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Partner V's Best Friend

  • 30-01-2009 4:07pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Just throwing this out there to get opinions

    Most couples I know would rate their partner as their best friend. But where is the line between lover and best friend? Is it all about sex?


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  • #2
    Nevyn
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    No while they are two very intimate relastionships they are two different types of intimate relationship.


  • #3
    00112984
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    My other half just happens to be my best friend. He's not my best friend because we get along and happen to have sex, he's my best friend because I'd trust him with my life, can talk to him about anything and am absolutely fascinated by him.

    If something happened tomorrow that meant we could never have sex again, he'd still be my best friend.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Well, to tell you the truth, in a couple relationship, its more about agreement on sex, the frequency, style etc

    If both parties agree to no sex in a supposed couple relationship, thats up to them, but if one makes the decision on behalf of both parties, thats when trouble starts!


  • #5
    LegacyUser
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    Its not just about sex. All good relationships go through dry spells it doesnt mean that those two people are just friend. Its about trust, honesty, loyalty and above all love.


  • #6
    Wibbs
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    Now people dress it up in romance and fate and love etc and they're all valid layers of abstraction, but I'd have to say it is all about the sex. Now it may be temporarily off the agenda for whatever reason, but you won't look for it elsewhere and it is assumed to be back on the menu at some point. The fact is we all get into romantic relationships for the sex, or at least the whole reproductive bit. You're making the decision subconsciously or not to make little copies of yourself with this person, or that option is there. If there's no sex it's a friendship. If there is sex it's a romantic relationship. Now of course you can have the FWB thing where it's just about the sex, but we all know how successful they are long term. Yes you can be their best mate and it's better if you are, but you can also be good friends and have the sexual side and still be a great relationship. Balance is everything.

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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the replies :-)


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