No sleep.

LegacyUser

This way not be a personal issue to some but it is something that has me at wits end. I'll try keep it short. I'm in final year of college. Sharing a house with 2 others. The walls are paper thin so can hear everything all around. My housemate takes the p!ss when it comes to this and is extremely loud. I've tried talking to her. I've tried getting angry. I've tried ignoring her. I've tried being reasonable. I've tried giving her a taste of her own medicine. Nothing works and I am at my wits end. It has gotten to the point where I am taking herbal sleeping tablets at night and wearing ear plugs but she still keeps me awake and I am only getting a couple of hours sleep a night. I'm going to bed at 3 am now instead of 11pm and getting up for college at 7am.

I'm a nice person and I always blame the fact that I get no sleep on me being a light sleeper, but I'm not. I'm unwakeable, but she takes it to a whole level. I've slept with houseparties going on outside. My boyfriend snores like a beast from Hell but he never wakes me. I think it's just because it's so constant, even during the day she's exceptionally loud. I just never get a break and am constantly tense knowing I won't sleep. The other night I had ear plugs in and my head under the blanket but I could still clearly hear her talking...at 2am. I'm the only one who shares a bedroom wall with her so it only effects me.

This personal issue is not about the girl, it's about how to get some sleep. I'm trying my best to ignore it but I'm failing. I don't take it out on her, I'm as civil as can be, but I am suffering from no sleep. Does anyone have any suggestions? Temporary sound proofing ideas? Suggestions for really good ear plugs? Fool proof ways to fall asleep with noise around you? Thanks in advance.

And again, in case people skipped parts; I just want suggestions on how to fall asleep in a noisy environment. I don't want suggestions on how to deal with my housemate as I have already posted on here about her and nothing worked!

BostonB

Move out?

Bottle_of_Smoke

nosleep2nite wrote: »

This personal issue is not about the girl, it's about how to get some sleep. I'm trying my best to ignore it but I'm failing. I don't take it out on her, I'm as civil as can be, but I am suffering from no sleep. Does anyone have any suggestions? Temporary sound proofing ideas? Suggestions for really good ear plugs? Fool proof ways to fall asleep with noise around you? Thanks in advance.

The most genuine answer to that I could give would be take some heroin. How is it *not* about the girl? I can't believe you're putting up with this. Its your final year. Do your best to move out or complain to your landlord. What if she causes you to get a pass degree instead of a 2.1? What will you think of herbal sleeping pills then?

If she's not going to change then no safe drug will get you to sleep at 11. You can't just block out sound, what if there's an emergency? Deal with your real problem

banquo

Xanex. Prescription but good. However, it doesn't give you a natural sleep or a real sense of having rested, but it will gently and firmly put you to sleep.

However, you should really consult a doctor, since this isn't a medical forum. Personally I'd just beat the living crap outta the girl.

pwd

I put up with ridiculous noise from housemates the whole way through college. I thought you couldn't move out if you signed a lease or something insane like that. I regret not moving out of those places still 7 years later, even though I did get a good degree. So yes you should really move out.

To answer your question:

wax earplugs are very good. You'll still hearthe noise if it's very loud but it will sound like it is further away so it won't disturb you as much. Foam earplugs are not nearly as good.

don't go to bed hungry.

valerian can help you sleep. It wouldn't be as effective as prescription drugs, but you get proper sleep with it and there are no side effects etc. I wouldn't take prescription medicine for this frivolously. Then again you say you are already using herbal tablets and the odds are they contain valerian themselves.

Don't drink caffeine later than the afternoon.

Get some sunlight during the day if you can.

Exercise can help too.

Whatever you do don't lie there thinking about how frustrated you are that you can't sleep. Ignore it and let it go if you can until the next day, since you say you get nowhere talking to her about it.

None of these are foolproof methods. The only foolproof ones are probably pretty destructive. If you spend enough nights trying to sleep in noisy environments you'll find it easier to sleep in them (not that I'm suggesting for a second you should.

speaktofrank

I disagree with you OP, the issue here is the girl. Tell her she is being selfish, its your final year and you can do without this hassle, you need all the rest you can get. I know you have said you have tried everything but you should have some rules in place. For example quiet after 12am, if she wants to talk I am sure she can do it in the kitchen.
Other than that I don't think you should be resorting to herbal or prescription medicines.

Zaph

banquo wrote: »

Xanex. Prescription but good. However, it doesn't give you a natural sleep or a real sense of having rested, but it will gently and firmly put you to sleep.

However, you should really consult a doctor, since this isn't a medical forum. Personally I'd just beat the living crap outta the girl.

Banned for 1 week. I suggest you read the first post of the charter carefully when you come back, especially the bit about advocating violence.

Dudess

OP, similar thread below (although it might actually be you).
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055409706

nosleep2nite wrote: »

My boyfriend snores like a beast from Hell but he never wakes me.

Wish I could say the same...
Seriously sucks being a light sleeper (as I am). And I think something like this could cause a person to become one. I know what you mean about feeling tense due to lack of sleep - the actual anticipation of being kept awake...keeps you awake.
As someone else suggested, wax/silicon earplugs are good - I use them when himself is there. Just push your hair back when removing them! But you don't want to sleep through your alarm, which is a risk if you've earplugs in.

Poutbutton

Why dont you move out?
If you're under a contract you may still be able to negotiate your leaving considering you cant get any sleep! No one should put up with that. Why dont you sit down with her tell her the truth? You seem to be letting her believe she is'nt doing anything wrong. Why? Be serious & tell her this is a very important stage for you over the next few months & is there any way she would be a little more considerate Monday to Thursday nights. Could you swap bedrooms with another housemate? You need a house meeting so everyone can hear the issues you have and ask if they are prepared to solve it, if they have'nt got the respect to at least try to be civil human beings then you have to leave. Good Luck.

blamed_

OP you say you have slept through parties and your boyfriends snoring withou waking up and that this girl is chatting constantly. Could she be doing it on purpose? Maybe she is annoyed about something and is very passive aggressive? Or maybe she wants you to move out so that a friend can move into your room?

LegacyUser

Ask the other person (who doesn't share a wall with the loud girl) if you can change rooms for a few nights. If they find her too noisy as well, then you have two of you against her. If they're OK with the noise, then see if you can keep that sleeping arrangement.

MagicMarker

How can you sleep with someone snoring next to you but not if someone is talking in the next room?

Oh, and move out.

MJOR

move out i'd say is the only solution because it's distrubing you big time and it seems to be like taking over your life