what you deserved.

Have some respect for your parents's privacy and remember that they are adults.

That's a bit harsh, people have their off days where they forget to knock on a door, he was asking for genuine advice not a lecture on privacy. He has obviously learned his lesson.

I'm a 16 year old guy. I was on my way to bed on Thursday night. It was around 2.00am. I had to get money off them for a thing in school so I walked into there room. When I walked in they were having sex. It's really weird being around them now we can barely stay in the same room. Any advice for us to get back on track?

I think the only thing you can do is go on as normal, and in a few weeks it will hopefully be forgotten about.

Abi

dudara wrote: »

Are you in the habit of walking into your parents' bedroom at 2 a.m.? If that's the case, then I think, quite frankly, that you got what you deserved.

Have some respect for your parents's privacy and remember that they are adults.

+1

The awkwardness will fade, but accept that your parents are entitled to have sex, and their privacy.

Harris

In future maybe knock first, just like they should do before barging into your room unannounced.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm a 16 year old guy. I was on my way to bed on Thursday night. It was around 2.00am. I had to get money off them for a thing in school so I walked into there room. When I walked in they were having sex. It's really weird being around them now we can barely stay in the same room. Any advice for us to get back on track?

Where do you think you came from? Under a cabbage plant?


Apologise and move on. You should be acting more like an adult.

LegacyUser

Unregistered wrote: »

Where do you think you came from? Under a cabbage plant?


Apologise and move on. You should be acting more like an adult.

The kid's only 16 - that's harsh.

Look, you walked in on your folks doing it, which I;m sure, is highly embarrassing......(I once walked in on my ma who was in the nip - saw everything!!!)

you could just say over breakfast "hey guys, sorry for walking into your room the other night without knocking - won't do it again".... then nip off to school quicky..... it'll be easier than the discomfort you are all feeling now. By the time you get home, normality will have resumed

Pherekydes

JaneyMc wrote: »

That's a bit harsh...

Not at all. As a parent it drives me insane the way the kids barge in without knocking. And at 2 a.m.? Like WTF?

Creamy Goodness

Pherekydes wrote: »

Not at all. As a parent it drives me insane the way the kids barge in without knocking. And at 2 a.m.? Like WTF?

What JaneyMc is trying to say is that the OP may have completely forgot the time, or whatever reason.

The OP can't changed what's done, what happened happened, I doubt he/she wanted it to happen. What the OP is asking for is advice on how to go on from here, not how to prevent this from happening in the future.

To the OP, it depends what kind of relationship you have with your parents, if you feel comfortable talking to them about it I would, it would help I think. If you can't do that you'll probably just have to blank it out and try to act like you didn't go in to your parents room.

Wagon

Wouldn't worry about it and never mention it. We all make mistakes and none of us are infallable except for a few people here on PI apperently.

tbh

best thing you can do is just make a joke out of it and apologise. It's like ripping off a plaster.

Jammyc

dudara wrote: »

Are you in the habit of walking into your parents' bedroom at 2 a.m.? If that's the case, then I think, quite frankly, that you got what you deserved.

Have some respect for your parents's privacy and remember that they are adults.

To be fair, from reading the OP's post, I dont think thats in dispute. I mean think, if a parent walked in on their son ****, they wouldnt be given a lecture on respecting their sons privacy!

I think the OP just wanted some advice on how to chat with his parents, not bring it up as an issue with them.

Terodil

Just say you're sorry and learn to
a) read the time
b) knock before entering rooms
c) respect each other's privacy

Zen 2nd

I wouldn't really worry about it. The reason it feels awkward is because you feel its a big deal, it's not really though! So once you accept that its nothing to be embarrassed over you'll all be back to your normal selves.

Liam Byrne

It's perfectly natural, OP, and part it's the reason you're here.

Irish people are FAR too hung up on sex being a BIG issue.

Slightly embarrassing, "oh crap" moment, but nothing monumental and nothing to fall out or be awkward over.

Would say "C'mere - sorry about barging in the other night" and leave it at that. The barging in was the issue - not what they were doing in their own room.

Re the reverse scenario, the parents probably WOULD get a long-winded "PC" lecture about privacy, but since it's their house it'd be less of an issue....they should still knock, though.

CDfm

16 is a tough age and young adults dont usually think when they need things.

So a kid needs to talk at 2 in the morning.So do younger ones needing glasses of water or older ones worried about their leaving cert mocks.

Dont worry its your parents fault for not locking the door - you might make them a do not disturb sign and put it on the door Valentines Day !!!:)

Feign ignorance and the embarrasment will go away.

tbh

Jammyc wrote: »

I mean think, if a parent walked in on their son ****, they wouldnt be given a lecture on respecting their sons privacy!

they bloody would if I read the thread! how else are kids meant to learn, if not by example?

Das Kitty

Hi OP,

Yeah it's cringey and embarrassing but dare I suggest that some good could come out of this? Every young person eventually needs to start seeing their parents as human, and this will probably hasten that process.

In years to come you will feel very lucky to have had parents who 16 years after your birth were still together and still fancied one another, it's a very good example of what a relationship should be for you in that respect.

There are far worse things to witness and to be witnessed doing and in time you'll get that perspective.

And OP, knock in future!

00112984

I'm cringing for you, OP, I really am.

Not someting I've ever done myself as we always had very strict knocking rules in my house growing-up (worked both ways- noway would my dad ever just walk into my room without knocking and then waiting until he was invited in) but I can imagine the sheer embarrassment for all involved.

All you can do is try to put it out of your mind and carry on as normal. The fact that your parents are still sexually attracted to eachother really is a good thing as it's an important factor in a happy marriage.

Wagon

tbh wrote: »

they bloody would if I read the thread! how else are kids meant to learn, if not by example?

"Learn by example" applies in a lot of cases when it comes to raising children. But not this one. The chap is 16, you don't give him a "talking to" for making an obviously honest mistake. You could easily make that same mistake at 20. Just a lapse of thought.

CDfm

00112984 wrote: »

I'm cringing for you, OP, I really am.

Im not cringeing fot you at all OP - Im cringeing for them.

Dont worry a bit -its one of those challengeing times for a parent LOL.

JUst dont say at breakfast tomorrow -I will be a bit late home from school as I must discuss something with the school councellor:)

LegacyUser

the awkwardness is probably coming from you more than anything else OP, most embarrassing stuff can be just in your mind. just make a point of starting a conversation with them about something ordinary and everyday like school or a tv programme or how a relative is and after a couple of times evrything will seem grand again i'm sure.

most people have a crisis youth because of the damage parents splitting up causes them, just be glad yours are a close couple.

Maggie.23

I would say just act normal OP - don't avoid them now or tiptoe around the place - as soon as you all start acting normal with each other again things will feel normal again. All bad memories fade with time!

jessbeth

I would not say anything to them at all, just go on as normal and all will be forgotten in a little while. It's kind of normal to be a little grossed out to see your parents having sex but on the other hand it's great to be an environment where they still fancy and love each other. I would just pretend like it never happened. Remember they're only human too and are probably a bit embarrassed as well.

Toots

Luckily I've never walked in on my old pair at it, however I think out of my whole group of friends growing up, I think I was the only one who was spared!

My advice is act like it never happened.

Carry on as normal, try and forget about it. The more you all dwell on it, the longer the awkwardness will continue.

edit: and 'what have we learned?', always knock before entering your parents room, much the same as you would expect them to do for you.

LegacyUser

when i was about 10'ish i found a condom in my parents bedroom. showed my mother what i found and she said it's for daddy's finger - he hurt it!!! years later I realised what i found!