Pissed off

LegacyUser

Here's the story,
I'm living with this guy at college and I'm totally pissed off with him.
Last night, while I was out, he had friends over for drinking.
Anyway, apparently he left them alone for about an hour.
When I got back, all my food was destroyed; laced with salt of gone. They even blew up an egg in my microwave.
I'm so angry, I would never allow this to happen to him.
And then to top it all I had the clean the whole place up after his damn party.
I'm so sick of him, I'm always washing up after him and everything and he just seems to ignore it.
When I confronted him with what happened, he just shrugged it off.

Am I right to be angry? I'm feeling so horrible now.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Absolutely you are. No one would tolerate this kind of behaveiour. Was he even apologietic? Is he going to replace the food?

Has he ever lived with other people before is this his first trip beyond Mum and Dad's? He needs to be told now that this behaveiour is unacceptable and what action he needs to take. That or someone else will, and they may not be as patient as you.

MagicMarker

Why oh why did you clean up after HIM!?!?! Why didn't you tell him to clean it up?

Seriously, don't bitch about it on the internet, bitch about it to him, and I don't mean just walking away when he shrugs it off.

Caryatnid

Do you live with anyone else or is it just the two of you?
Who owns the lease?
Is there any way you can kick him out/give him a final warning?
Have you talked to him about it?

Btw, what's this:

Angry wrote: »

laced with salt of gone.

LegacyUser

in col in waterford myself and livin with a guy who does the exact same thing we had strangers his friends living with us for about two weeks, threw mad parties and never cleaned up. they also come down every wednes night and just abuse the house,, make him feel very uncomfortable, when his friends come over i say hey man you paying any rent or anything towards the elec bill.
they say no so i say you may go to the gym down the road and pay 5.50 for a shower. if he confronts just go ok, let it happen then, hide his tooth brush,
if they are all in the living room all shouting and roaring while you are trying to unwind turn the tv up so they cant hear themseleves shout when they ask you to turn it down say cant you go some where else if the say no.. hide all the toilet paper. blame all missing items on his drunk friends.
if he steals your food ask him to replace it all if not, take temporary ownership of his favourite computer game. until items replaced. if he replaces the food im sure the computer game will reappear.
when he asks about all this always be cheerful and say ' g i dunno maybe your mates took them'
im 26 but i do remember how younger guys think and you got to treat him like that dog whisper guy treats bold dogs on discovery. like a mis behaving cocker spaniel..
take fun in the little victories im sure the older women here will have know what i mean.

dont be afraid of him

Zaph

Caryatnid wrote: »

Btw, what's this:

I suspect that should have read laced with salt or gone.

Happy Monday

Angry wrote: »

Am I right to be angry? I'm feeling so horrible now.

Best thing is to always lay down the ground rules at the start.
As in mate, if you have people over be responsible and show a little respect and clean up after yourself and don't break anything.
If not then it's the highway!

Of course too late now but tell him to grow up and act like an adult!

Or better still call the cops from a pay phone to say there's an ecstacy wholesalers meeting on at that address during the next party and your tenant is Mr. Big.

Then you will have just cause in slinging his ass out!

Zaph

Happy Monday wrote: »

Best thing is to always lay down the ground rules at the start.
As in mate, if you have people over be responsible and show a little respect and clean up after yourself and don't break anything.
If not then it's the highway!

Of course too late now but tell him to grow up and act like an adult!

Or better still call the cops from a pay phone to say there's an ecstacy wholesalers meeting on at that address during the next party and your tenant is Mr. Big.

Then you will have just cause in slinging his ass out!

Happy Monday, you started off well, but then you just had to go down the road of idiocy with the ecstasy thing, didn't you? Helpful posts only in future please, or the banstick may get dusted off.